7 years. so it's safe to say im a bit rusty in the dating scene. my ? is this: what is the best way for a guy to approach you.? what is a good ice breaker? i see women at stores,malls,etc. first of course, i check to see if they are married. if they are not, i instantly start thinking: they either have a boyfriend or just wouldnt be interested. if i think they are interested-see them lookin at me-i think im just bein conceated. lol allready defeatin myself without trying. i just want to know what is the good and bad way to approach you. i hate the bars. not a big drinker. never liked the type of women i found there before. any help you ladies could give me, would be greatly appreciated. thank you.
2006-09-22 04:18:19 · 15 answers · asked by tnkster71 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You simply have to start with eye contact and a friendly Hello...that's really all it takes. And look us in the eye...Saying hello to our breasts won't win you any points. By all means be confident, but don't be an a$s. I had a gentleman approach me yesterday at the grocery store...He smiled and asked me if I knew where he might locate dried onions. I directed him to the canned vegetable isle. After he had found the item he approached me to say thanks and handed me a business card with his name, number, e-mail address, age, and marital status on it. He said to me, "You were kind to help me and if you wouldn't mind I would like to have the opportunity to know you better. Please contact me when you have some free time." He didn't even ask my name. With that he smiled and walked away. I called him this morning. We have plans to meet for a pancake brunch Saturday at one of the local churches. If anything, I have made a new friend. FYI, the card he gave me had been printed on his home PC. Not a professional card. It didn't state his occupation, just his contact information. Prevented him from fumbling around for a pen and paper in an already nervous situation...Best wishes to you.
2006-09-22 04:33:23 · answer #1 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you want to pick someone up at the store. Look at the same item they are and maybe comment on it. And then take it from there. Try to joke about it and then work your way around it and say I'm a single parent or a single person etc. Good luck and I know it's hard to find someone. Start doing things that you usually don't do for example Concerts, bingos, fairs, bazaars, dancing, art museums etc. Eventually you'll find someone. Just keep your eyes open because if you don't. You don't want a good thing to pass you by. Also don't go for the high maintenance ones. You may be shooting to high for them start out with a normal sweet girl. Good luck wish you the best!
2006-09-22 04:26:14 · answer #2 · answered by aimstir31 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be yourself and stay away from the stupid pick up lines they never work. When you see a woman that you are interested in wait for her to make eye contact with you... when this happens if you feel like there is a connection then go and talk to her but keep it casual. Introduce yourself and be friendly, don't go right in for the kill. Women want to spend time with someone who is into them for their personality. If someone just walks up and asks me out before they know anything about me I know it is based solely on my looks and I will never go. You need to be interested in her as a person.
P.S. I agree with you on the bar scene, stay away from that, you won't find what you are looking for there. Good luck!
2006-09-22 04:26:07 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know how you feel. In the same boat.
I like the caring guy who has an interest in me and not what's covered up by clothes.
Figure out your hobbies and go to the gym, park, functions that you would not normally go to but have always wanted to. Focus on loving yourself first and people will see that you are happy. Woman are attracted to happy guys. Be yourself. Good Luck.
2006-09-22 04:23:03 · answer #4 · answered by teulonbranchlibrary 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The best advice I can give you is to be yourself. If you see someone you are interested in then just say hello. If they want to know more about you then she will keep the conversation going. It is hard to get back into the dating scene. But just be yourself is the main thing to keep going. Good Luck!!
2006-09-22 04:22:35 · answer #5 · answered by JUSTME 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are recently seperated dont you think you need the time to see who you are and how you can function on your own???????I have been single for over 2 years now and i think the fact that i have been single that long has taught me how to not have a failed relationship again.I would say a coffee house a book exchange, common places.
2006-09-22 04:25:48 · answer #6 · answered by wblueyesinvt35 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I like compliments, if the notcie what I am wearing or perfume, it is an easy icebreakers and a little diffrent than the usual pickup line, it also tells me they are thinking a bit diffrent than the averge guy. But watch out because over the top, she might think you are gay. So simple remarks are best.
2006-09-22 04:22:08 · answer #7 · answered by marlee6996 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go with what feels natural. No one likes to feel hunted or suffocated when they are just trying to run errands or whatnot, but you can work your way in with a little comment or question. "Do you know where ___ is?" "Hey that's a really nice ____. My sister's birthday is coming up; may I ask where you got it?" etc. Just be genuine. If your goal is to be some hotshot casanova, you will come across that way, and you won't have great results!
2006-09-22 04:22:33 · answer #8 · answered by Sarah 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Meetsingles
2015-02-02 08:30:26 · answer #9 · answered by ? 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well if you are sperated BUT not divored I would get the Divorce then start dating.After all 7 yrs seperated tells me neither of you are truely ready to be divorced yet.So before you go looking for a new lover end the first one.
2006-09-22 04:21:42 · answer #10 · answered by Glenn T 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋