about a month ago my boyfriend of 3years suddenly told me he is gay. we live in the same house but in seperate rooms untill he finds somewhere else to live. of course i was devastated at first as i do love him, but do you think i should start dating again. i have had some interest from some internet dating sites but dont know if it is too soon. would i just be on the rebound?
2006-09-22 05:48:25 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
i knew there was something wrong but wasnt sure what, he was in denial and still is he doesnt want to be gay he has told me but he has to be
2006-09-22 06:06:19 · update #1
I generally think that a month for every year you have been together sounds about right for getting over a relationship, of course everyone's different but I think it's a good rule to stand by.
2006-09-22 05:54:11 · answer #1 · answered by Emma 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh I think you should wait and wait and wait and wait and wait and wait till he come back to you and say he loves you and he is not gay...........but I don't think you really believe that. If you do then you wouldn't be asking this question.
The relationship is over no matter what his reason are.
DON'T SEE HIM, DON'T HEAR FROM HIM, DON'T DO ANYTHING THAT REMIND YOU OF HIM. OH just get away from this guy.
Just go out meet someone and then another and then another and get some skill of meeting people again and by that time you will know what kind of person you are looking for. and Oh by the way I meet and marry my wife after 6 month. 3 Years COME ON are you kidding me? If you found the right person you should bring him to meet you parents and friend and meet his friends and parents and then ask your self the real big question: DO I TRUST HIM?
Good Luck
2006-09-22 13:04:15 · answer #2 · answered by Kenshin 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
3 years is a long time but you're already free as a bird. You don't need to wait for anything else before you date again AS LONG as you feel you are REALLY ready to get back to the dating arena. Otherwise, like you said, you will just be on the rebound. Sometimes, seeing other people helps you totally move on. So while you can date as many as you can, you don't try to commit or see anybody exclusively until you know he's for keeps.
goodluck! =)
2006-09-22 12:55:34 · answer #3 · answered by kamahalan_12 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sure! There's nothing wrong with going out and having some fun, just keep it light. You are on the rebound, and you are going to be for quite awhile (that's natural). But still, that's no reason to put your life on hold.
2006-09-22 12:54:17 · answer #4 · answered by patrick 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should wait 3 to 5 years.
2006-09-22 12:50:19 · answer #5 · answered by Cary Grant 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do what you feel is right. But I also think he needs to leave first and if you do love him as you said.. it may be hard to get over this for a while. Don't make the same mistake and break more hearts over this drama. Take your time and choose wisely.
2006-09-22 13:02:06 · answer #6 · answered by ladonnaschild 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you think you can give your love to some one else them yes you might be ready.
Rule for most is 6 months from the date you break up is when you could start dating again.
Good luck !
2006-09-22 12:52:21 · answer #7 · answered by Ryce Queen 13 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take as much time as you need. There's no need to rush into anything. You need time to adjust the fact that your ex is gay. But it's not your fault. Just hang out with friends and do whatever you feel like doing that would make you happy.
2006-09-22 12:51:25 · answer #8 · answered by ? 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Give yourself time to get over your boyfriend and yes start dating again. Also if I were you I would make an appointment to get tested for any STDs just to be on the safe side.
2006-09-22 13:08:51 · answer #9 · answered by tantalizin1 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wait until he moves out of the house. It's just out of respect for the people you will begin to dat. Would you want to date a guy who has his ex who is a newly found lesbian living with him?
2006-09-22 12:51:03 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋