My pal and I went out Wednesday night to a club and we met this gorgeous older guy and had lots of fun with him. After a couple of drinks my pal and him engaged in some more than provocative dancing and they moved on to some really hot stuff and ended up having a quickie in his car. She then rang me up last night with some real shocking news. She was having dinner with her boyfriend and his family to introduce her to the clan and it turns out that the older guy she had a one night stand with is her boyfriends father! He called her aside and told her that what they both did was a mistake and she should not tell and neither would he. She is pretty serious about this guy and admits that she made a silly mistake, but fears that it could turn ugly if her boyfriend found out on his own. Should she tell? What would you do?
2006-09-22 00:41:04 · 12 answers · asked by fareen 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
oh my god,sounds like the plot from a film. I would never have got myself into that situation to start with, but it could blow the whole family apart, it would ruin her relationship, his relationship with his father and his father's marriage also. Talk about destroying the whole family.
2006-09-22 00:43:45 · answer #1 · answered by sparkleythings_4you 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Betrayal – it's always the worst… The question of the girl confessing is secondary here, and in fact should actually resolve itself. The first issue is the young man's father. He, as his father, has profound moral and ethical obligations to his son. Think of it – he knows that his son is making a plan for THE REST OF HIS LIFE, and he also knows that he possesses critical information regarding his son's decision-making processes. The girl has options, the father does not. Being realistic, any rational person over the age of about 15 realizes that ultimately this will come out – such as during an argument between girl/guy, or dad/son. And people of this father's moral ilk will doubtless wish to drink from the well again. But by the time the truth comes out, lives may well have been ruined – children may even be involved. What your friend should do is confront dad and utterly insist that he tell the son. Then the son will be able to decide if your friend actually betrayed him: based on their personal arrangements. No doubt this course will not lead down pleasant paths, but at least your friend will have some high moral ground from which to launch discussions of repairing any damage done.
Now, with all the above said, no matter what, these two people don't really and truly have any kind of a reasonable future. It's genuinely only a matter of time, and how 'bad' things will get during that time.
2006-09-22 08:09:56 · answer #2 · answered by ericscribener 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Thats what drinking will do for you, gets you in some of the worst situration. For one if she really cared so much about her boyfriend she would of not had a quickie in the car with this other guy, Theres a thing called self restrian. Two she can either go with out telling hope that it does not come out or two she can confess what she did and hope for the best, as we both know this will hurt her boyfriend. But what will happen if they get married and this comes out. You are talking about the relationship between a father and his son. she got herself into a fix's
2006-09-22 07:58:32 · answer #3 · answered by Alley 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes she should tell what was the father doing out at a club? He is a slimebucket and should be exposed to his family for what he is doing.I say yes she should tell and she will be better off for it. But tell the b/f first and let him know what she is going to do . And if he thinks that it is not okay for her to tell then he is the wrong guy for her. Because anybody who would let their father continue in this behavior is not much of a person anyway.
2006-09-22 07:49:35 · answer #4 · answered by Kate T. 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow! That is some heavy stuff! If I were her, I would feel really freaky moving on with the relationship with his son. I just couldn't look at my father in law that way. I couldn't keep it a secret either....I would have to tell him. eek..........
2006-09-22 07:49:55 · answer #5 · answered by Whitney S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
NO WAY!!!...she should keep it quiet coz if it gets out its not just her thats losing her man its her boyfriends mother too....it will be awkward for her but she will just need to get on with it....if she had a boyfriend then y did she cheat?....maybe she should break up with her boyfriend....once a cheat always a cheat
2006-09-22 07:45:57 · answer #6 · answered by lil niks 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is the exact reason I hope to never get married for that metter even have a girlfriend...lol
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2006-09-22 07:54:47 · answer #7 · answered by stupidreplier1 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not if she really loves him and wants to continue the relationship!
2006-09-22 07:43:42 · answer #8 · answered by Sara_V. 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hell to the NO like his dad is gonna tell anyway that is SICK that is child abuse if u think about it!
2006-09-22 07:49:33 · answer #9 · answered by ~Niecee~ âË» âË» ♂ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Pretend it never happened.
2006-09-22 07:46:09 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋