earlier i asked the question "can i divorce my parent" to which i got the wrong response, let me clarify, i am a 28 year old man and since he cheated on my mum, my dad has dis-owned me(a total of 12 years ago) he only lives 5 minutes away and i have now found out he has married the woman he cheated on my mother with and adopted her children, what i am asking is can i legally divorce or seperate myself from him resulting in him no longer being my father in the eyes of the law?
2006-09-22 02:51:24 · 24 answers · asked by iamthemullit 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I really don't think you need a divorce for this... basically what you've just said is declaring enough. You are an adult male not dependent upon a parent, so I believe that's it.
The person you should tell that you are no longer considered his son and he is no longer considered your "parent" is the man you're referring to.
But just consider this... your heart is heavy and hardened now, but in time, all things tend to change and lighten, including feelings.
2006-09-22 02:57:36 · answer #1 · answered by E. Gads 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He will always remain your biological father and I feel the separation you require is not a legal one. It appears you are needing an emotional 'divorce' from the hurt inflicted through neglect and rejection, by the one person in life who should have said "son I Love you and I'll always be here for you" Men need that intimacy with their dads but when it's not their it leaves a massive bitter void which we try and fill up with other relationships or worse. The satisfaction you'll get from a legal document will be brief and will not last. Check out your heart first, painful as it maybe..where it;s broken and where it needs healing because that's the only lasting method which will work.
2006-09-23 08:43:51 · answer #2 · answered by david l 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i say been over 18 and no longer a dependent, you would be wasting your money on court fee's and solicitors. this could only add more fuel to your anger towards him. have you talk to your mother about it (I'm hoping your mother is still alive) or how would your mother feel about this? being dis-owned by ones father is near unforgivable in anyone eyes and then to marry his mistress and to live 5 minutes away would seriously enrage the best of us. it's obviously eating you up. take a step back.......... breathe in.... hold it....hold it........ breathe out. repeat after me
''F*CK IT i'm not wasting anymore of my energy or precious time on that man ever again until I decide to forgive him or not'' it won't be easy at first but it will get better with time.
i had my own skeletons in the pass which i had to leave go,
believe me they were just as heart breaking as yours are now
get on with your life there's more to it than anger
i hope you resovlve your problem and if you do i wish you all the happiness in the world
2006-09-22 10:52:04 · answer #3 · answered by sycamore 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
What the heck are you thinking, at 28 grow up! What in the wolrd would posses you to think you need to divorce your father for legal reasons? Do you think you can get money from him? Your an adult, act like one, ignore him if you choose, but divorce him? Get real. I am sorry that this happened to you, but either patch things up, ignore him, or just move on.
2006-09-22 09:55:39 · answer #4 · answered by finished 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
legally why, if your mentally divorced. He's always going to be 5 minutes away legally your father/ menatlly divorced either way he's still going to be there. Legally or mentally it's what you think of him as that will be the divorce. I think you probably can divorce your family, get a lawyer.
2006-09-22 09:57:21 · answer #5 · answered by GARY C 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
now i know what you are saying,he is all about his self and does not care about anyone,send him a letter and let him know how you feel,in the long run it will come back to bite him in his but,he will hurt just like your mom and you,the lady he is with now will do him the same way soon er or later,but i donr think the law will let you but you could go on the web and look under your laws, but for you let him now what a *** he is and you and your mom are better off with out him
2006-09-22 10:09:59 · answer #6 · answered by mensert 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Learn to forgive, he didn't divorce you, you dicorced him long time ago. That is why he moved on and got himself another family. There is no need to bring the law in now. You are your own man. Live and let live.
2006-09-22 10:17:16 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Grow Up for God's sake!!!! If this is the only problem you have in your life, you need to get a life. He cheated on your mother so He'll probably cheat on his new wife. You need to get over it and get on with your life.
2006-09-22 10:03:39 · answer #8 · answered by brj 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes you can but its a pretty adruous task, and its probably easier to change your name by deed poll to your Mums maiden name and just have nohing to do with the man
2006-09-22 09:56:07 · answer #9 · answered by poli_b2001 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes you would need to see a solicitor.
but the down side of it is when he dies you get nothing! and the cash estate will goto the woman and children you admire so much
2006-09-22 09:55:34 · answer #10 · answered by ALISTAIR G 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋