I had a discussion with my boyfriend about bachelor parties. He said that most guys have sex with strippers at their bachelor parties. Is this true do most strippers have sex if the price is right? Also he said... That he wouldn't go looking for it but if a stripper did proposition him on that night he would go for it. & that he cant predict what would happen and it depends on who plans the party for him!
I am serious about this guy we been together a very long time and I can see us getting engaged in the near future. Hes never cheated and I do trust that. Plus he hasn't been with as many girls as most guys have by the time they get married(we met young). But I can't be ok with it it bothers me. Strippers are dirty.Why do women have such different view on sex? How do I approach this when the time comes? Guys any suggestions?
2006-09-22 05:47:59 · 31 answers · asked by Thats Crazy! 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
if we have enough money
2006-09-22 05:49:15 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Come on! If he believes that, something is definitely amiss! I believe it is by age 7 that we know the difference between right and wrong...if he doesn't think there's something wrong with having sex with a stripper on his bachelor party night or any other night for that matter, he's got some issues. Regardless if he's never cheated before, this would raise a red flag to me. These parties should be fun, but it should be done in a way that's respectful to your wife/husband-to-be.
Personally, I don't think you should hesitate to let him know how much it bothers you that he would even consider having sex if he was propositioned. Even though you say you trust him, it's obvious that you are bothered and nervous that he might actually do it. So, that's not trust and you need to let him know.
2006-09-22 05:55:40 · answer #2 · answered by smarty25 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No all guys do not have sex with strippers at bachelor parties and I don't think that all strippers that go to bachelor parties will have sex with the guy for any price. I am sure it does happen but it sounds like your boyfriend is developing a rationale about why it would be okay for him to have sex at a bachelor party. Sounds like the old add age that guys will die if they don't have sex. If things do progress further for the two of you and you are uncomfortable with the possibility tell him so and discuss before things get out of hand.
2006-09-22 05:54:16 · answer #3 · answered by David P 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Yeah this is a horrible situation. Your man telling you strippers will lay down for you at a bachelor party, then saying he would be willing to do something like that if he was propositioned? That's crazy, disrespectful and insanely wrong of him. I would seriously re-evaluate the relationship at this point.
And yes, I have also heard this to be true. Strippers are sleazy, why else would they attend any party?
2006-09-22 06:07:10 · answer #4 · answered by ladonnaschild 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
First-
Strippers (or dancers) and prostitutes are two different things. A lot of these girls (perhaps most ) are not "dirty" and strip as it can be a well paying job.
Now if your husband to be has sex--thats cheating--a woman does not give permission for a man to cheat- (my wife or gf's when single didn't) or some woman consider the party the guys last night out and let him-------just ask him if minds you having sex with a male stripper----i bet he does-----
how do you stop it? If he had respect for you, know how you feel about it, why would he? If he does, it shows no respect at all------ Dump him-
2006-09-22 05:55:31 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
to begin with, most strippers are not prostitutes and do not have sex for cash. often a prostitute is hired and not a stripper, but this is usually for a gift from the groom to be and not for others at the party.
if your boyfriend is telling you this he is either very inexperienced or immature or both. he could just be trying to see how far you can be pushed, how much could he get away with. most likely however he is trying to impress you with he worldly ways.
tell him that if this is the way he feels even after you have told him that you are not okay with this and it bothers you and see what his reaction is. sex should be between people who love each other. if he wants sex with a stranger he may not be the man you thought he was.
2006-09-24 22:09:34 · answer #6 · answered by Vivian Vixen 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Your boyfriend made a hasty generalization so you cannot take his statement seriously. There is no way he has enough data to state such a "fact". He is merely going off of a few instances, which does not support his claim. So, don't worry. And your comment "Strippers are dirty" is also a hasty generalization. And you can't say "All of X is Y" in this instance as there is definitely a stripper who is not dirty.
2006-09-22 05:57:08 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Im affraid its true. I have a number of stripper friends, males included and a good mojority of them have told me that some of there co-workers have had sex at bachelor parties. Some of them will do the oral thing only. I dont like the whole bachelor party idea and wouldnt want my husband to be to have one. I would much rather have a party for the two of us with family and friends (small) you need to really consider this relationship because it sounds like he will cheat. Because your getting married doesnt mean you need to have a last romp, it means your not ready to commit.
2006-09-22 05:54:03 · answer #8 · answered by arreis 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
unless you're agreeing to an open relationship, this is really not cool. "he can't predict what would happen" if someone propositioned him for sex? how about keep it in your pants, dude! if you're in a relationship, you're in a relationship. have some effing respect for the other person!
i'm guessing you two are young, because this sounds like something i might have said back when i was 19ish. stating that he'd cheat if the offer was in front of him does not give him permission to do that. what makes you think that he doesn't have this attitude for other scenarios, too? he's out at a friends house drinking and some girls come over... alchoholic debauchery ensues... is this acceptible? if he doesn't change his view, drop him. unless you're willing to accept this, that is.
2006-09-22 06:03:03 · answer #9 · answered by ? 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
-I know someone who used to be a stripper. She was a friend of a friend of a friend (you get the point). I've heard, that yes, female strippers almost always sleep with the groom-to-be at these parties. I've heard about 90-95% of the time. The other men generally pay the stripper for this to be done.
PS -- marry someone else... he's a pig.
Also, tell him that if he goes to this bachelor party that you demend a full VD & HIV test when he comes back. No honeymoon, nothing. You aren't touching him for 6 months until the tests come back.
2006-09-22 05:49:52 · answer #10 · answered by IMHO 6 · 6⤊ 2⤋
Most men act like dogs sweety, but even dogs can be trained. My answer is that many would, but a few would not. The ones that would not need maturity, self-control, self-respect, and responsibility. Plus when a mature man is really in love with a woman, he may look but he would feel guilty about hurting her. Wait till a man is about 35 to see what direction he goes in. As you are young, you have plenty of time so play the field yourself!
2006-09-22 05:55:41 · answer #11 · answered by goddess11 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋