what do you do when your man gives you bad oral sex?

Question

I got a really bad yeast/infection from a new male partner who gave me the worst oral sex. He was rougher and his skills were really off but afterwards I felt itchy and sore and that is when the irritation started. Has this ever happened to anyone else?

Answer 1

Contrary to popular belief, oral sex is not a completely safe alternative to vaginal or anal sex. Chlamydia, human papillomavirus (HPV), gonorrhea, herpes, hepatitis (multiple strains), and other sexually transmitted diseases (STDs) — including HIV — can be transmitted through oral sex.[14]. However transmission of HIV through fellatio or cunnilingus is relatively rare. Any kind of direct contact with body fluids of a person infected with HIV (the virus that causes AIDS) should be avoided. In 2005, a research study at the College of Malmö in Sweden suggested that performing unprotected oral sex on a person infected with HPV might increase the risk of oral cancer .[15] The risk from most of these types of infection, however, is generally considered far lower than that associated with vaginal or anal sex.

Furthermore, oral sex should be avoided when either partner has wounds or open sores on the genitals or mouth, or bleeding gums in the mouth, or has recently brushed, flossed, undergone dental work, or eaten crunchy foods such as potato chips, all of which can cause small scratches in the lining of the mouth. These wounds, even when they are microscopic, increase the chances of contracting STDs that can be transmitted orally under these conditions. Such contact can also lead to more mundane infections from common bacteria and viruses found in, around and secreted from the genital regions. Because of this, many medical professionals advise the use of condoms in the performance of fellatio (flavoured condoms are available for this purpose) and the use of plastic or latex sheets (dental dams or ordinary plastic wrap) for cunnilingus, although the latter has failed to achieve the same level of widespread use as condoms.

Answer 2

As a gay man who prefers receiving and giving oral over anything else, I can tell you without a doubt that it is great. It takes a little getting used to, but practice makes perfect - and all guys love receiving.

Answer 3

Find a woman who will give you good oral sex.

Answer 4

Tell him what you want. Men do not know what a woman wants down there. Don't let him be rough.Tell him that it hurts you when he is rough .I personally don't let anyone put there fingers in there cause it causes infections because peoples fingers and especially their fingernails are disgusting and full of bacteria and dirt.
Let him know next time. When he is down ther say slow down and let me show or tell you what feels good. Don't tell him it sucked last time, but tell him that you'd PREFER it like.. blah blah blah

Answer 5

get another man...and keep on trying until you find one that satisfies your needs.

better to have a sign on your back...saying....need a man who gives good oral sex.

Answer 6

You should tell him what he did wrong and you do need to go to the doctor because it might be an STD not just a yeast infection. But you have to be honest with him. One time that happened to me and I told my b/f what he did wrong and it has been great ever since.

Answer 7

FIRST GO TO THE DOC AND SEE THAT EVERYTHING IS OK MAKE SURE THE DOC CHECKS FOR STD'S ESPECIALLY HERPES AND SYPHILIS NOT TO SAY HE HAD ANYTHING BUT YOU NEVER KNOW NEXT IF EVERYTHING IS GOOD WHEN YOU AND IF YOU SLEEP WITH HIM AGAIN WALK HIM THREW THE PROCESS OF HOW YOU WANT IT DONE DONT SETTLE FOR NOTHING ELSE YOU HAVE TO ENJOY IT AS MUCH AS HE

Answer 8

No, I wouldn' t let him do it again and would go to the doctor to get something for the irritation. Did you actually do it afterwards, it could be an std.

Answer 9

Try regular sex for heavens sake.

Answer 10

awwwww honey, you have got to tell him. Don't let him hurt you anymore. Be gentle, don't hurt his ego, but please tell him. He will appreciate it in the long run. He wants to please you and be known and remembered as good lover. Poor baby, he thought he was doing the darn thing!