Me and my boyfriend have been together for 4 months. About a month ago i was looking in his dresser for something and i saw a bunch of porn magazines and movies. Yesterday i looked again and there was a bunch more. I have no idea how to confront him about it without sounding like i was going thru his stuff. Help please!!!!!
2006-09-22 03:19:56 · 13 answers · asked by Me♥Manatees 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
im 17 and hes 22. it does have the physical part too
2006-09-22 03:53:14 · update #1
He's a normal red-blooded guy ... leave him alone!
You shouldn't have been looking in his dresser and so you've no right to confront him. Besides, he only reads and watches the stuff to get off on - we all need release when our women aren't around!
2006-09-22 03:22:19 · answer #1 · answered by Marinersfan 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
What ever you do, I wouldn't tell him you were going through his stuff. He will probably end the relationship right there! He will feel as if he can't trust you. Just ask him if what turns him on, ask him what he is into. If he doesn't admit to it, then ask him if he likes porn, and why. Ask him if he has any, and if you are comfortable with it, ask him if you can see it too. But don't tell him that you seen his stash. That will just end bad.
2006-09-22 10:32:33 · answer #2 · answered by Snow 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I suppose he could look elsewhere like another person but you haven't indicated if or what the level of the relationship is.
If it's a relationship of a non-sexual nature sometimes this is how it can be addressed by reading and releasing to porn.
It's not usual but it can become addictive.
What are the ages of both parties?
2006-09-22 10:26:39 · answer #3 · answered by cjrrock 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I am guessing you guys aren't having sex yet? Well that is his replacement. If I was you, I wouldn't worry about it unless you want a sexual relationship with him.
Without "material" alot of men become quite tense and frustrated and sometimes a little angry. If you are having sex, then it would probably be worth asking him about it.
2006-09-22 11:54:02 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
dont get mad at him porn is away for something different without cheating so just leave it go+ watch some with him thats even better
2006-09-22 10:22:02 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Let him look at the books...you never know, he may get new ideas to try with you from them. Think of it this way, at least you didn't find proof that he's cheating on you with someone.
2006-09-22 10:22:30 · answer #6 · answered by Angela D 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Guys watch porn, it just happens. You should watch it with him as a bonding experience.
2006-09-22 10:22:23 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Guys are visually stimulated... It's no big deal if he has a few mags... Ignore it...
Got rid of most of mine when I got married but still keep a few for nostalgia sakes... wife don't mind...
2006-09-22 10:22:49 · answer #8 · answered by Andy FF1,2,CrTr,4,5,6,7,8,9,10 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
just tell him that u found the magazines and tell him how u feel....
2006-09-22 10:22:31 · answer #9 · answered by sexygurl 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
DON'T SAY ANYTHING HE LIKES TO WATCH PORN DEAL WITH IT.
2006-09-22 10:23:30 · answer #10 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋