I am 16 and in high school, and i have extreme dating standards such as nobody that smokes, drinks, or does drugs. I also have limits about what they have done with others. Is this normal or not?
2006-09-22 02:39:49 · 23 answers · asked by Dustin 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
As you already know, your standards do not fall under "normal", at least for your age group. You have acquired a wisdom that comes with maturity. It does create a dilema because 16 year olds usually explore a lot of activity that is restricted to this age group. Your problem is that it is going to be years before anyone matures to the level you are at. It would be a rare person who would be worthy of you at this age. Have faith that somewhere out there is another person with standards. You are the most valuable thing you will ever have the joy of experiencing wholly and it will be worth waiting to find someone worthy.
2006-09-22 03:00:53 · answer #1 · answered by Sunbaby 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes and good on ya coming from a girl who really didn't start with a lot of standards but have slowly gotten there all those listed standards are important ones thes aren't frivolous things were you to say she has to be 5'7" with blonde hair and hazel eyes now those are unhealthy standards but drinking, smoking, drugs and sex should not be part of the 16 year old dating process value your standards don't try to get past them if she doesn't represent the image you do she is not right for you and could potentialy drag you down.
2006-09-22 09:46:31 · answer #2 · answered by Katlynn 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
"Nobody that smokes, drinks, or does drugs" is NOT an extreme standard! Being concerned with a person's sexual history is not an extreme standard, either! Those are all good, healthy, moral standards that you have every right to abide by if they're important to you.
An "extreme standard" would be something like, "I only date women who weigh less than 100 pounds," or, "I only date girls who know how to play at least three musical instruments."
Your standards are normal and very respectable.
2006-09-22 09:44:16 · answer #3 · answered by purplekitten1979 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is very good to hear that a young man, such as yourself, has these standards. Many don't care and often look for that "trashy" girl because they know just how far she is willing to go. Try looking in your local church or other youth groups for a girl. Even if you don't find the right one soon, you have plenty of time and she will come along sooner or later.
Keep your standards, there is nothing wrong with that!
2006-09-22 09:43:56 · answer #4 · answered by mvngs 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
GOOD FOR YOU!!! dont ever drop your standards and "settle" just to get a date! Oh man.. you have good standards. why would you want to be with someone who abuses their body? drugs, smoking, drinking all of these things are not cool. kids think they are but they arent. good for you for knowing what you want and sticking to it, ignoring peer pressure. There will come a day when you meet that special someone and if you caved in, it may be the difference between something wonderful and something really bad. dont do something you'll regret later because it was the "in" thing to do at the time, or because you wanted to get a date. good luck and God bless you. dont back down!
2006-09-22 09:44:46 · answer #5 · answered by Joyce K 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds a little judgmental and picky, dude, but it is your life and you have a right to set your standards however you like. You may find that your standards become more and more strict until nobody fits your criteria and you spend the rest of your life alone. Or you could try a church group, there are probably some nice, straight edge people there.
2006-09-22 09:44:45 · answer #6 · answered by noambition 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dont mess with your standards, cuz when you DO find someone that fits it to a T.....you'll be happy most likely. And KEEP the other limits as a standard too, because if they made mistakes before, what's going to stop them from doing so again?
2006-09-22 09:47:11 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
hey !!
well as far as the smoking drinking and drugs go u are totally right !!
you should not be seeing someone who does all that !
firstly cause you are too young for it and secondly cos ....even thought u may not be indulging in all that but still you may suffer ......like second hand smoking etc ,
so its right to keep such standards !
btu when it cums to past relationships ............i donno............i mean many people make mistakes ........and you cannot penalise them for that !
maybe you shouldnt be soo picky about their past relationships ! but keep tat in mind also !! as to why they broke up and all that !
if you dont feel 100 % comfortable you shouldnt do it !
and stick to your principles......watever happens !
2006-09-22 09:44:53 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
your a breath of fresh air. not many like you left. i think your one of the most normal 16 year olds I've heard about. keep those standards .it may be a while before you find what your looking for but it will be worth waiting for.
2006-09-22 09:47:08 · answer #9 · answered by ash 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't drop your standards where sex, drugs, smoking and alchohol are concerned...there are girls out there that meet those standards...and you are young and have plenty of time to meet the right girl. Be patient!
2006-09-22 09:43:19 · answer #10 · answered by Shae 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋