is it right or wrong. to stay with someone u loveif thet are constantlyscrewin around is it? or am i stupid?

Question

but if i 4 give her every time . its cuz i f-in love her. your supose to forgive.right?

Answer 1

Here's my deal Does it eat you up inside if not then just except it tell her to be respectful enough to practice safe sex and then stop worring about it just because this is a huge issue for others does not mean they are right and you are wrong. My man had a wandering eye and pecker for a long time but it really wasn't an issue for me he came home to me at the end of the day and was everything I wanted so I just made it clear he better hide it well and after 4 years he doesn't play around anymore somewhere along the line he grew out of it.

Answer 2

you can always forgive her, but you shall never forget the feelings that you had when you discovered she was screwing around. The point here is that when you forgive others for wrongs they have done you are suppose to learn lessons from those situations and move on with your life. You seem to keep going back into situations you should have learned from already. (please make sure you have protected sex with her since you know she's been with other) I would ask her to jointly go get tested for std's every three months and see if she respects you enough to even do that and just let her see the things you must go through just because of her actions.

just know what you want and how much you are willing to tollereate in this relationship. if her being with other people seems alright once you forgive her, then so be it.

But she is taking your forgivness for granted ( which may mean she takes you for granted too), she may just be using you ( for money, love, sex etc)

also, you may not even love her the way you think, you may have some type of dependancy on her- like a mental state of mind that makes you feel good just to be in her presence.( like a drug)

anyway- do only as much as your heart can handle. when this relationship takes you outside of character or makes you depressed in any manner, or has you taking up habits that are unlike you- STOP IT and cut her off. good luck and enjoy

forgiveness is a true healing of a broken heart.

Answer 3

The Ability to Forgive another Persons Continued Behavior is Truly Amazing and Super-Human!
Confront this person in a Loving Caring way!
Express your Deep Concerns!
If You want to be with this Person and They are Serious about reconciling the relationship-then an answer will be revealed and

You may possibly both Move on Together!
It Will Be an Uphill struggle mind you with a Lot of Hard work to do!
Is it Really worth it to YOU??
That is the Question!

Answer 4

I am sorry you have a gf that is cheating on you. If you continue to forgive and she is not stopping then you need to walk out. I know this is not going to be easy when you love her but it is not fair to you and is she going to give you a disease. Look I know how hard this is going to be Iam helping my 19 year old leavehis wife who is doing the same thing. He has a 19 month old daughter to take care of because she is tired of being a mom. It is not easy for him he has been with her scince he was14 and married for 2 + years but she even brought men into their aprtment and didit in front of the baby. So I do understand and you are goimng to have to be strong you deserve better and you will find someone who will love you and trreat you right. I will pray for you, you can also email me if you need more encouragement. I will try to help. Good luck

Answer 5

of course, you should forgive her, but even Jesus says, forgive, but not forget. She is using you as a safety net. Besides the obvious health risk that she is to herself, what about you? she has broken your trust so many times, and now she is playing you. I'll go off and do guy A because I know my sweetie who will forgive me is home waiting like an idiot. sorry love, she is playing you and you desearve so much more than that. You deserve someone who is going to love you and only you. get some help to get over her. it will be better for you in the long run. good luck.

Answer 6

If she is cheating on you and has done it more than once then:
1. She doesn't respect you at all
2. She doesn't really love you back or she wouldn't do it
3. She has too many issues of her own to be in a relationship
4. She is very selfish cause she could catch a disease and bring it home to you....is that what you want?

If she isn't willing to change, move on with your life and find a woman who respects you and loves you and wants to be only with YOU. Love yourself enough to do the right thing!

Answer 7

This is the crazy. When you share lovemaking with someone, it's supposed to be a special thing shared only between two people. When one of the couple is sharing outside of the relationship, it's no longer special anymore, and I would venture to say that you are just plain old stupid. No one else gets or give me lovin' except my significant other.

Answer 8

People fall in love so one day they may have a permanent relationship. Do you want a wife that's always messing around with other guys, when you get past the first love stage (that point when the dreamy feeling wears off)?
I wouldn't. Move on.

Answer 9

Yes, you are supposed to forgive eachother, but you are also supposed to respect and trust eachother. Respect and trust for eachother is key when it comes to a relationship. Without either of those the relationship will eventually fall apart. You really need to decide if this is the life you want for yourself. Every spouse knows the consequence of cheating. So when a spouse goes through with cheating regardless of the consequence, that is telling you that either they don't care of the consequence or that they know you won't follow through. This is an obvious sign of disrespect towards you. Personally I feel that if you truely love someone, really love them, you couldn't cheat. For fear of losing them and simply because you love them so much. As much as you love her, could you do this to her? You deserve to be loved and respected, so why settle for less? Consider what her infidelity is doing to you. You probably question everything she says and you probably beat yourself down because she treats you this way. Eventually you will self destruct with no love, no respect, no support, no security and no trust. Another thing to consider is STD's. Are you willing to allow her to risk your own health. If she cheats on you once, it's her fault. If she cheats on you again, it's your fault for puting up with it!! So realize that you are doing this to yourself as you continue to deal with her infidelity. Are you happy with this life??? Good Luck & God Bless!

Answer 10

Well, if she loved you back, she wouldn't be hurting you over & over. The only time its ok to screw around is if you have a mutual agreement about it, which clearly you don't. You sound miserable, and I can't imagine why you're staying in a relationship that makes you miserable. You should move on, there are plenty of girls out there that will not screw around on you.