Is he too young?

Question

My son is 2 and fully potty trained, he dosen't use nappys at all day or night. His dad and I have no problem with it but the health visitor and my mum say im putting to much pressure on him. Who is right?

Thank you to everyone who has answered this question. And thanx for the encouragement its much appreciated.

Answer 1

Let me see if I got this straight. Your son is 2, fully potty trained and does not wear any nappys at all. And they think you are putting too much pressure on him? Personally, I think this makes him a "big boy" by wanting to use the potty and relying on him to get himself up to use it instead of going back and forth from using and to not using nappys. I would let him stay the way he is. If he has an accident-guess what, that is life, everyone has had an accident before. What else is new. But, he is 2. What, do they want him to stay in nappys till he is 3? 4 even? You could get him some cartoon character underwear as a precaution for your sake if you wanted to. But, you are HIS mother-not them.

Answer 2

You are! As the parent you know what your child is capable of. MY 4 year old was fully potty trained by time she was 2 and 8 months and it was cool. My 3 year old(she will be three on Tuesday) hasn't even come close. She wont' give up her pull-ups tells me she knows she should go potty on the potty but wont' do it unless she is at school for a drop off. I know the youngest one knows what she should be doing she just refuses. I am about to give up but then I think about it and the yongest one shouldnt' be compared to my oldest or other kids she will do what she needs to do when she is ready. Dont' let some gov't agentcy person tell you how to train your kid. If he is fully potty trained he was ready PERIOD.. Kids show you the signs and as parents we follow those signs and do what needs to be done to get the kids to the next level. That is your job and your job alone. Advice is one thing, telling you something is not right when you know it is b/c that is your child is plain worng. Follow your instincts and care for that child as you see fit.

Answer 3

stuff the health visitor most of them haven't got kids themselves. Do what you feel is right. if you son is happy not to wear nappies then i don't see why you should put him back in them. You are not forcing him some kids do things quicker than others. I put my son on solids when he was 3 month old as he wasnt settled after a bottle and it did him no harm and i got told off by the health visitor. mums know best.

Answer 4

i say well done to you!!!!!!!!!!!!!! there are so many parents that dont train there kids. i think you know when your child is ready and by your son not wearing nappys how are you putting to much pressure on him if he wasnt ready he would not be dry day and night,my son is now 3 yrs old and he has been potty trained since he was 2 and there is nothing wrong with him.listen to your heart as you and his dad know him best

Answer 5

You are right. You are the parent and that makes your decisions always 100% right, period.

If he doesn't wet at night or during naps. That shows that he is ready to be potty trained. He has full control as he sleeps.

If he is upset of reluctant to use the potty or seems frustrated than perhaps you should be concerned. But it sounds like your little guy was just plain ready. Way to Go. I think you should be patting yourself on the back. Boys are hard to potty train.

My little guy doesn't wet during naps or at night but he still has accidents during the day. Every little guy is different. If he wasn't too young now in a couple of months they would be worried that he is too old not to be. I think two is a perfect age.

Answer 6

My son will be 3 at Christmas and has been dry for 6 months. His friends at nursery are either no where near ready or just starting. We have the odd accident but about once a week and only because he couldn't get there in time. Every child is different. If he's taken to it then great. If he has an accident at this age then you can't really tell him off as it is early but so long as it's relaxed and if accidents happen you don't go mad then that's fine.

Answer 7

Every child is different. As long as he is not pressured into being potty trained then it's fine. What would you do, put him back in diapers? That would be WAY more harmful then early potty training. You know your child so don't let anyone tell you that your'e wrong. Congratulations on your freedom from diapers!! I have 5 children of my own. 3 of them are potty trained and they were trained at completly different ages. They are all normal well adjusted children.

Answer 8

Without knowing what methods you have used to encourage or persuade him to use the potty, I can't answer the question of whether you are putting too much pressure on him. My own daughter stopped wearing nappies at around 3.5 but I think that is quite late (she is pretty headstrong and likes to do things at her own pace!). But every child is different.

In far eastern countries (Japan, Korea and some parts of China) I gather that they aim to have them potty trained by 18 months as the norm. But I do think they put too much pressure on their kids, personally.

Answer 9

Some kids potty train earlier that others. Don't worry about what everyone else is saying. As long as he's happy & is still clean & dry, screw it. He may have an accident here and there, but it's normal. You know your child better than anyone else. Congrats to you & your little boy. That's such a big step.

Answer 10

How is that putting too much pressure on him? It's obviously a personal choice of his own, otherwise he would be soiling himself.

If he's able to stay dry all day long with no problems at 2 years old, then good for him!

When I was younger, my mom started potty training me early. I'm the one who told her one day, no more diapers! I was around 2 if not a few months younger.

I think that people are trying to keep their children "babies" for much too long. If they start doing something on their own with no problems, then let them do it! They're simply developing faster then other children their age. There's nothing wrong with that.