I do love my bf, but i don think i trust him..ok..maybe i put my trust
at least 60%. He claimed that he loves me much much more than i do. hey...i'm a cautios lady okay...i've experienced deep frustration before this relationship. what should i do? this is me..then..
2006-09-22 06:04:48 · 16 answers · asked by ★ yaya ★ 7 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
we've been together for 10 months.
before we're started out, we've both were dumped by our partner! too bad!!
hahahaa!!!
2006-09-22 06:09:59 · update #1
Your comments and advices are highly appreciated!!!!
2006-09-22 06:12:13 · update #2
I marry my wife after 6 month of dating her. You know what I say to her about marriage?
I said "In this country marriage mean ****. the only way marriage mean any thing is TRUST." When I marry my wife I made a promise to MY-SELF, not to her, not to god or what have you. It only matter to my self. If I betrayed the trust then I fail MY-SELF. I trust she did the same thing.
Do you think he can make a promise and keep it for YOUR own benefit? In military it's call HONOR and in life it's call marriage.
If not then he is just a sperm donor or a sex mate but don't call it friend let along a boy friend. and there is nothing wrong with a relationship for sex just don't read into it. If your youth just keep dating and meet new people. Don't keep depending on one guy as a support. your stronger than that.
2006-09-22 06:20:23 · answer #1 · answered by Kenshin 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's ok. You will either trust in time or go a different way. Don't worry about it too much.
If you've been frustrated with the relationship then maybe you should expand your possiblities to include the rest of the world...that is, find someone else.
There are over 6 billion people in the world. Most people would be able to have a great relationship with at least 1 in a thousand. That means at least 6 million people out there are better for you... ;-)
2006-09-22 13:13:08 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Love doesn't have to come with trust, but a relationship does. Yes, its hard to trust someone again after you have been hurt. But you have to realize that he is not (I hope) someone that has hurt you. You have to trust him, till he breaks his trust. You have to understand that he is a different person and give him a chance. The relationship won't work if you don't have trust even if you love him. Give him a chance, I know it's hard, i've been where you have, and it's hurt a relationship that there was nothing wrong, but I brought out the past in a guy that wasn't doing anything.
2006-09-22 13:08:32 · answer #3 · answered by ConfusedK 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well,there is nothing such a 50 or 60% trust,if it exists it does if you have a slightest of doubt then theres no trust and trust is the foundation of every relationship,if theres no trust theres no relationship....
now you are holding this guy responsible for your first break up,just because your earlier b/f ditched you,and broke your heart and trust you have the same fear that this one might do the same,but how fair is this on this guys part?if you love him put your 100%into it and let him give you his best,instead of doubting him,try putting your trust into him and stop being cautious,theres no such thing in true love,you decide,either you love him or you doubt him and if you don't trust him i.e you doubt him just part ways,cos then theres no point being with someone you don't trust and rely on!!good luck!!
2006-09-22 13:19:01 · answer #4 · answered by country_girl 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First of all you can't compare your relatioship to what happend to you in previous one.. its ok to be cautios but don't push him...be more open with him... and he will too.. if he did something to lose some of that trust then its a different story, but if he didn't then there is not reason why you cannot trust him.
2006-09-22 13:07:31 · answer #5 · answered by 1 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to him about it, Let him know how you feel, and that he's is trusted, but you are scared of getting hurt again. Maybe he will do more to put your mind at ease. Trust is a hard thing to give these days. but some times it's worth it.
2006-09-22 13:12:36 · answer #6 · answered by Kat 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
realize that the past is just that....the past. if hes given no reason not to trust.. then trust,,.you can be causious but dont be stand off ish. its a new & different relationship now, so enjoy it ,dont look back look ahead.....at the wonderful possibilites that do wait for the two of you. stop looking back girl,,.you gotta just go for it & work at it to make it work..stop the i love you more stuff & just have fun being in love.
2006-09-22 13:20:02 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
no trust no relationship. How can u be with someone u don't trust let alone love him. Has he done anything to make u not trust him, if not then its up to u love him and trust him or don't trust him and leave.
2006-09-22 13:10:13 · answer #8 · answered by bambii_27 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What reason do you have not to trust him. Has he cheated?? If not then you are going to push him away being so unsure of him. You can not base this relationship on past relationships. Give him a chance unless he has given you a reason not to!!!!
2006-09-22 13:07:46 · answer #9 · answered by housewives5 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
what do you mean what should you do? why do you need to do something? yes trust should go along with love. you trust him 60% so let your trust grow with your relationship and with your love for each other. there is nothing to do.
2006-09-22 13:07:27 · answer #10 · answered by The Weed Fairy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋