I'm in love with this guy that I've been going with for 4 years and I love him to death but, my first love has come back into my life and the candle is still lite between us. What do I do?
2006-09-22 04:58:57 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Weigh the pros and cons of each relationship. For example: Which one is more secure in life, and would be a better marriage partner? Which one treats you better? etc. The bottom line is you must make a choice based on reality, not feelings, cause you obviously have feelings for both. When you look to your future, which one seems to fit better into the picture? When you do make the inevitable choice, you must cut off all ties to the other man, and make a conscious effort to forget about your feelings. You owe it to both of them to choose sooner than later. If you love them both, you won't keep them hanging waiting for your decision. It could be that the "flame" your feeling with your first love is just that, a flame, not true love. Think back to what made you split in the first place. It's very easy to feel those old feelings when you've been separated for many years. Be sure that it is not just a new infatuation that you have with the old flame. Good Luck!
2006-09-22 05:10:01 · answer #1 · answered by Legs 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Stay with your actual boyfriend!!!!! what you feel now with your firls love it's not love. Only memories. first love is always so special. But foget about it. you do not know him anymore, you have a great partner you love very much for already 4 years!!!!! This guy you know you know what's his bad and good side, you crosses over a lot of things together....If you will tentation , take distance from your firls love. but do not destroy your beautiful relation for som evanishing old feelings....its not worth of it. Believe me
2006-09-22 12:04:15 · answer #2 · answered by Monika H 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Choose the one who teated you good the most and the one who was always there for you. I hope that everything works out for you.
2006-09-22 12:06:25 · answer #3 · answered by kitty 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sit them both down, and let them play chess against each other.
Whoever wins gets your love.
2006-09-22 12:01:48 · answer #4 · answered by RyeBerry 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Doesn't matter,because whichever one you choose will never live up to certain aspects of the one you didn't.
2006-09-22 12:04:05 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Flip a coin....if you find you are disapointed in the results, then go with the other choice.
2006-09-22 12:03:04 · answer #6 · answered by Dellajoy 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Choose the one you can see yourself growing old with.
2006-09-22 12:15:45 · answer #7 · answered by kite 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why not ask them to have a threesome?
2006-09-22 12:05:34 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tricky tricky.... girl, I know exactly how you feel....
2006-09-22 12:02:00 · answer #9 · answered by Mollie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋