I have a friend that was going through a bad divorce or so we thought. I introduced her to my cousin and hit it off great, but we later find out that she isn't divorced that her hubby cancelled it because they are working it out hes a complete d*ckhead abusive to her badly anyways shes just playing games with my cousin because she tells him that her and her hubby are done and she wants to be with my cousin,but then she tells me that her and her hubby are working it out and she just wants to be friends with my cousin and in the mean time my cousin is in love with this s*ut and I feel responsible for him getting hurt by her because I introduced them. I know its none of my business but I cant just sit back and watch him get hurt by her. She was my best friend and he and I grew up like brother and sister not at all like cousins so I need help what can I do to stop him from getting hurt by her?
2006-09-22 03:00:34 · 14 answers · asked by Missy 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Tell your cousin that you think she is using him. What he does from there is up to him.
Moving forward, never set anyone up with a married friend.
2006-09-22 03:03:35 · answer #1 · answered by DidacticRogue 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First of all, your friend and cousin are adults. They will need to work it out themselves. What you can do is take your cousin out to lunch and tell him that you think you made a big mistake and why. You will need to be mature and not call the woman a sl*t or resort to name calling or character assasination. Your cousin will have to decide what he will tolerate.
For example, " Cuz, I feel really bad that I introduced you to ___. I feel she is playing her husband, and you. She hasn't been honest with you, me or even her husband. I worry she is not the type of person that I thought she was. If you look at her past and present behaviors they are good indicators of her future behavior. If she is willing to deceive and lie to her own husband, why would she treat you any differently? I feel responsible to tell you how I feel. I wish I hadn't introduced you, but I did and I guess it's your choice now."
You may have to tolerate her if he decides to be with her, and you may have to comfort him when she hurts him. But at this point you must let go...it is out of your hands. As adults we learn that we can't control other people. You acted in good faith, and unfortunately things happened beyond your control. Things have a way of working themselves out without our intervention.
2006-09-22 03:08:48 · answer #2 · answered by Eric A 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It was nice of you to introduce your cousin, but it was probably way too soon,as she hasn't really gotten over her husband but wants to keep hold of your cousin as a sort of comfort blanket, something to fall back on.The thing is her head is a shed as well,and she possibly won't know which way to go.You must tell her to be honest with your cousin,and if she won't except that tell her you'll tell her hubby,and maybe it'll wake her up.
2006-09-22 03:11:53 · answer #3 · answered by Countess 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you need to be honest to your cousin and let him know the truth. it sounds like you friend is so confused right know and is playing a game because she dont know what to do...she probably still loves her husban but knows it will never work,, so she is keeping your cousin as a back up... be a good man and have a talk with her first and tell her if she dont do any thing or tell your cousin her feelings than you will have to. good luck!!
2006-09-22 03:06:32 · answer #4 · answered by mary c 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you need to talk to your so called friend and of she wishes to do nothing about the situation then you have to tell your cousin. family comes first in our family and that should hopfully be the same in your family. if you don't tell him than your other family member are going to be angry with you if you don't tell him as if you tell him the truth then youwill have nothing to be guilty about. i hope you find the right answer for you as all people are different. good luck.
2006-09-22 03:16:17 · answer #5 · answered by louise b 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Okay this is soooo wrong, but you should tell her that you are going to tell her abusive husband about her and your cousin if she doesn't stop messing around.
2006-09-22 03:20:32 · answer #6 · answered by kindofkitty 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all if your cousin loves her it is nothing you could do to stop him from hurting. I would tell my cousin what is going on with her and leave it up to him if he would like to contniue to deal with this broad.
2006-09-22 03:06:24 · answer #7 · answered by ADRIANNE C 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Simply tell him what she has been telling you.
And maybe you can tell her she is not being much of a friend if she is playing your cousin that way.
2006-09-22 03:03:52 · answer #8 · answered by JC 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
why didn't you go and indirectly ask her hubby? Your cousin and friend are both adults and can work it out themselves! I think you have done enough damage!
2006-09-22 03:13:31 · answer #9 · answered by Rainbow 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
c missy u ra not guilty for that what u need to do is first tell ur cousin to think of his future n v will think of her later then u can take him to ur friends house n show him clearly i dont think he will get hurt bcz he has not lost any thing first try to make him think of his future
2006-09-22 03:10:53 · answer #10 · answered by abhi 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋