What kindda details would you add to the conversation and why? Should you be straight nasty~ or talk nicely. As at the same time he lied to you... and made you believe him instead of mom. Making mom the bad person. Claiming he was innocent.
2006-09-22 04:57:31 · 8 answers · asked by Yorumi 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
What kindda details would you add to the conversation and why? Should you be straight nasty~ or talk nicely. As at the same time he lied to you... and made you believe him instead of mom. Making mom the bad person. Claiming he was innocent.
Not forgetting that this time... it's the 3rd time from childhood till they 20+ year old period.
2006-09-22 05:07:05 · update #1
Tell him you know however remember he is your father and desirves your respect.
2006-09-22 05:00:25 · answer #1 · answered by Tricia P 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your father is in denial. He has lied so much about this that he is starting to believe his own lies.
Confront him with your evidence. Be blunt and straight forward but do not get nasty.
Yorumi says...Dad...I want you to take a look at this (the evidence)...do you have something you want to tell me?
[Dad will probably try to lie again or perhaps he will be speechless]
Yorumi says...Dad...It's time for the truth. I can't decide which is worse at the moment...your affair or your lying to me and Mom about it. Do you have any idea how unfair it is of you to make my mother look like a bad person just so you could continue on in your own little private fantasy?
[Dad says...Well...it is really none of your business...]
Yorumi says...Dad...Every little thing you do that affects my future and the future of this family is my business. Your priority should be your family...You are being so selfish to only think of yourself right now, Dad, I am ashamed of you. It is timed you owned up to the truth. Be the man that I know my father to be and be straight with me. We have a situation that we need to deal with as a family. Let's be real and step outside of this little fantasy affair you are having...let's reconnect with the truth...starting now!
DO NOT ALLOW YOUR DAD TO LIE TO YOU ANYMORE...YOU AND YOUR MOM DESERVE THE TRUTH!
Good luck!
2006-09-22 05:07:08 · answer #2 · answered by Sister Cat 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have all the rights to be angry but on a certain point, this is a problem of his commitment to your mom not to you. It is difficult, I had it happening to me too. Anyway I did not interfere and at the end it has proved VERY GOOD as my mom accepted to keep married to my dad and if I had interfered too much I would have become the 'vilain' of the story.
My sister sent my dads lover offensive cell messages, called her home in order to call her names, etc. and it has caused a lot of distress between my sister and my dad, and I dont think it has helped anyone.
2006-09-22 05:04:38 · answer #3 · answered by Graça 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just get your dad off to the side and say, "dad, I know that you have cheated on mom with whatever her name is. I am not asking you to confirm or deny it. I just want you to know that you have hurt me and have seriously damaged my faith in you and my ability to believe you. I love you, but you have hurt me by lying and cheating on mom." Let him deal with all the guilt, fear and wonder, and trust me, there will be a lot when he knows you know. Do not be ugly to him, do not act different and do your best to be normal...It is tough, but what will eat at him inside will do more than what you could ever do... Who knows, you may save a marriage and keep your relationship with your dad at the same time...
2006-09-22 05:11:20 · answer #4 · answered by Suthern R 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u do not have 2 be nasty in fact ur not as mad as u r hurt right? so let him see that pain. make sure u do it in private, n if he continues 2 lie give the evidence 2 ur mom, tell her u r sorry n be there 4 her.
make sure he knows ur pain n ur moms pain. some men r so weak. its not ur fault u beleived him u wanted 2 its his fault 4 lying.
good luck n stay strong.
2006-09-22 05:01:36 · answer #5 · answered by Lady Geo 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your mom is aware of her cheating spouse (its the 3rd time so she knows) then why would you treat your dad in a nasty manner. Your mother has accepted his behavior and this portion of their marriage is THEIR business. Talk to your dad as if he is your not...not your cheating husband.
2006-09-22 05:20:45 · answer #6 · answered by Mean Carleen 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
straight forward, not ugly or mean, just tell him you know and he needs to accept responsibility.if he ask for your proof, tell him.
2006-09-22 05:00:58 · answer #7 · answered by debo3 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Damage something of his that he really loves.
2006-09-22 04:59:42 · answer #8 · answered by Go Wolves 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋