if beating and shouting is a no no then what is the right way to punish or dicipline your kids ?

Answer 1

Consistency is the key!

Do like Super Nanny - naughty mat, chair, step whatever. Don't back down on what you say - always follow through.

Time out, time out, time out! Make sure it's a place where there is NO fun. What's the point of sending your kid to their room to play with all their toys? Never understood that one.

Punishments such as taking toys, games etc. away from them for a certain amount of time. No outside play, no video games, tv. Stuff like that.

Answer 2

You can give a *gentle* swat on the behind, without "beating" a child, and you can say "No" and make it definite without shouting. Swatting should only ever be done with your hand, not a spoon or paddle, so you know just how hard you are doing it. Make sure your child knows what the rules are, and keep to them yourself. That means no changing the rules on your whim, AND keeping your word if you promise him something! Children don't respect hypocrites or the overly violent. But if you can win his respect, and show him you have reasons for what you do and what you expect from him, there won't be a problem. He can't read your mind, remember!There is nothing wrong with saying "please", "thank you" and "I'm sorry" to your kids. How else will they learn decent behaviour but to see you model it? If you yell and scream and lose your cool all the time, if you are violent, that is what they will learn.

Answer 3

There is a simple rule:

1. Never beat your kid upto 5year...
At this age child is innocent and he only expects Love and care from you. He can share everything with you. Never Lie to ur children. Try to teach them to refer Encyclopedia, this could be in the form of book or on computers or CDs.... (This works amazingly)

2. Between 5 to10 punish him/her, then just make the kid realize what mistake he has done ,, bcoz this is the age when kid is growing up and understands that if he'll do wrong he will be punished. He will gain the judging power... and most important:: In this age the children learns to give respect to Parent.... If he learns now he'll respect u forever...

3. After 10. Be his / her freind...
Treat the kid as ur friend... As now the kid is going through from some biological changes... he/she feels that this was the only difference of being a complete man/woman. Now he/she is Equivalent to their parents... They dont like parents Interruption in their life and many time they say that now "I am not a kid and dont treat me as a Kid"

Here one must treat them as freind...
Leisten to their problems and of course they many....
Here what works is only the teachings that you have given him untill he was ten.

So I think this will help you out

Answer 4

I can only go by what we do....if we have to yell at them, we have lost the battle. You have to get their attention by being stern when speaking to them. For small things we take away something they enjoy and ground them, for large things like stealing and fighting we spank them with a belt. We do not beat them with it, the sound is much worse than the feeling believe me.

Over the summer, the kids weren't doing what they were supposed to and really being defiant, so my husband made them work in our pastures all day. They couldn't come inside except to eat lunch, and replenish their water bottles. Talk about a big change after that, the rest of the summer they did what they were supposed to!!

Answer 5

When I was a kid, if my folks beat me or shouted at me, I used to possibly stop for the moment... but then repeat it, because it was my ego! That is average kid tendency!
"Parents have hit me to stop doing this? I will do it even more!"

The best is talk to them! Kids are intelligent! Explain reason to them! I am talking about "good reason".

Not Like: if u run in the water, God will punish you! Thats' very vague to a kid! & you should not try to scare kids of anything: mostly "ghost/ cockroaches will catch you"! This has effects on kids as they grow older!

Try these: if u run in the water, you will have cold and headache and you ca't go to school, or cannot go to play.

They will stop immediately!!!

Hope that helps!

All the best to you & your kids!

AB

Answer 6

Spankings and even raising (shouting)your voice is NOT a no no for me. I have 4 boys (8, 14,16,18) ANYTHING that is not abusive that works is the way to go. I use all of the following
: spankings, no tv, no video games, no outside, stay in room, time out corner, extra chores. I use a variety...I think variety is best because the buggers NEVER know what I am going to pull out of my hat. I just confiscated my 14 & 16 year olds cell phones monday because both of their teachers called regarding academics. (its kiliing them to not have their phones ) and I am loving it.

Answer 7

It depends on the child. I think you figure out what they like the most and take that away from them. For example, my daughter is 12 and her cell phone is one of the most important things in her life. So when she gets in trouble, it's gone! There are times when all I have to do is threaten that and she straightens up her attitude.
Other good forms of discipline are time outs, standing in a corner, grounding them from friends, TV, phone, a special function that might be going on, playstation... Whatever they like just take it away!

Answer 8

Hey, buy Super Nanny's book.
We use the naught step, or the naughty wall.
As long as you have decent control over your child this technique works very well.
I wouldn't suggest it with an overly agressive child.
Remember to punish your child in a part of your home that he/she does not play, sleep or do anything important in.
For example, sending them to their room when they misbehave., hello... most kids have toys in their room, and you also don't want them to associate their bedroom (where they sleep) with being bad.
Good luck

Answer 9

I have two kids of my own , and I spank my kids three times on the butt. Not hard, but enough to make them think. If they curse or talk back then I wash their mouth out with soap. If that doesn't work Then start taking away their favorite toys or favorite music, and have them "earn" them back. Give them chores to do, maybe that will help.

Answer 10

Depends on how old the kids are, if they are young (not teenagers) a good pop on the bottom does wonders for bad behavior. Teens need to have privileges taken away.

Screaming only hurts your vocal chords, because all they hear is Blah, blah, blah....... Get them where it hurts, there allowance, there time with friends, there TV and game time.....