OK!! last night my boyfriend went out to his friends birthday party thing(his friend turned 30) and he was like we're not gonna stay late b/c we all have to work ealry in the morning. so.. im thinkin he might leave around 10-1030.. so i was like why didnt you call me and let me know that you were gonna do that? he's like "i was in a rush" so im like you couldnt take 1 min out of your time and call me? and he's like i dont know.. so!! after wards.. i expected him to call me around 1030.. and he didnt.. so i called him and he didnt answer. and he called me back 5 mins after and i knew he was at a bar b/c i heard loud music. so i asked him what he was doing and he told me that they all decided to go to the bars for his friends b-day.. so im like ok why didnt you call me again? and he's like b/c we were lookin for the bar and i was like well you could of called me before you left. so he stayed out till 1 n didnt call till this mrning and said sorry to me.. what should i do?
2006-09-22 01:55:36 · 30 answers · asked by beth-y 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
He said sorry. That should be enough. It's not like he did something really bad. He just hung out with his friends. If you crowd him and demand to know what he's doing, who's he with then your going to loss him. If he cares about you, and he must, you should trust him.
2006-09-22 02:05:44 · answer #1 · answered by Lady Nell 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You are overreacting. Men dont like to be bothered when they are out with thier friends. And its not like you didnt know about it. Do you think that he kept checking the time if he was out having fun??? So what he had to work in the morning,,big deal hes a grown man. You are making this into a big deal and its really not at all. Give your man some space or you will push him away for good.
2006-09-22 08:59:21 · answer #2 · answered by michelle 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you shouldnt do anything but tell him i hope u had fun. he went out with his friends and had a good time and for no reason u feel the need to watch over him and make him call you. hes out with his friends as much as he loves you it not always about you. and the more ur like call me at exactly 1030 the more hes going to resist. and whats this part about "why didnt u call me and tell me you were gonna do that" u have got to be kidding me. hes a man out with ohter men do u want a play by play of all decisions made that night. you in my opinion r way to over protective maybe a bit immature and need to chill out before he kicks u to the curb
2006-09-22 09:04:08 · answer #3 · answered by rodie5582 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry to inform you, but you're the one with the problem. Let me explain. First, how do guys act when their together? Usually they are stupid and nothing else exists but the buds. Guys usually don't think of their ladies when they having fun with the guys. I'm not saying he's going to do anything (like cheat), but they do think about what they're going to do next in order to keep having fun. So yes, they forget to call. It happens a lot. You might as well accept it or you're going to be p*ssed off a lot. Second, why does he have to report in to you everytime something changes? Don't you trust him? Let him have a guys night out with you calling every five minutes. He is suppose to be your bf, not your child. If you don't trust him, why are you with him? You need to get your insecurities in check. Cuz let me tell ya, you will lose him if you continue doing this. It's one of the things guys can't stand. Especially if you do it in front of his friends. Try to chill.
2006-09-22 09:10:34 · answer #4 · answered by T.G. 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are way out of line here.
I know you don't want to hear this but you are going to lose this guy if you continue to be so possessive of him.
He went to a friend's birthday party and even if he did intend to leave early, he probably got caught up in the celebration. So what?
You are not his mother or his wife and he doesn't have to check in with you!
What you were last night was a nag.
Grow up, will you?
2006-09-22 09:01:01 · answer #5 · answered by Angela 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What is the problem? Your bf spend an evening hanging with his boys at some bars. So what? It was a birthday party, for crying out loud.
You need to loosen up A LOT! You are way too possessive!
2006-09-22 08:59:21 · answer #6 · answered by AngiesHusband 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is he your husband or your boyfriend? Because if he is only your boyfriend, what does it matter. Neither of you are commited to each other. I mean...you are not married. Also, why would you want to be with a man that spends all night in a bar? There are better men out there. Men that WILL treat you right.
Now I am not asking this of you because I want to be sexual or anything, but IM me so that we can chat about this. I wish to only give you right advice here. I honestly wish to help.
2006-09-22 09:01:19 · answer #7 · answered by Dead 2 Self 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
r u serious?? come on darl, i dont hate to sound mean, but lighten up, sounds like ur being a bit silly. give the boy some breathing room. does it really matter that he got carried away and stayed out a little late without calling? i know its nice to be informed so u dont worry and stuff, but he was probably just enjoying being out with his mates and didnt get around to calling. i think ur being a bit hard on him.
2006-09-22 09:00:03 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
stop bothering yourself for nothing!
Do you always think of your boyfriend and call him each time you move when you are with your friends???
he was partying
I think it's more than usual for him not to call you for one evening especially as it must have been a really good b-d party as they stop late even though all of them were working today!
and i really don't think that it even came to is mind that you would be hurt by this
for him he just have a really good evening with is friends and not calling you for one evening is apparently only a big deal to you
and you'll probably do exactly the same thing during your next girl night
2006-09-22 09:03:17 · answer #9 · answered by Chloe 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What should you do? Cut him some slack!! Men hate being hounded, and your need to have him call you and you calling him makes you look very insecure in this relationships.
Men like confident women,they don't like clingy, needy women. I hae learned this from experience.
Perhaps look inside yourself and ask yourself if he has given you any reason not to trust him?
If not, cut him some slack, everyone needss a night out.
Samantha
2006-09-22 09:00:01 · answer #10 · answered by samanthashane1122 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋