okay there is this guy at school and he is totally werid. He likes me and follows me everywhere. so to make him back off i 'hired' my ex-boyfriend to come and meet me where he was and us to pretend to be boyfriend and girlfriend. So I went up to him when the werid boy was watching and kissed my ex. I know he saw us but i dont know.
2006-09-22 03:47:34 · 26 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
i dont want to break it to him verbaly because i feel really bad. .
2006-09-22 03:52:42 · update #1
Came across guys like this before, when I attended high school. What you did with your ex was a good choice. It's a subtle way of telling this guy that you are not interested. Most guys will catch the "hint". If he continues, I would suggest enlisting the help of a teacher or counselor to let them know of this kid's demeanor, because he may be a potential stalker. Be careful, be courteous & respectful in your attitude toward the kid, but do not encourage him or his strange behavior. Until he backs off, stay tight with friends so that you are not left alone with him. He seems to not have good social skills and may not know how to conduct himself around the opposite sex yet (in a respectful manner). He may also be very immature, which doesn't help matters any.
Like I say, just keep friends nearby, talk with an adult that can intervene, and keep an eye on him to make sure his behavior doesn't get more unpredictable. Listen to your inside voice.
2006-09-22 03:48:51 · answer #1 · answered by YRofTexas 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Who knows you did the best thing you knew how
later look again at the situation
see what happens as time goes on
and like who knows you might have to have another kiss
in the future
do not feel sorry for people whom you feel
you might end up with because you feel sorry 4them
because it only gets worse
you did what you felt you had to do
and you are married to no one
just be kind honey that is all you have to do
this way no one tries to get even and bridges
did not get burned down
2006-09-22 10:51:59 · answer #2 · answered by Queen A 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Assuming you are in school, if the kid has mental issues, I would speak to a counselor or other superior. He may not respond well to being dumped in person and try to harm you.
If he is normal otherwise, just let him know that you aren't interested in him "in that way".
I think what you did probably didn't help anything, and was not the most mature thing to do.
2006-09-22 10:51:26 · answer #3 · answered by CJP 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If by school you mean secondary or high school nothing weird about it. If school to you mean, say business college, then yes you are old enough to deal with it in a better way.
That you felt the need to ask us means that you think what you did was mean.
So, ....you are either more adult than most around you, or younger .
Take your pick. Truthfully, I would suggest dealing with it in a more gentle way next time
2006-09-22 10:53:13 · answer #4 · answered by Christine H 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Whatever happened to honesty? You know, the integrity thing? The character thing? Simply tell the guy to back off and leave you alone. You can do this without being a jerk or being a smart ***. Have integrity and do the right thing. What you did was dishonest and you used your ex to be complicit in your deceit.
2006-09-22 10:54:48 · answer #5 · answered by JT 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
in away you did do the right thing but in another you didnt. You should of just came out and said you didnt like him and that he needs to stop following you every where!
2006-09-22 10:50:01 · answer #6 · answered by Shy Girl 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
All you had to do was tell th eboy that you are not interested in him. Why would you hire someone to kiss you, just let the boy know how you feel that's all.
2006-09-22 10:51:09 · answer #7 · answered by ebonikaf 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Ive done that before and yes it is really mean. But hey Im like you leave me alone your wierd. But now I do realize its mean and I politly tell them hey I dont like you so you need to leave.
2006-09-25 21:25:37 · answer #8 · answered by boycrazedprinces709 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think what you did was mean however seems you did it because you couldn't tell this guy you weren't interested to his face. As long as he got the message and it was probably less cruel altho cowardly on your part.
2006-09-22 10:49:46 · answer #9 · answered by Saskia M 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think What you did is alot nicer than hurting his feelings. Maybe now he will leave you alone, without having an unpleasant confrontation.
2006-09-22 10:54:56 · answer #10 · answered by blonde mom70 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋