I am a foster parent who needs help?

Question

I have had the children for 15 months and their parent is not stable to get them back no job, no place, no nothing she will rely on others to help her if that and the division of youth and family services is willing to return them in 30-45 days

Answer 1

i'm sorry to hear about your problem... BUT, as you know the system fails children. protective services is a joke in itself. my ex-husband is from a rich family and took my children from me in our divorce (i'm just couldn't afford to fight as long with an attorney). about 10 months later my ex BEAT across the back, WITH A BELT, our oldest child (then 12). protective service gave me full custody of him BUT, said the other 3 YOUNGER children were in no danger because my ex-husband said he has NEVER beat any of them, just the older on on FOUR or FIVE occassions (yes, he admitted to that). our divorce is now 5 years old and protective service has been involved MANY times! he left our four year old daughter sleeping in his vehicle PARKED ON THE ROAD at 11:30 at night while he was down the street playing cards with his friends: she awoke, peed her pants and WALKED HOME from where he was parked. protective service said it was "clearly poor judgement, but since there were no physical injuries there was no neglect". that is what they said ON THE WITNESS stand. i have about a dozen more heart wrenching stories just like these...but i'll spare you the tears i'm certain you are shedding your own right now.

i just wanted you to know that you are not alone in your pain with child "protective" services. BEST OF LUCK TO YOU!

Answer 2

Here's the thing: in this picture, unfortunately the foster parent has the least amount of imput and authority. You should certainly make a report to the court and explain you concerns. Then, just let the judge make the decisions. If the children are returned, know that the Dept of Child Services is still monitoring the case, and the children will be removed if there is any non-compliance going on.

Answer 3

it must be so hard to take care of a child that long and not fall in love with them. however when you become a foster parent you know it isn't for ever but as a foster parent you do have the right i would think to want to insure the kids would be well taken care of perhaps you could keep in contact with the kids and be able to check on them as a friend .family service has been known to give kids back when they should not have

Answer 4

Exaggerate the children's needs when you file the monthly reports. Before we adopted our daughter we saw that her foster parents reported some scary behavior problems. When we asked about the incidents they explained that is what they did since social service wanted to move her into general foster care and they new she needed to stay in specialized care (1:1 child/ caregiver ratio).
Alfonso was rude - it isn't always about that check and we know that you can always get another foster child. It's about making sure those children are getting what they need.

Answer 5

Go above the caseworkers head. Considering how many children wind up dead in these kinds of situations, you need to go straight to the judge or get yourself a lawyer. What exactly are they returning the kids to if she is homeless and unemployed? To live on the street with her?

Answer 6

Somehow along the way DHH decided that placing abused and neglected kids back with their natural parents is best. I don't think this is always in the children's best interest. Petition the court. Good luck!

Answer 7

In other words, you'll be missing the monthly check right?
Family services don't return kids to parents who are not ready!!

Answer 8

I don't get the question.