You go out on a date with a new guy(but have known them for a while) after being alone for quite sometime. You both find each other physically and sexually attracted to each other...If you give in and have sex on the first date (using condoms to be safe) they avoid you in the future, Yet when you don't give in they also avoid you!!!!
Keep in mind that they know upfront you are not interested in marriage, moving in with them, having kids, or falling in LOVE. All you want is to find someone you like and trust to go out on a date, spend some time with, companionship and sexual activity when your both in the mood for it!!!! What the F**K is wrong with all these guys and this picture?????
2006-09-22 02:24:37 · 29 answers · asked by "N"saysable 1iric 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
What isn't wrong with guys? First off if we screw them were too easy if we don't we're prudish perhaps the only real answer to this delema is for us all to announce on the first date I will be going home and using my vibrator tonight and if this turns out to be a good date I will think of you while I do it. At least then they know we like sex were just not prepared to deal with sex with them for awhile.
2006-09-22 02:30:14 · answer #1 · answered by Katlynn 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I agree there is no winning when it comes to this with guys-you just have to do what works for you. Maybe just telling a guy up front what you wrote in the question would work? It usually works out ok if I am completely up front with someone about what I want and need. Either they like it and it works or they don't. Either way, it avoids complicated avoidings or relationships that both parties don't want.
2006-09-22 09:31:56 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sweets. Maybe the guys in your picture want marriage, relationships and having kids. I've never met a guy who would avoid me after not giving it up on the first date, thats pretty stupid, and if they did avoid me, I'd be SURE to never want to date them again anyways. Good Luck
2006-09-22 09:27:37 · answer #3 · answered by Angel Eve 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well i think if you did not have sex with him on the first date he would respect you more - the reason he did not contact you was maybe he just wasn't interested in dating you anymore - i don't think the lack of sex was an issue - if he was really interested he would have chased you for more dates and hoped for sex eventually down the road. bottom line probably - he just wasn't that into you - for the future - just be yourself and do what feels rite to YOU whether it's sex or no sex on first date and whatever happens with the guy happens.
2006-09-22 09:33:24 · answer #4 · answered by livetall1 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Basically, guys love the idea of having casual sex now and again but if a female is into it, then they get put off...if the girl does it cos he wants to then he's happy...
Its just some men like the idea of being in control of situations and by you doing what they do, they feel insecure.
2006-09-22 09:28:59 · answer #5 · answered by babybitch69 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think you are right, and I think all those "Men-Trapping Women" are to blame...you know, the ones who SAY "Oh, I don't want to get married", or "I don't want to be serious right now" in order to get a guy thinking he doesn't have to worry about her wanting to marry him...but it's just an act. So, I think they don't believe us when we REALLY mean it. I used to travel all over the country working construction, and when I told guys I was seeing that I would be leaving town when the job was through in 4 months, they never believed me....until I was leaving town!!! Unfortunately I think a lot of women's problems with men were/are caused by women who don't have their heads/minds/hearts/lives together and aren't grown up enough to know what and who they want.
2006-09-22 09:32:59 · answer #6 · answered by Sassy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is the question of the 21st century.
I am convinced that many men simply do not know what the heck they want! They just "flit" around until they are ready to settle down.
When they finally get tired of the singles scene, then they marry whomever they happen to be with at the time.
2006-09-22 09:28:13 · answer #7 · answered by Angela 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Stop dating the outgoing/aggressive guys? Most of the shy guys are usually have more integrity than the outgoing ones. Again, we can also complain about girls too who always notice the jerks but never the nice guys.
2006-09-22 09:27:57 · answer #8 · answered by Gazhan 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The bottom line is that you are desperate enough to tolerate these types of men. Set your standards higher and 'qualify' them as worth your time before you spend any time with them, let alone have sex with such simpletons.
2006-09-22 09:30:17 · answer #9 · answered by Eric A 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You know it is true what you say....I think in the first date it is important not to talk to much about your expectation in a relationship.....it is better if u don't talk to much go to the beach talk about no important topic....let him feel safe the guys are afraid to commitment so don't pay too much importance to him on the first day......go slow
2006-09-22 09:30:09 · answer #10 · answered by haki 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋