My wife and I are expecting our second daughter, but I really wanted a boy. I should be excited, but I am more disappointed than anything. Any advise would be great.
2006-09-22 03:41:39 · 26 answers · asked by p_stanleyrox 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
It is natural for a father to want a son, and to be disappointed with another girl. However, all of that will change when she arrives. She will probably end up being your tough as nails little tom boy and the apple of your eye. Don't sweat it.... I have 2 sons and when I learned that my second was another boy I could have puked.... but he is a wonderful joy, I wouldn't trade him for anything. As a matter of fact he turned 9 today! This morning when he woke up he came in my room and whispered in my ear.... nine years ago today was the best day of your life..... cause you had me....aaaaawwww he is the sweetest thing ever!!!! I will bet somewhere sometime down the road you will wake your little angel one morning and say those same words to her....
Best of luck and it's a lot of fun tryin again...lol
2006-09-22 03:48:42 · answer #1 · answered by shughes2000_2000 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm the father of 2 daughters. I really wanted a boy as well, and deep inside will always regret that I didn't have a son, but.. the first time I laid eyes on my youngest daughter, any and all disappointment in her gender went away. She became just another girl to wrap me around her finger. I wasn't as excited for it to be a girl either, but naturally I wouldn't change anything now.
2006-09-22 03:45:19 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I’m not going to tell you that you are a bad father…
But I sure as hell hope that you will wake up to what harm you are going to cause to that beautiful baby daughter, if your attitude doesn’t change !!!
You will not be able to hide your disappointment from your child.
Can you imagine how hard it is going to be for her to realise that you didn’t want her to be born…
Life is precious… That ‘baby’ is your own flesh and blood… A ‘miracle’!!!
And you want to discriminate against it because it is a ‘girl’ instead of a ‘boy’!!!
Do you realise how lucky you are???
Two beautiful daughters…
So many couples out there would give up their arms and legs to be able to have a baby…
and you can’t even be excited about the fact that you are having a second one !!!
Your second baby hasn’t been born yet…
How about you just ‘pray’ that everything goes well, because there are an awful lot of parents out there whose baby’s ‘day of birth’ was also the day of it’s death !
Be proud and grateful if you are given the blessing of bringing another beautiful baby daughter into this world.
You just don’t realise how lucky you really are !!!
2006-09-22 04:00:45 · answer #3 · answered by I_C_Y_U_R 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are not a bad father. It is OK to be disappointed if you wanted a boy. You will love your new daughter just the same as a boy once she is born.
Keep trying, build up your testosterone a bit, third times a charm.
2006-09-22 03:45:04 · answer #4 · answered by barter256 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You had your hopes on a boy so you got let down. Just wait til that little angel arrives. You wont be able to resist. You wanted a boy so you can play sports, and go fishing, and wrestle, do the guy thing. You know how many little girls are like little boys? I was such a tom boy when I was younger. Heck, I played sports better then my bro. I never played w/Barbie's, I'd rather play w/the match box cars. So you see, just because your gonna have 2 girls doesnt mean you wont be able to do the guy thing. And just FYI...I am not shehe either. LOL I grew up knowing how to handle myself and to stand tall and take care of myself. It'll be good.
2006-09-22 03:47:03 · answer #5 · answered by Ivory_Flame 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're not a bad father for thinking this way, I think every man would secretly love to have a son, they are just afraid to admit their disappointment for fear of being judged! Be the best dad you can be to your beautiful daughters so they have the best role model ever and will grow up and have a wonderful partner who treats them as well as their daddy did :) You can always try a third time ;)
2006-09-22 03:46:59 · answer #6 · answered by IslandAngel64 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dissappointment is not the same as being bad. My husband has a daughter by his first wife and taught her how to race gokarts. They had a blast, she could outrun many of the boys she went up against. To this day she still come to her dad for advise before she goes to her mom. Don't let having a girls stop you from enjoying your child.
2006-09-22 10:04:50 · answer #7 · answered by nursesr4evr 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
NO! You are only been natural and yourself. We all feel disappointed sometimes when we get less than expected. You should try all you can to love your daughter more than if he is a boy, knowing fully well that it is not her fault to come a girl neither yours nor your wife.Sincerely, GIRLS are wonderful. Be happy with what God gave you, it is for a purpose.
2006-09-22 04:16:38 · answer #8 · answered by sankara 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes a girl is more boy than the boys
so think of it as your princess who can slay a bear
swim the deepest river
climb the tallest tree
and most of all love you as no other because she is yours
celebrate life sweetheart
it is how we are raised sometimes that makes us feel
that a boy was to be first.
Be happy darlin celebrate your love for her as a father
because you might fall deeply in love with your babygirl
2006-09-22 03:45:37 · answer #9 · answered by Queen A 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no i understand its like one of lifes disappointments .we have to play along but down deep we know the truth.but you will do great . look at it this way a mother with all boys wanting to have a girl. can sew and waiting to make the clothes. so i guess you change that dream and make the boys shirts . just change that way of thinking like sports and maybe the girls will too and play sports. just change the way of thinking but i understand and i am sure your keeping what you wrote a secret from the wive. as i am sure its no picnic thinking she disappinted you.....so go give her a kiss and tell her how much you love her ect ect
2006-09-22 04:14:44 · answer #10 · answered by terri e 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋