I met a guy about 3 weeks ago and I instantly fell in love with him. He was our teacher, who then was replaced by a woman who teaches us now. It was like a lightning struck and I thought he liked me too. Then we once met on the street and I asked him to write a science work with me. We were to meet today. So we met today and he critisized my work and he was only talking about work (and I so hoped he'd ask me out or something) and I understood there could be nothing between us. And I so believed this was my perfect relationship, my perfect romance! He just didn't seem to care and he wasn't even glad to see me when I came for the meeting. And I dreamt of going to museams and cinemas together and talking to each other - not doing the stupid work. I looked at him and couldn't see the person I fell in love with. And though I was scared of today, I had hope. Now it's dead. He was an illusion, someone I didn't know. He looked at me and couldn't get it why I was so upset. I'm disgusted.
2006-09-22 02:00:14 · 8 answers · asked by Smiles 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
This doesn't sound so much like he rejected you, honey, as that you romanticised the person you *thought* he was...you dressed up the image of your "perfect man" and hung his face on it. That's pretty intimidating for the other person! You expected him to be "perfect" and discovered he was a real human being with a life of his own. He didn't say anything to you to lead you into thinking *he* cared, and then drop you, which is rejection. You have been living a fantasy till you convinced yourself it was true. We've all done it, with teachers, doctors, pastors---those men in authority that we respect and admire. But the fantasy has nothing to do with the real person, who, let's face it, you hardly know. You don't say what your age difference is, but I bet it's at least 15 yrs. You need to go out with young people your own age and grow up a little...deal with real people and not just your romantic imaginations of them.
2006-09-22 02:05:41 · answer #1 · answered by anna 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is just nasty, you liked a teacher? well all I can tell you is he is trying to stay out of jail which is pretty smart on his part. He might have liked you too but everyone knows that no matter how old the student is the teacher could NEVER date the student. Because even if he was to date you you would never see him anyway, because he would be in jail. So that was a lost cause anyway.
2006-09-22 09:09:00 · answer #2 · answered by Nicole 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he did the right thing by steering clear with his students though he can do it in a better manner. my dear, stop the fantasy it will do u no good. get to know more about ppl in general this will help u in your search for a good husband in the future. remember rommance isn't about looks but one who will love and care for u even in worst tolerable circumstances.
2006-09-22 09:10:56 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm really very sorry. I understand how you are feeling as I've gone through that horrible situation. I was in love with someone who I thought was nice and adorable but he turned out to be someone different from the one I was in love. And the worst is that, he started hating me, he thinks that I'm mad and he always insults me though I've forgotten him. He rejected my love and he hurt me terribly. He's still hurting me deeply, that's why I understand you. You feel so disgusted to have fallen in love with such a person. It was very difficult for me to forget him though as I loved him terribly anf whenever I sees him, he insultes me and makes me feel miserable and uncomfortable. It was so horrible. Everyday, I was crying because of him, he hurts me so much. He's the only one who's hurt me that much. It was sp painful and unbearable. Fortunately, I've got my friends with me who helped me in that situation. You know, to reject my love and to hate me are two different things, I had felt like dying!!I was so desperate and so lost, so vulnerable. Still now, he hurts me from time to time and I can't tell him anything, I don't have that strength to tell him to leave me alone. He still haunts me and it hurts so much when his memory comes to my mind.
2006-09-22 09:14:23 · answer #4 · answered by Franca 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Bad news. Not only is this how things go, you are going to experience a lot more of it before its over.
2006-09-22 09:06:35 · answer #5 · answered by AngiesHusband 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
there r greener pastures, baby.
2006-09-22 09:02:34 · answer #6 · answered by hsarora47 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's your teacher, he's SUPPOSED to do that!
2006-09-22 09:03:49 · answer #7 · answered by steelypen 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Welcome to life,
2006-09-22 09:04:55 · answer #8 · answered by Cobra 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋