We are together for a year and a half and this month we started to live together.
The flat is empty so we have to buy or get everything. My boyfriend is very buzy, he works, he plays basket and futbool he has a special training of another activity. Beside that he also studies languages sooo, he has very little time to be with me, but before we used every free minute to be together. Now with the flat he spends these free minutes only with a flat, no time for us. no relax. Before I had a boyfriend and now I only have flat. And what's even worst is that he became very nervous ' cause he has a million things to do and doesn't know what to do first....how can I change this situation and get my boyfriend back?
P.S . I really appreciate what he does for the flat, I only want to spend feww minutes alone, thinking about nothing, relax. - and I told him exactly this!!! he didn't react
2006-09-22 05:41:51 · 8 answers · asked by Monika H 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
maybe he assumes since he's seeing you more often with the new setup, he can go back to his normal activities without having to sacrifice anything but his time for you.
sometimes, actions really do speak louder than words. so instead of just saying all these to him as if you're complaining, say it in a more creative way.
what you can probably do is while he's out, put as much scented candles in the flat, petals of roses from the door to the bedroom, cook his favorite meal for dinner, and the like. make the place really romantic just to change the aura. maybe in that way, he'll get the idea.
goodluck! =)
2006-09-22 05:50:16 · answer #1 · answered by kamahalan_12 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, you did the right thing about tellin him how you feel. It is different being a bf'gf to living with each other. Maybe he's not use to it and it's scaring him. You both need to sit down and talk about the situation. He should respect what you have to say and respond to it. Try it again and see what happens.
2006-09-22 05:46:42 · answer #2 · answered by ConfusedK 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The truth about it is things change when you start living together. They seem to get used to you and it's not as exciting anymore. If you are going to continue living with him under these circumstances, I suggest that you find something to occupy your time.
2006-09-22 05:49:19 · answer #3 · answered by DaddysGirl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
get some hobbies and activities of your own. don't keep sitting around waiting on him to decide he wants to spend time with you, make him wonder where you are and what you're doing! then he'll be begging for you to spend time with him!
2006-09-22 05:49:48 · answer #4 · answered by *KiM* 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like he is very self-absorbed, narcissistic..
what does this all do for you
nada
satisfy your needs lady!!!
sounds like he needs to hire a "guy friday"!!!
2006-09-22 05:46:18 · answer #5 · answered by carolthec4 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like he is too busi for you. he should make time in his life for you if he truely loves you.
2006-09-22 05:46:57 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
im free this weekend jk
2006-09-22 05:49:05 · answer #7 · answered by jlnunez06 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Leave him. He obviously Doesn't give a **** about you.
2006-09-22 05:47:20 · answer #8 · answered by ♥Perfectly.Flawed♥ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋