My six year old worries all the time! Everynight before he will go to bed he has to check all the doors to make sure they are locked, so robbers won't get in. He also worries about house fires, car crashes, and worries about him and I having health problems. We have never had any security problems, fires, car crashes, or anything bad happen to us. I don't know where that is comming from and has been going on for several months. Is this normal?
2006-09-22 04:31:00 · 8 answers · asked by crandle55 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Grade-Schooler
You know this is normal kids go through different stages as they learn and grow and experience,they pick up on things at school and from watching tv,also from dreams,i sometimes litsen in on my 6,an 5 year old talking about school and things i know they didnt learn from me,well think of all those ADT. comercials where someone is breaking in, and the kids all huddle around their mom,i mean is it any wonder what our kids are learning these days,we prepare our kids for the school,and we think were sending them to a safe place so that they can partake in this much needed learning process,but we never expect them to pick up so much,and of course it never even crosses our mind that there will be alot of others who have been taught totally different-right or not so right.my daughter is 5 and she at one point was afriad of death and dying,she said to me oneday,"mommy am i going to die"-because i havent kept death a secret from my kids she felt comfortable coming to me and asking,and this is where me and their father dissagree i believe kids should know about death so that there not totally shock when someone or something they love ie;parent or pet,dies.so what was my response to her, i told her yes,then she replied''but i dont want to die"so i obviosly had to take her aside and explain death a little more,i told her honey were all going to die someday that is apart of life your born you live, learn, grow, love, and eat life and then we die,but dont worry'i told her you wont, not for a long time,and when you do you wont be alone there will be angels with you until the rest of the family joins you but dont worry were all going to live for a long time,you see shes afraid of being alone,and even though i know it wasnt realistic to tell her we were all going to live a long time,i dont wont her worrying about these things that are beyond our control-inevitable,so is sending them to school, but the one thing we can control is what they watch on tv commercials excluded of course,the world is a scary place,and its important for them to know this,and it is our jobs as parents to keep them safe the best we know how.your gonna need to sit your little guy down and explain some things to yes the world is scary,but it is also a beautiful place and creating a nice safe home and surrounding our selves with family and friends and comforting thoughts and creating good memories that they take to school with them everyday so that when the world seem cold and scary, they have something,something to think about something that takes them to that comfortable place in there little hearts,i tell my kids everyday before they go to school "i love you and have a nice day"not only do i want them to take me with them i also finish out by saying make some new friends, and when i pick them up i ask them how was your day (cuminucation) i think as parents all we can really do is love them,i love my kids so much,and talking to them about life really does prepare them dont get me wrong i know there are boundries that are not to be crossed until they are of age. my advice one parent to another talk to him let him know that everything is going to be ok that there are bad guys in the world but home is safe and let him see you lock up tight and ask him questions i know i ask my little ones about there dreams even i want to know everthing i feel like im creating the line for cumunication to always be there not just now but when hes 13 and hes wanting to stay over at a friends house or when shes 12 and has a crush on some boy,prepare them dont scare them-there are scary guys in the world but theres also aunt sussie and grandma,yes there are burgulars but allow him to see you lock up tight and,unfortunately fires are a part of this life,but that its ok and plan a fire plan that the whole family can particapate in,and practice this plan often, trust me hell began to feel more safe and in time hell forget all about these things as he begins to feel more safe,my daughter never asks anymore about death,dont worry hell be just fine. GOOD LUCK!!!!!!!!
2006-09-22 05:41:21 · answer #1 · answered by my space 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
My six year old does the same thing. I think that it's just a time in their life when they are starting to see past themselves and realizing there are other things happening around them. If you think about it, when they are younger everything, as far as they are concerned, revolves around them.
Encourage your child to let you do the worrying. I don't know if this would help your child or not but I have encouraged my son to read. He reads from 7-8 every night. It takes his mind off of all the things he would normally worry about, i.e. robbers, etc.
Good luck.
2006-09-22 11:41:28 · answer #2 · answered by super_mom 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Just tell him that he doesn't need to worry because you will always take care of him. Show him that you live in a safe neighborhood that doesn't have robbers and that you aren't going to get in a wreck because you're a good driver. Just reassure him about all those things and show him why those bad things won't happen. Reassurance is the only way to help him.
2006-09-22 11:39:04 · answer #3 · answered by BeeFree 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Set a time aside each day as 'worry time' it shouldn't be more than 15 minutes, I would go shorter since he is so young. He can worry aloud and check everything, but that time period is the only time he can worry.
Say right after school, 3:30-3:45.
If this doesn't help check into some very basic counseling with someone that works with children.
2006-09-22 11:36:01 · answer #4 · answered by Sabrina 2 · 2⤊ 2⤋
This might just be a phase but what you need to watch out for is if its affecting his daily living. If you start noticing that he wont go outside because me might get hurt or things like that then you need to take him to see a psychologist. My niece went through this phase when she was that age where she would ask about things like cancer and other illnesses. I think his imagination just might be getting the better of him
2006-09-22 13:06:53 · answer #5 · answered by ArmyWife 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you should take your child to talk to someone (counseling) 6 years old shouldn't worry that much. My son had the same problem the only thing that I could do was reassure him and I made sure that he wasn't able to watch the news.
2006-09-22 13:44:36 · answer #6 · answered by sunangel1716 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
my eight year old does this. he always makes sure i haven't locked the keys in the car, that i have my phone when we leave the house, that his younger brother is in his seatbelt, and other things. i just let him do it. i don't fuss at him, i let him do what makes him feel safe. he's displaying responsibility and i'm not about to make him feel bad for feeling this way.
2006-09-22 13:42:33 · answer #7 · answered by Bella 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would talk to a health care professional. Maybe he has obsessive-compulsive tendencies.
2006-09-22 15:32:16 · answer #8 · answered by Little Black Eyed Pea 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋