a freind of mine told me that the reason why we do not converse with each other really well is because i need god
he said that no body is ment for me ( as in a significant other ) and that god is the only one that can be there for me
i am not sure i understand .. can you explain this to me ? why would he say that?
i am not sure i agree - he said that god is the only one that will be there for me? so freinds or loved ones are not worth it?
( this guy is in his 40s and been single all his life and i wonder if this is not why )
please tell me what you think - thanks!
2006-09-22 05:46:35 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
i just extended the expiration in case there is any one that would like to add their opinion or comment on something someone else said
thanks!
2006-09-23 01:47:00 · update #1
Although we (as Christians) rely on the living God for everything. He is also first in our lives (above all others). That doesn't mean leave others out of our lives.
God created us for relationship. With Him first...and then others.
With that said, I do agree that you need Jesus in you life, however, that is not a reason to break your friendship. That's an opinion (every one needs Jesus). I wouldn't force my opinion on you. We as Christians can model the Christian walk for others. It's not just by words but by our actions, people learn from us.
I disagree with him that there is "no-one" out there for you. There are many people to whom you may find the "right one," for yourself. God will blessed that marriage (even non-believers) as well. Marriage is Holy to God, therefore He blesses it.
God is there for you, yes...but so are like minded friends and family.
I think your friend is a little confused. Perhaps giving him some space will be a good thing?
Take care of yourself!
2006-09-22 05:48:50 · answer #1 · answered by Salvation is a gift, Eph 2:8-9 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
He is somewhat right, God is the only one there for u, but what it really means that no matter what happens u may not be able to count on anyone for whatever reason but u can always count on God to help u with what ever u need, (he might not know how to explain it to u). But don't get the wrong impression God should be the first one to be trusted with anything but family and friends are very important too. Ohh and about staying single, noooo, Hun he might be single because that's just the way he might like it or (maybe is that he hasn't been able to find that particular one). But what ever he tells u don't let it get to u it sounds like this guy don't know how to express himself too good. Take care and hope
Ohh Wait : and if he knew better he knew that u don't have to keep from conversing with him just because "u need god" He needs to learn that god created all of us equal and that he don't deprive anyone from speaking to anyone just because "u need god" God don't force anyone, so u take ur time and don't pay no mind to this guy, Take Care, and
2006-09-22 13:03:31 · answer #2 · answered by chinaz777 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
hes a Bible thumping Fundie. This is also a Christian Belief. There are many that do not feel this way. Yes does spirituality give you peace? yes. But your Family is whats there day in and day out, To hug you, Wipe your tears, Make you laugh till it hurts, and pick you up when you fall. Your family, IMO you family should be first in your life. and Your "God" a and as a very important aspect of your life. You cannot compare The spiritual realm and the human realm like that IMHO. And do WHAT YOU FEEL is right. no one else. Your the only one that can walk in your shoes.
2006-09-22 13:05:09 · answer #3 · answered by Belladonna 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
God has called each and every one of us to a vocation (that's, vocation in the context of faith). Some are called to the priesthood, others to religious life, some to single life. But, the vast majority of us are called to the vocation of marriage. Your friend has some truth in that without God, you will not fully experience a significant other.
But, if you do indeed find another to become one with, be sure the two of you put God between you so that the 3 of you may become one; as the Father, Son and Holy Spirit are one!
PS ... you may want to mention to him that if he is not seeking to become married, that he may want to enter into a consecrated single life as is a holy order or through Opus Dei.
God Bless!
2006-09-22 12:55:21 · answer #4 · answered by ManOfPhysics 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like he'd just finished listening to some very twisted false doctrine. He may have meant that it is spiritually idea to be "married to Jesus" and complete in yourself before expecting someone else to to that for you. God is the only one who will never (can never) leave or forsake you, stop loving you and let you down, but there are many humans that will come really really close. Take his words with a grain of salt, as you have and also realize he was speaking to HIS reality, not yours.
2006-09-22 12:54:06 · answer #5 · answered by Sleek 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is a Christian belief that God is the only one that you can always count on to be there, but it doesn't mean that friends or a significant other are not "worth it". Rather, what it means is that God is the only one you know can never leave you. This is because humans are sinful and falliable and may leave you or let you down. It also means that someone can die on you, whereas God is eternal.
If this man is choosing to be single because of this, he is misinterperating the concept.
2006-09-22 12:51:29 · answer #6 · answered by purplekitten1979 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I'm inclined to agree with the first responder. He sounds unstable.
No one - I repeat NO ONE - can tell you what God wants for your life. A few highly spiritual folks can help you discern. But he certainly does not sound like one of them.
Yes, some people are called to live the single life. But not all. Only years of discernment can tell you if this is your calling.
Not some nut who is pushing his anti-family agenda.
2006-09-22 12:56:30 · answer #7 · answered by Max Marie, OFS 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
sounds to me as though you just haven't found the right person yet. just keep looking and sooner or later you will find someone. yes, everyone needs some sort of HIGHER POWER to help guide and direct our lives but to condemn others for a different way of life seems unreasonable. but to make a life commitment as a mate there should be some sort of mutual belief system if the relationship is to continue.
2006-09-22 12:52:30 · answer #8 · answered by Marvin R 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well maybe he's a very bitter man who's had loads of disappointments in his life and who refuses to take a good look at himself to see what he might do different in order to change his life for the better. I think it's really nice to have a significant other and I love my friends.
2006-09-22 12:50:07 · answer #9 · answered by chocolatebunny 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
God has created us to worship him and part of this worshipping ritual is to have beloved ones, families, friends and most of all spouses. i think he is saying that to just justify him being single with no one there for him, i guess this is really why... yes God is the one that is going to be there for you all the time but He has never ordered you to be alone... he ordered you make earth full of human race who should eventually believe in Him by getting married and having kids and families...
2006-09-22 13:00:05 · answer #10 · answered by messy_missy 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋