how can i get rid of negative thinking?

Question

how do u motivate yourself and keep yourself happy when u'ev been made to believe ur nothing?

Answer 1

pray alot to our Father and to Jesus Christ. that is a mean thing to say to anyone. when I am down, sometimes I get negative thinking, so I pray. also stay away from people who talk bad and make you feel that way.

Answer 2

Negative thinking is as much a habit as anything else. And like all habits, can be broken.

I don't know your circumstances, but it's pretty clear that something about them has to change. I find music helps a lot.

Oh yes, take a look around and see if you can find an assertiveness training course somewhere in your area. In the morning when you wake up, remember it is a new day, and this day is yours to do whatever you wish with. Certainly, there are obligations, bills to pay and chores to do. But if work is stressing you out, try to relax yourself and find a job where you can be happy. Any meanwhile find a hobby that you enjoy. Make sure it remains a hobby and not an obligation, though. My parents for many years belonged to a local bowling league. But when it became a burden rather than a way to relax, they left it.

Good luck!

Answer 3

1) Pray (anyplace quiet-not necessarily a church, can even be in ur room)

2) Pen down ur thoughts in a diary (said to work, never tried it)

3) Sit in silence for 10 mins (can increase later-this i do)

4) Yoga (don't do-try this website:www.abc-of-yoga.com

5) Find new friends. U HAVE to leave when u feel like the joker of the group or u feel unwanted/unappreciated.

6) Try also the many self-help bks out there.

Hope that helped u. Keep smiling :)

Answer 4

Jesus that's terrible. But none the less, typical. I'll tell you how I got hold of the reins one day. I was sitting at work at a gas station and decided I would repeat a phrase over and over in my head until I brainwashed myself. I didn't know at the time that this was called a mantra. I tried a bunch of positive words like, you are great, you are great! But after awhile each thing I tried to say over and over started to sound really carppy so I finally found something I could say that didn't sound retarded to me after 4 hours of saying it. The words are relax, focus, concentrate. I said them repeatedly for about a day or two and you'll never guess what happened! I became a different person. A person more relaxed, more focused, and person who was able to concentrate more on important things I needed to be focused on in my relaxed life. Give it a try. The worst thing that could happen is you'll go nuts. But I didn't. Maybe you won't either. Good luck.

Answer 5

I was in a mentally absuive relationship that left me feeling utterly worthless and suicidal. But you can come through it. It took me years, medication, and support from family and my now- husband- but it can be done.

The person/people who have done this to you are nothing, they are the one with the malfunctions- not you.

There are lots of websites you can read where people have suffered from all sorts of problems that have resulted in a lack of self-worth, try www.swestwood.com- he has released a book recently where he deals with his hatred of himself and how it came out through many mental issues. It has links to some forums and chat rooms as well as other sites that could help you.

Keeping happy is difficult, feeling bad about yoruself has taught you to be introspective- use this to your advantage. You can rise above this. You need to accept who you are- the likeliness that these people knew you were something special is pretty much the reason they tried to use it against you. They take something good about you, or something you should be proud of, and twist it, so you hate yourself.

I don't recommend turning to a church- a christian one anyway- as that is all about suffering and accepting you are a sinner- that will not help you atall. You need to see yourself as the light, as love. Take your time to relearn your identity, surround yourself with people you actually want to be around you, and do things you enjoy. Screw everyone else. Who cares what anyone else thinks? You are you- if they can't accept that, stuff them. You are something. You are special. They were jealous of you. It may seem hard to believe at the moment, but you can learnt o accept that.

Good luck hun

Answer 6

There's a song I was given to listen to a few years ago, when I was going through some really rough times...

Martina McBride -- You'll Get Through This.

Having family support or support from friends is very helpful as well. Finding a good church to go to, where they might be able to lift your spirits.

I don't believe in anti-depressants, but seeing a counselor might help too. If your not comfortable doing that there are also online self esteem sites that can give you reading material to help you on your way of believing in YOU!

http://www.selfesteem4women.com/?ad=5

Answer 7

It is not easy sometimes. I am recently divorced. I just acrued about $20,000 in debt, I live by myself in the middle of no where, which is the same house that my ex lived in. That is just recently. I find the best way to cope with this mess is to do something nice for someone else...It might sound lame, but you will feel better than you ever had!!! REALLY!! This is very sad question also, feel free to IM anytime. Sadness can be cured with a smile.

Answer 8

It takes a bit of discipline and patience, but it works!...

Whenever a bad thught comes to mind, just remember, it's not real, it's all in your mind... then trade it for something positive (ex: I'm fat!...-therefore, you foucus on whatever part of you supports that idea... change it for something like: I have great eyes and a killer sense of humor- that way doubling your positive side and focusing on something good that's completely yours)

Value yourself: you are unique, original and different from anyone else in this world... value your health and count your blessings... sooner or later you'll learn to flip the balance to your favor by focusing on the stuff that makes YOU happy

gdluck ;)

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Answer 9

Poor thing, that's terrible. finding a good church with lots of people your age and befriending those you have things in common with is a great step. Maybe you should see a terapist, they can be the push you need to get out there

Answer 10

What I would do is just listen to good songs that let you know your something. P.S You sholudn't never think ur nothing anyway!!!!