Well my boyfriend of five years (off and on) broke up with me on last Sunday. We had a arguement and I told him I was going to stay with my parents for a week and he said well than I don't want to be with you. Our arguement was over me going to my parents by myself to spend time with them. He doesn't trust me at all. So than on Monday he said i'll give you till Friday to decide if you want to be with me again or not. Well today's friday and I don't know what to do. Help!
2006-09-22 04:08:44 · 47 answers · asked by lost and confused 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
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2006-09-22 04:09:45 · answer #1 · answered by CJM 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
In order to be with someone you have to TRUST EACH OTHER! I know it's hard to do, but as long as you don't give him any reason to not trust you, then he shouldn't worry about what you're doing. When I visit my parents, I usually take my man. He'll be a part of the family one day, so everyone has got to get used to him being around. Sit down with your man and ask him why he doesn't trust you. If he doesn't give you any good reason, then it's his own insecurities and he needs to fix those before he can be in a healthy relationship. If this talking thing doesn't work for you, then I would say hold off on the 'getting back together' thing. Take a break and make him realize that he's lost a good thing.
2006-09-22 04:31:20 · answer #2 · answered by inlovewow 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Does he have a reason not to trust you? If not... then sorry to tell you this, but 99% of the time if someone is that mistrusting, he/she is doing something and its making them feel guilty. So he might be going out on the sly and you may not have a clue about it. All you see is the untrust he has towards you. Its pretty selfish of him to not let you be with your folks. Id say let him go and move on. Nobody needs to have a boyfriend or girlfriend who cant let them do things on their own. Plus... do you actually see yourself with him in 5 or 10 years... Can you imagine how much worse it will be. He will not change, he will only get worse. Good luck
2006-09-22 04:12:06 · answer #3 · answered by Angel Eve 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you have to ask someone else what you should do, then you don't have real feelings for him. Being in a relationship is having trust in the other person. If he can't trust you he is a waste of your time. Ask your parents how they feel about him. They probably don't like him do they. Your parents whether you can tell it or not can tell whats good for you and whats bad for you. Wipe the slate clean and go look for the right Mr. Right.
2006-09-22 04:15:01 · answer #4 · answered by cargrl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh hell no , if you take him back you are a dumb @$$ girl. If you cannot spend time with your parents w/o him getting mad his an @$$hole to the fullest. He says he doesn't trust you ?? Well maybe he is out there playin you and wants you to feel guilty because he is messing up. I don't see the big problem with you spending time with your parents. Dump that loser. If you guys are off and on for 5 yrs the relationship obviously it isn't for you.
2006-09-22 04:16:48 · answer #5 · answered by ♥ Army Wife ♥ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think that he does not trust you, because he does not trust his self. i think that he is controlling and probably verbally abusive. Who knows he might even be physically abusive. i was married to a guy like that. I could not talk on the phone unless he was right there. He always wanted to know who I was talking to. He picked my friends. Suprisingly all of the friends I was really close to he did not like. I could not even go to the movies with my mom by myself. I was 100% faithful even though he treated me like a dog. When I tried to leave him he took the distibutor cap off my car, broke all of the phones etc.. To make a long story short it started out by him controlling me and keeping me from the people I loved most. Good luck
2006-09-22 04:17:19 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why bother getting back with him? This has been an on and off relationship for 5 years now and he doesn't trust you. It seems obvious that it is time to just end this farce and move on with your life and try and find someone who trust you, loves you, and who you can have a stable and long term relationship with.
2006-09-22 04:12:22 · answer #7 · answered by rkrell 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you do know what you want to do. You just want to make sure others agree with you.
This guy is (or is turning into) a control freak.
you need to ask yourself this question: do you want to continue in a relationship where someone who doesn't want you to see your parents? If not.. then you need to walk away from him. Of course if your folks are like axe murders or drug dealers or torture little animals for fun or religious purposes then I'm with your b/f... stay away!!!
But seriously... you have the answer already. Walk away.
2006-09-22 04:16:02 · answer #8 · answered by .... 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Be a woman and let go, this guy will never be over you he wants control and well you should let him have it . Wait til Sunday and if he calls ,he cares if not, then call him and talk and tell him why you didnt call (you were with family etc) .. If he doesnt want to be with you then forget it, find yourself a female to spend tme with and talk about him to her you will get over him eventuallly. The question you are truly asking is will i survive without him ?
2006-09-22 04:15:01 · answer #9 · answered by harlingenguy_2000 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Anytime someone makes you chose between family and a love interest that would send a red flag to me.
trust is the most important thing in a relationship and if he feels like he can't trust you, then he is trying to manipulate you away from your family. Maybe he did something while he was away and doens't what you to do the same thing.
If it is just that he will miss you, reaasure him that your only a call away.
If anyone kept me from my family,, i would not choose them....
ive been married 15 years...
2006-09-22 04:14:16 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
sounds like just a spat. 5 yr is a lot of time to invest in a relationship to break up over an argument (of course it depends on what the argument was about) if there is no cheating, drug issues or anything then you both should try to work it out. and don't forget to consider your feelings first, maybe you want to get out of the relationship ?
2006-09-22 04:11:26 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋