See, I was just wondering, if it was okay to send her flowers, one for each year we were together to show her appreciated each year that we were together. Going to her house, is too big of a risk for me, that might seem disrespectful to her. Besides she said it was over. So if I do this it might seem like I'm trying to get her back. At first I was trying to, but now I'm going the opposite direction, or at least I am trying to. I don't want to rekindle anything more than a friendship with her. The relationship was too much of a hassle on us both. But she isn't communicating to me. Is there a way I can regain a friendship with her.
2006-09-22 03:53:43 · 14 answers · asked by The Lonely Skywolf 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
By you sending her flowers out the blue is only going to make it worse for you . If she said it was over then let it be over. You will look very desperate and very lonely doing so. Why send her flowers for the years you were together ? Obviously it don't matter anymore being that she is an "ex" . Leave the past in the past and move on. Now if it were her bday then it would be okay to send flowers but other than that just leave her alone. She doesn't want to be friends with you that's why she is avoiding you. When she wants to become friends she will come around. Until then leave her alone before you get arrested for stalking and harassment
2006-09-22 03:58:10 · answer #1 · answered by ♥ Army Wife ♥ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Time and not being a jerk. Those are the only two things that will every give you a chance of having a friendship again with this girl.
SHE broke it off with YOU - not the other way around. SHE decided that SHE didn't want to continue the relationship. Whatever her reasons were SHE made the decision not YOU.
The best things you can do:
- smile and be nice when you see her
- dont go out of your way to see her (no stalking)
- don't send her gifts, cards
- don't call her on the phone
- dont text her
- don't IM her
You just need to walk away from this and then... in a few months (years?) you will see that when you smile and say hi when you see her she may stop and say 'hi.. how ya been?' and then you can start on that friendship.. but not now.
2006-09-22 04:00:56 · answer #2 · answered by .... 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's definitely hard to forget someone, and there's nothing really wrong with sending flowers, but its a means to an end and it makes you look desperate. It would be better not to do it and not feel ridiculous later because you did. Try to think about something else other than her, work more, take a class, meet new people, get a second job, go out, try some things that don't make you think of her. You'll feel better that you did. ;)
2006-09-22 04:00:57 · answer #3 · answered by corazon_muy_dulce 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd like to try and offer advice on this because I had a similar question a few months ago.
Before I can start though I would like you to ask yourself one question and for you to be truly honest with yourself. Do you really want to be friends with your ex or do you secretively want to get back with her?
Unfortunately once broken up flowers will not help win a girl back and pushing for a relationship when the person has made it clear that it's not what they want anymore will only make things worse and can border on stalking :/. If your ex is refusing to communicate with you at all then sending flowers will only invade her space further. Try to let it be, if she really wants to be friends again she will come back with time.
Lastly consider whether you are REALLY ready to be her friend? It takes time...give urself time to heal too. ;)
2015-02-16 04:12:54 · answer #4 · answered by AJ 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Send her the flowers and say im sorry it didnt worry out .I have done alot of thinking and I hope we can be freinds.These flowers are a token of freindship to say I think your a special person and always will.best wishes in your life.It will make her feel good.Put all of that on the card.
2006-09-22 03:59:31 · answer #5 · answered by butterflyspy 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's not OK.
You're planning too much for a relationship that is no more.
Don't deceive yourself - you want more than a friendship back. I don't see you sending your other friends flowers for every year you've been friends!
Don't kid yourself any longer, ya?
2006-09-22 03:59:59 · answer #6 · answered by Beth 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
That's probably why she dumped you, toughen up chief women like to be ignored and having to work to get the attention, quit being such a nice guy. flowers you send if you know you are getting some.
2006-09-22 03:59:55 · answer #7 · answered by EASWOOTH 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think you still love her and yes that could be a risk sending her floweres she would probably throw them a way anyways..thats what i did when my ex sent me some at one time ago so you would be wasting your time and money.give her time alone and let her sort out things if you keep pestering her she will only get madder.. try no communication for at least two weeks . then maybe you could conmtact her then. that way she wont think you are pressering her..... good luck!!
2006-09-22 03:59:22 · answer #8 · answered by mary c 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give her time and space to relax. DO NOT send flowers, that would probablt piss her off and drive her further away. Patience, darling.
2006-09-22 03:56:51 · answer #9 · answered by noambition 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think it is a very cute idea but write a note saying what the flowers are for and say that all you want is to keep your friendship. i say do it
2006-09-22 04:00:49 · answer #10 · answered by The Weed Fairy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋