I don't know if it is dead or that you are preoccupied with other factions of your life.
You are at a crossroads and you both need to sit down and decide where this is going
2006-09-22 01:15:14
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answer #1
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answered by Anonymous
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I think you already know the answer to your question, but just do not want to admit it. You said that you are feeling like you stuck in a rut and he does not seem to have anything to say. I guess it is hard to get out from any relationship, bad or good because we are so use to the situation and forgot what life is all about. You just have to be brave and face the truth. The relationship is dying not because him or you...it is both of you. You are only 18 and he is only 20, you have so much going on in your life. Maybe you should go out more offen, meet new people. Expect the unexpected, before you realize, you will be in love or care for some else all over again...
2006-09-22 08:23:32
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answered by Cherry 1
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Wow, a legitimate question in Singles & Dating....I'm excited!
Anyway, it kind of sounds like you're both pretty stressed out and thats understandable. The good part is that since both of you seem to be in similiar situations, you're both ideal shoulders to lean on. Use this to your advantage. You might not stay a couple, but you both have the foundations for a great friendship. That being said, you could put your relationship on "hold" until you both sort things out.
If you guys are really meant to be together, you will find a way! Another important thing to remember is that "absence makes the heart grow fonder." If you spend some time apart, let your emotions and feelings settle, you might end up caring for him more than ever! I say care because you didn't make it clear whether or not you love him. Anyway, you're still young, and theres plenty of guys out there if this one doesn't work out! Good luck.
2006-09-22 08:20:55
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answered by Rivrav 2
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If it is possible, try to get away together for a weekend together. In the course of that weekend, you'll be able to rediscover the love you share (if there's anything left). If you still feel that way afterwards, then it may be time to move on. It seems hard to imagine life without him especially if he's been a part of it for so long, but if you hold onto that and not the love, you'll end up hating each other. I know you don't want it to come to that. Plus, if life is boring to you right now, the feelings you're having for your boyfriend may not have to do with him. Try not to confuse the two. This is a difficult decision so think about it really hard before making any decisions you may later regret.
2006-09-22 08:19:21
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answered by T.G. 6
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First of all,I think either one of you are too young to be seriously dating. You should have your mind,(and heart) focused in school.
If you get an itch to have sex or be cuddled ...Scratch it! But dont turn it into something that can overwhelm,or shadow everything else in your world.Why not keep 2,or 3,or more fellas on the ready for yourself. Just keep in mind that you are now an adult,so act accordingly in the situation at hand. You are still learning and growing,Treat yourself well,and treat others as you want to be treated. I think you feel that there is nothing else to bring to this relationship because you do feel deep inside that you want to grow more. Explore and grow.This is the time to do it.Be adventurous..but above all be safe,and respect yourself. Tell your friend you are stuck in a rut,and you want to resolve it by getting to like yourself better? maybe? Try not to be bored with life in general....This time in your life is when you dont have to show responsibility or prove your worthyness to anyone but you...Later too many resposibilities show up....Job,kids,family,bosses.....yuck!....When I was 18 ,I graduated ...then jumped in my van with one buddy and spent 5 month on the road between NYC and Calif.....I know I could never do that again, but I am glad I did it when I did. By the way I graduated in 1974.I now live in So. Cal. I am glad I did what I did,and learned alot of important people skills,and my social skills when I at the tender young age of 18-20. Cuz all I had to do was improve on them as I got older....AND wiser. Nothing feels better than to know you got your life prerequisits out of the way so you can take care of yourself with no one else to have to reley on. By requisits,I am refering to a higher education,and then some more learning in the Self department. Cuz lets face it if you are not happy with yourself,no one else will be either. And if you cant take care of yourself,how then can you care for someone else?Life is unpredictable,,,,And so exciting when you are prepared. I did not seriously date untill I was tired of being in the faster lane and ready ...(I thought)...to settle down....I think I was 28 then...Peace!
2006-09-22 09:09:35
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answered by dewhatulike 5
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People who are truly in love with each other do not get in a rut. Sometimes they get bored for a few hours and look for something to do together but not bored with each other. Go back and read your own question again. You will know the answer.
2006-09-22 08:28:35
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answered by Anonymous
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Why not give yourselves a break from each other and see how it goes. It sounds like your both stressed. Your both in college and your both young so there are lots of factors here. Take a dating break and re-evaluate the relationship after you both have eliminated some stress in your own lives.
2006-09-22 08:16:53
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answered by Mean Carleen 7
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take it one step at a time. no one said decisions have to be talen today and now. keep working on your studies, and your other life, and see where the relationship takes you. u are not totally unhappy, so why force situations, be friends, hang out, do stuff when u can. in the meantime, there is also other aspects of ur life. if you think u are still unhappy then make the decision , and get on with life...
2006-09-22 08:18:23
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answered by Anonymous
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As young as u both are,putting forth this type of effort really doesn't seem worth it.
Keep in touch thru letters and email but let the romance go, obviously there isn't any left anyway
You both need someone closer physically, like in the same school.
2006-09-22 08:16:43
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answered by koleebear 4
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The way the relationship he maintains with you, through this you can understand his honesty and sincerity. Moreover you says still you are a student. You have big life, don't break it.
2006-09-22 08:18:30
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answered by dolphin_enter 1
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if your both cold to each other and you both want to be with other people or you think staying together is hell, then you should part ways. it would hurt a while but if you think positive youll get on with your life.
2006-09-22 08:20:01
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answered by markinson 2
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