What fings would i have to do now if i want this to be possible i will go to college but want to make money as well will it be possible to live in a place by then, with my future wife not earning much too.
2006-09-22 05:26:49 · 14 answers · asked by lewis jones 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
Do not even think about marriage untill you finish school.
2006-09-22 05:30:26 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you come from wealth, then yes.
But here is my advice coming from a town where I have a lot of my friends under the age of 20 who got married. Go to school (college) for one year. Encourage your girlfriend to do the same. Even if she goes to a community college to get an associates degree, she will earn a lot more and your marriage will be more likely to survive. If your relationship lasts through those trials that come when you grow so much in your first year and you still want to get married, get engaged (officially) that summer, or whenever it feels right if you need longer. Then, if you can save enough to get married, do so the following summer. Continue to work and go to school and get good grades.
You can most likely afford to live in a small apartment near school; just do not get your wife pregnant until you finish school. When you graduate and get a job continue to live in the apartment for at least 2 years to save up money, then find a house and enjoy your life. Live simply and work long hours to save a lot of money so you can get the house and your wife can work part time or stay at home when you have kids.
Good Luck!
2006-09-22 05:38:00 · answer #2 · answered by emp04 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The only way you'd be able to marry at 18 and be financially secure is if you married someone rich. For the rest of us pour souls, it's either a college education or working VERY hard to make ends meet. Most married couples these days have both husband and wife working, regardless of whether they went to college or not, and most are living paycheck to paycheck. Given the scenario you laid out, the best you could hope for is living in a small apartment or a trailer with your wife, and the two of you would constantly fight over money since you would barely make enough to survive...
2006-09-22 05:37:37 · answer #3 · answered by sarge927 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hello Adam,I see that you find yourself in a situation most men do,and one of the easiest thing that could perhaps confront you is the Flory of marriage advisers who may want to pin you to what they think is the best for you.However,in your present situation you know best what you want.And the best decision can only come from within.
At 18 most people contemplate on carrier and education with the hope of a better tomorrow,of course there is nothing wrong in marrying,now take a look a what the Bible says as one of the reason God made Eve in genesis chapter 2.God entrusted so much work to Adam,and God thought that it is necessary to get Adam a helper.In fact the right woman can take you to heights you never dreamt of.Nevertheless,love,parent pressure,peer group..etc is not enough to drive anyone to marry let alone an 18 year unless deep down in you you had a feeling that such union could lead you to accomplish the dream of your life.
In all that you may wish to do be realistic about where you are standing and where you want to go in life.Good luck.
2006-09-22 06:13:22 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
And you Brits say that we Americans butcher the language!
It's THings, you bloody dolt! Starts with a TH, not an F!
What you need to do is finish school, including university, and have a good, steady job before you even consider bringing another person into your economical equation. It's not fair to you or to your future wife to limit yourselves like this. Give yourselves a fair chance by doing it in the right order.
2006-09-22 07:15:32 · answer #5 · answered by abfabmom1 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Problems are caused. They don't just happen. At 18, you, a male, talking of marriage and making MONEY? You are certainly not serious.
One would expect a serious minded and well brought up boy of 18 to talk about education, learning from your father with a view to taking over his business in future or establishing yours.
Be it as it may, I pray, you are not going to be a bank robber.
2006-09-25 23:55:20 · answer #6 · answered by Michael A 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you're my son, then first I'd advise you to talk to your mum about how you would like to change the home so that you can stay but be independent. 18 is too young to set up home with a wife. Adam I really hope this isn't you son.
2006-09-22 06:28:33 · answer #7 · answered by yvonne c 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are not in a place to get married. If you two really love each other and want to get married then you will wait for each other. You both need to finish school and get into the adult world (out of mommy and daddy's house) before you get married. This is very immature!!!
2006-09-22 05:34:05 · answer #8 · answered by ????? 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's possible, but honestly, it's stupid.
If you want to get married you should be living on your own. And whose to say that your parents will let you stay if you are married.
Wait until you are done with college and can support yourself. Then concider marriage.
2006-09-22 05:34:40 · answer #9 · answered by Laura 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is never really a good idea for a newly wed couple to be living with parents
2006-09-22 06:13:12 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
life is hard so no one is ever finacially ready to get married so wait until after college and have stable job if she loves you she will underdtand wanting to wait alittle longer dont try to do things to fast good luck
2006-09-22 05:31:16 · answer #11 · answered by Waynes Angel 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋