My Uncle is dieing of liver cancer and some thing else that i can not spell how should i act around him?

Question

i have not seen him for 5 years and i saw him once before i went back to school this year i care so much about him that im just worried about him

Answer 1

Here's the most difficult thing we will ever do- say goodbye to people we love. So when someone is dying who you obviously love, the very best thing you can do is go and see him, hold his hand and say, "I don't know what to say to you right now, but I want you to know that I love you and you have always been a very important part of my life." He will then tell you exactly how you can be there for him.

Sometimes the dying just want to know that the people they are leaving behind remember fun moments you had and that you will keep the memory of them as strong and healthy, not the frail person you see now.
Go through your parents old photos and find some great ones of your uncle when he was a kid and pick out your favorites from your lifetime knowing him. Bring them over and you will have a great afternoon of laughing about things and remembering. Psst, it's also a terrific time to ask your uncle to tell you something funny or sweet about your parent that is his sibling.

Think about what you would want to do or talk about if your time was limited.

For all of us, when we draw our last breath, the only thing that will matter is who we loved and who loved us. And you know what? That is enough.

Answer 2

You should just the way you normally would. Ask him how he's been which can be took a number of ways and depending on how he answers you will now whether he wants to talk about his health issues. If not then move the conversation away so that there aren't any awkward silences.

If you dont want to do this, think of a memory you shared with him and start the conversation by saying "I was thinking the other day about......" and let him take the conversation there.

Basically engage him in conversation like you normally would but let him steer what direction it goes in. As long as you dont look uncomfortable being around him things should be fine.

Answer 3

Show him your love, not in an overwhelming way but just by sending him little cards, calling once in awhile if he can talk on the phone, and visiting when you can. Don't make a big emotional deal of it, just be supportive and kind. Even if he doesn't say much, the knowledge that you care enough to show it means a lot. Just sitting quietly in the room with him, or sending a card every few days to say "Hello" if he's too far away, means more than all the words in the world.

Answer 4

Try to be uplifting when you see him, like talk about some fun things that have happened to yall. Ask how he is feeling but don't be sad and intrusive, like if he is feeling okay, is there something that he would like that you can get (maybe his favorite food, or something he has wanted to read and hasn't had the chance.)

My dad died 3 years ago from cancer, and I felt it was the hardest thing to see the change in him from each visit. My sisters were telling me to be this way or that way, and I just treated him like he was still Good Ole Dad. We used to talk about sports, and what was going on in the news, and I really think he enjoyed it. There was one time that everything was getting him sick from the treatments, and he just had a craving for chocolate covered oreos, so I ran to the store and got him 2 boxes. It made his day.

Answer 5

I'm very sorry about your uncle but trust me on this one, a person who is dying does not want to be treated and differently than a person who is not dying. Just love him and try to be as normal as you were before you found out. Spend some quality time with him so you have good memorys after he is gone, but try to keep it normal, no crying and things like that. He will appreciate it and if there is anything he wants to say to you he will find a way.

Answer 6

don't act any different than you ever did with him.He's the same person he's always been.Give him a call and let him know that you are worried about him and that you love him.It's gonna be hard to do this,but,If you don't.You will regret it for the rest of you're life.If you cant bring yourself to call him send him a very nice card and write all the things you want to say.Just so he knows how much he means to you.And not just because he's sick.

Answer 7

if u love him so then just treat him like u love him, don't be different or wierd around him, this just makes it worse for him

How about telling him that u love him and r worried, this will open a path for a heart to heart between the 2 of u and u will help him in a way no one else can. it will also give you very good memories to hold onto when he does pass

Answer 8

act like yourself, talk to him the way you usually do, and be honest, it's important to tell him how you feel and what you think of him, tell him things you've always wanted tell him but never felt you could. talk about all the good times you've shared together. you know he is dying and you may not get the chance to tell him again. only be there as much as you can, try not to worry too much, i know, that's hard, talk to your friends about it,have a cry to them, that's what friends are for, they will support you. hope this is of some help. xx

Answer 9

Try not to look at him with sadness and fear in your eyes he will see it. Just smile and talk like nothing is wrong. And tell him you love him when you are on your way out of the door so it seems natural.

Answer 10

I'm sorry about your uncle's state of health .
I do not quite understand what you are asking ..

do you mean you actually want to write him some words to express your concern for him but because you could not spell well, you want to express your concern via your physical expression ?

If it so, you should pay him frequent visits during his last days. Buy him food that he likes to eat. Tell him jokes ...or anything to draw away his attention on his health.