Well my boyfriend of almost 3 years has been gone for 2 months and wont be back for 4 more (his choice) and we speak a few times a week but when we talk he shows no emotion and talks to me like I'm his buddy and not his gf. When we are together we are a great couple but its impossible for him to show emotion on email or over the phone. Now there is another guy who really likes me and express that to me. Not just "Hey baby your hot" or anything but tells me how beautiful I am and how he could picture us together forever and so on (smooth talker). Im starting to really like this guy and because my boyfriend is so far away and there is no physical or emotion I get really lonley. I know my boyfriend loves me and I should support him but I think something might happen with the other guy. What should I do? If I stay away from the other guy I will be so depressed. Also I should mention I am in a new town and he is my only friend here because I haven't met to meny ppl here.
2006-09-22 05:07:50 · 31 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
If you care about your boy friend, and love him.. You wont cheat on him. That would be pretty ****** up,
But if you think That your relationship with him isnt working... and you really like this new guy... Maybe you should breakup with your current BF.
Really give it some though.. .I think your craving that Emotional comfort, and physical touch.. So you think its the best thing right now..
B ut if your BF was right there with you? Would you be thinking twice about leaving him for that guy?? or cheating?
ask your self.. who is better.. For you.. What personal traits they each have that benefit you more.. Who would you be happier with.??
Dont do something youll regret
2006-09-22 05:19:32 · answer #1 · answered by ♥Perfectly.Flawed♥ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should never put yourself in a tempting situation. If you avoid these you will be fine. Don't let yourself be alone with him in private because you know what will happen then.
Honestly, you are already cheating because you are giving this guy your intimate feelings that belong to your boyfriend. How would you feel if your man was doing something like this to you?
Tell your boyfriend exactly what is going on: what you are feeling and what the other guy is offering that you need. If he is a good boyfriend he will want to do everything in his power to make you happy.
Cheating is never the answer. If you are going to do something with this new guy make sure you break up with your boyfriend. It is the least you can do for him.
Being in a new town is hard. I suggest trying to keep busy. Go to the gym or church; you will always meet new people in those places.
2006-09-22 05:13:25 · answer #2 · answered by newfound strength 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just talk to your boyfriend and tell him how you feel . No one should be cheated on for no reason. Just talk to your bf , but dont tell him about the other guy. It will just get him upset. But if your bf is far away from you . Just take some time and find out who you really want to be with before you do anything . I hope everything works out for you.
2006-09-22 05:13:41 · answer #3 · answered by kitty 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get out there and meet new people but whatever you do DO NOT CHEAT!!! Cheating is the worst thing that you can do to someone that you love and that loves you. If something is going to happen between you and this other guy then you need to break up with your boyfriend. Don't cheat on him... it will probably break is heart and that just isn't right...
2006-09-22 05:15:03 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey in case you have already got information he's cheating ("So i think of my bf is cheating doing the web element I do have information, yet he hides his "cookies" temp information which could hint what you're doing on line.. ") why might you want to proceed torturing your self finding for added information? in simple terms kick him to the decrease noone merits to be cheated on. i understand its much less complicated mentioned than achieved because of the fact i'm constructive you adore him, yet love your self greater. No guy is ever well worth your tears.
2016-10-15 07:24:27 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you're not a strong enough person to avoid temptation even if it means cheating on the man you love, you don't deserve your boyfriend in the first place. Either act like an adult and wait for your man, or act like an immature child and cheat and then pay the consequences. Your choice.
2006-09-22 05:12:36 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
the other nine people do not expierence in this area while I do so please listen to me. my recommendation to you is to continue to be with your boyfriend because soon he is coming back and, although he shows "no emotions" towards to you it does not mention that there isnt any more love.
if your boyfriend has lost interest in you, he would tell you so flat out and by doing so he is giving you the golden opportunity to go ahead with your with.
until you dont see him, please stay very far away from the second guy and like our folks always taught us, it is never polite to cheat on anybody.
i wish you the best of luck.
2006-09-22 05:23:22 · answer #7 · answered by soar_2307 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds complicated. So un-complicate it! first trying talking to the boyfriend and tell him what you need from him. If he can't deliver the goods then maybe you should move on... talk to the other guy. Since your new in town this will certainly help you meet more people. It's easier to meet people when your single then when your not. I hope this helps.... good luck.
2006-09-22 05:32:30 · answer #8 · answered by gimmefuel2 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think you should re-evaluate this rationally. do you really wanna through away a three year relationship and love and your reputation for this one person you just met. this guy knows your new in town, and alone, guys can tell whenever a girls..lonely and voluneerable...specially since it sounds like you left yourself wide open like a book. now your going to let him be in control and write the next chapter. be better than that. try having a lil character.
2006-09-22 05:18:31 · answer #9 · answered by mrsgilleland 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you and your boyfriend just didn't survive a long-distance relationship? Then forget him and move on! You don't need a guy that wouldn't go with you through a slight trouble like this, do you? There are so many other guys.
2006-09-22 05:17:53 · answer #10 · answered by veronica 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋