2006-09-22 02:25:35 · 15 answers · asked by Daniel B 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
Yes, they should. It shows your respect, and that it's truly a family wedding.
2006-09-22 03:02:02 · answer #1 · answered by Lydia 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The parents inclusion on the invitation are decided on these types of questions:
- do the bride and groom live with their parents (one or all)
- do either the bridge or groom receive financial support from the parents
- are the parents paying for the wedding
If the parents are paying for the bulk of the wedding, yes, you put them on. If the bridge and groom have lived together for a while, are older than your average first wedding age, and are paying for the wedding it is not mandatory to put the parents name on the invitation.
The parents names on the invitation are an old way of indicating that this family is giving this bride to this other family. Granted it's not quite like that any longer. But if the bride and groom are independent of their parents, it wouldn't make a lot of sense to have their names on the invitation.
Also, you can do one set of parent's names. Let's say the bride's family isn't in the picture or against the marriage, etc., it can have just the groom's parents.
It's a tricky business. :) Usually the person you're ordering wedding invites through can help you with the proper wording for the invite.
2006-09-22 03:32:20 · answer #2 · answered by stimply 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I agree with Stimply. I have seen it all ways, just with the Bride's family, with both, or with none. It all depends on how the parents feel about the wedding and if they are paying. If the Bride's family is "giving" the daughter away and paying definitely include them on the invitation. If the couple is older, paying, or living together, I would say that the parents don't have to be included. But if you are inviting friends of the parents, it's nice to tell them who is putting it on. Look at a sample book at a Staples or Office Depot or a bridal shop. They have many examples. It gets complicated if you have step-parents, with who to include and how to word it.
2006-09-22 04:19:25 · answer #3 · answered by ht_butterfly27 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's personal preference. At my sister's first wedding, we had the following situation:
Groom's parents were still together
Bride was adopted by mother's old husband, from whom she'd divorced and then married again. Bride's biological father wasn't in the picture. So we said:
The parents of Larry and Lucy cordially invite you . . .
Covers all bases. You can, if you want, use the parents' names. It's entirely up to you.
And if you're the one getting married, congrats! Don't spazz out too much, weddings are always fun even when they're not perfect. It's those little quirks that make the day happy and memorable for everyone ^_^
2006-09-22 06:30:12 · answer #4 · answered by living_in_a_bell_jar 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Back to money, whoever is financially supporting the wedding, gets their name on the invite. You can have both sets of paents do the inviting, if they are both contributiing, or mention the groom's parents as his parents, if they are not contributing..Like:
Mr. and Mrs John Smith have the honor of inviting you to the wedding of their daughter, Mary Smith to Mr. Tom Jones, son of Mr. and Mrs. Mike Green.
If you the bride and groom are buying the wedding, you can just have your names. Or you can do as above, mention the names as your mom and dad. Like: You are invited to the wedding celebration of Mary Smith, daughter of -___ and Tom Jones son of Mr. and Mrs.___
Some of the wedding sites have examples of what is polite, and ask the printer what you can do, they are usually helpful.
2006-09-22 06:43:21 · answer #5 · answered by riversconfluence 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If they are paying for the wedding, yes.
Traditionally it goes like this:
Mr and Mrs Jones are pleased request the honor of your presence at the marriage of their daughter
Jane
to
Tom Smith
Son of Mr and Mrs Smith...
If the bride and groom are paying for all (or the majority of their wedding) themselves, it's okay to say something like
"Together with their parents..."
2006-09-22 04:46:15 · answer #6 · answered by sylvia 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Depends. If you want formal...YES. It is not necessary unless they are paying for the entire thing, then it may be a nice sign of respect.
Again, it is not necessary unless you want a FORMAL, traditional wedding invite.
2006-09-22 02:28:55 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's a good idea if your going to be sending invitations to your parent's friends, so they have a reference to who you are, especially if your invitation serves as an announcement as well.
2006-09-22 03:22:00 · answer #8 · answered by daisyk 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
to respond to your first question, I regarded on the Emily placed up Etiuette e book. in accordance to her e book, the only persons secure on the invite are those hosting the party. because of the fact your mothers and fathers are those paying, they are the hosts. So, you're no longer obligated (with the aid of etiquette) to incorporate your fiance's mothers and fathers on the invitation. to handle your 2nd remark. commonly, no one is obligated that can assist you pay for something. that's custom that the groom's mothers and fathers pay for the prepare consultation dinner, yet that's custom in user-friendly terms and is non-mandatory. while my destiny MIL found out we weren't going to serve alcohol because of the fact we could no longer have adequate money it, she volunteered to pay for beer and wine at our wedding ceremony. yet, his father has no longer volunteered to pay for something and we're not asking him to foot the bill for something. i've got on no account heard of the groom's mothers and fathers paying for tuxes or photos. commonly the marriage party will pay for their own tux leases.
2016-10-15 07:19:12 · answer #9 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Usually they are included, I have seen them on elegant invitations. :) it's nice to give some snaps to the parents.
2006-09-22 02:53:59 · answer #10 · answered by Madeleine 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋