2006-09-22 03:22:55 · 24 answers · asked by ghanajen 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
We've been together for a year and a half and I do believe he is the one I will marry eventually, so what's the rush? On the other hand, financially it's better...
2006-09-22 03:24:23 · update #1
If he loves you he will wait until you are ready to live together. If you are really meant to be together and you have the rest of your lives then there is no rush in moving in together. Enjoy your relationship for what it is now and continue to grow as a couple. Eventually you will both be ready to take the next step and that is how you will know it is right. Don't let ANYONE rush you into something you aren't ready for and don't morally agree with.
2006-09-22 03:26:31 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Financially its better and to me I think living together before getting married is important. Men change when you live with them....if you can live with him for a while and get along without killing each other then you will know what the rest of your life will be like. At this point you don't know any of his bad habits cause he is on his best behavior around you. My first advice if you move in is making it clear that you are not his mommy nor his maid and that things will be 50/50 or its a deal breaker!! Let him know you are a team....and don't accept less! (personal experience)!
2006-09-22 03:33:15 · answer #2 · answered by Shae 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I strongly advise AGAINST doing so.
Don't let economics or the "going trend" influence you into doing something that is morally and ethically wrong.
That's right - I said it is WRONG.
People have been shacking up since after the landing of the Ark, and it's not a smart idea. It means that marriage is just a by-product of a relationship rathar than a bonding of two souls into one. Statistics show that divorce among people who never lived together before marriage is lower than those who did live together first and second marriages.
Divorce is something like 50% for first marrieds and 60% for second marriages (which are more complicated due to blended families).
My advice, for what it is worth (and I know people feel very strongly about this, so they will vent against my answer, which is ok...) is to show more committment to your relationship to each other by waiting to co-habit until after the marriage vows. The only thing that shacking up does is POSTPONE marriage. I know that when my hubby suggested to live together, I strongly said NO and he rushed, literally, to the alter.
So just project yourself into the future a bit, and look back, and see if this is what you want your children to see as one of your life choices. Do you want their respect, or dishonor?
You're an adult now. Make the correct adult choices that you will be proud of many years from now.
I'm off my soap-box now. I return you to your regular scheduled answers! LOL
2006-09-22 03:26:38 · answer #3 · answered by YRofTexas 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It will be a good way to test the waters. By living together, you will see what life would be like if you were married. Make sure that you have a way to bail out though if you need to. The pros are that financially you will be able to split the cost of things, while negatives are that you won't have time alone much.
2006-09-22 03:29:00 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
If you are sure he is the one you want to marry are you engaged? Are you already sleeping together. If it because you are not slepping together then stand by your gut fellings. If you are sleeping together then My advice would be to put everything in writing that way if things do not work out you will have proof of who pays what and receipts for all you pay for. Then you are covered.If he is the one I ope everything goes well foryou I mean if financially it will be better then you cansave more for your dream wdding and honeymoon. Best of luck to you. May God bless.
2006-09-22 03:32:40 · answer #5 · answered by wolfy1 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Don't is right
things change when you play house
and who needs to have a man say I can't wait
if he cannot wait
what makes him think a marriage will work
chances are you will never get married if you do
And by you not moving in you prove
the kind of woman you are
All blessings come to those who wait
and place God first
2006-09-22 03:26:31 · answer #6 · answered by Queen A 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Tell him to get lost. He should be the one setting the standard, and why do you need another jerk out of the sea of all aliike? Why would you even consider it and why are you even considering marrying such a man?
Now I notice the liberals are chiming in below with their usual horrible advice to "just do it." The divorce rate is nearly 50 per cent, direct evidence that there way does not work. Hence, I suggest that their condition could be classified as clinical insanity.
2006-09-22 03:23:58 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 2⤋
Why wouldn't you want to live together before marriage? You don't really know a person unless you live with them for a while. I think that your boyfriend is right in this matter.
2006-09-22 03:38:25 · answer #8 · answered by njagalamalaya 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
If it goes against what you believe is right, then he'll just have to deal with it. I guess he'll have to pop the question, lol. But another thing, if you really wouldn't mind it, but the only reason you are hesitant to is because of what other people might think, then screw other people, go for it!
2006-09-22 03:26:49 · answer #9 · answered by ~*Lady Beth*~ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok its better money wise. but i think living together before u get married because it devalues marriage. just be patient and if and when u do get married that will be something u get to build together
2006-09-22 03:32:41 · answer #10 · answered by sexygurl 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋