A friend of mine is pregnant, and she's keeping it, mostly because her best friend is a dumb idiot (i wish i could write what i really thought of her).
The other day i was trying to coax her out of having the child, but as she's already had an abortion she's scared she'll never have children again if she has a 2nd abortion. Her dumb best friend said that each time you have an abortion your chances of getting pregnant again go down by 25%, so if she had 2, she would only have 50% chance of getting pregnant again.
I personally think this is all lies, and have read a lot of things about abortion, but where could she have got this information from? She said she read it on the internet, but someone pleeeease help, i'm gonna show her all the answers too, just to help back me up!
2006-09-22 00:40:25 · 50 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
To all the anti-abortion people and people moaning that i should support my friend, please stop. She should not be having this child FULL STOP. She is VERY young, and is only having this child as she thinks she won't ever be able to get pregnant again. So read my question again before you reply, bloomin' thick moaners.
2006-09-22 00:54:21 · update #1
Now, if you read my question again, i never actually asked any of you for your opinions on abortion. The girl is my best friends younger sister and is stupid for having this child. She has no career, no husband, no money, nothing. God, you people are thick if you believe having no moral or financial support from anyone are fine circumstances to bring a child into. I am 23, successful, and engaged, so jealousy really has nothing to do with it. This is Yahoo Answers, so next time why don't you try answering a question! It is sweet however that you have so much time on your hands to tell me what kind of a person i must be. You don't know me, or the situation, so don't comment! Just answer the flipping question next time!
2006-09-22 05:31:09 · update #2
If that's the case why is it that some dumb women really use abortion as a form of contraception. Just think about it! Would they be able to get pregnant for the 5th time after 4 abortions if what your friend says is true? I don't think so. A friend of mine was the fourth child of a woman who had had 5 abortions before she had 3 kids. So that just tells you. Some women are very fertile and some aren't. Being afraid of not being able to get pregnant in the future is the wrong reason to have a baby.
2006-09-22 00:52:14 · answer #1 · answered by Luvfactory 5 · 1⤊ 3⤋
Every abortion does damage to the uterus and causes scarring. A fertilized egg cannot implant on scar tissue, and if implantation cannot happen, then a pregnancy cannot happen.
Why do you think it is dumb for her to keep the child? Abortion is designed as a last resort in extreme cases, not as an easy out for people who are too irresponsible or careless to use birth control. Abortion was also not designed as a way for people to avoid personal responsibility for their own actions...namely, unprotected sex. If you really want to be a friend to her, encourage her to make her own decisions. Besides causing physical damage, abortions also bring a lot of emotional issues for the mother...guilt, shame, and a future spent wondering "what if"....
btw....you won't find very many people on here that will support you in wanting your friend to have an abortion.
And...in response to the last part of your question...who are you to say what another person should or shouldn't do? Why do you want people to tell you not to support her? That's what friends do..they support each other and help each other through things without pressure or judgment. If she's young, maybe having this baby will teach her the responsibility she obviously needs to learn. Otherwise she can take your advice and keep going and end up in the abortion clinic every month until her uterus is so scarred that she's sterile. Ask yourself honestly what's best for her...not you...for her, if you can. You seem to be convinced that nothing but an abortion is good enough for you.
2006-09-22 01:14:31 · answer #2 · answered by Mandi R 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Did you get this girl pregnant? Judging by your avatar, I'd say that's highly unlikely since you, yourself, are a girl.
What right do you have to convince your friend to have an abortion? Since you're not responsible for helping create this child, and won't be raising it, maybe you should mind your own business. Just because she's young doesn't mean she won't be a good mother. And being young is NOT a valid reason for having an abortion.
I can tell by your post that you're young yourself, and more than likely don't know much about children and don't have much life experience. Before you go trying to convince your friend (and not even your best friend, at that) what to do with her body and her child, and how to live her life, you need to grow up a little. I believe this is simply a case of jealousy on your part--your friend will be having a baby--someone who loves her and is going to take up the majority of her time, and you're going to be losing your "partying buddy."
Grow up, stay in school and mind your business.
2006-09-22 02:50:47 · answer #3 · answered by brevejunkie 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
well, if she's really young and you think is going to ruin her life then is not a bad thing. But i'm a mother and i know my life completly change but in a good way, i dodn't know where i'll be right now, but once again i'm married and i'm 21 years old already. How old is your friend. And i had this friend that was pregnant and she got an abortion, later on she got pregnant again, and once again got an abortion..By the time she really wanted to keep the 3rd baby..didn't even make the 3rd month of pregnancy. Is not that you won't ever get pregnant again, i think all this might be like signs.Only God nows what he does all this things..but seriously if your friend wants to keep that baby..don't get her into not doing it.Leave her to be the once who choses that answer.Ibet she's one of you super friends and you don't want to see her suffering with a newborn and all, but you don't want her later in life to blame you of not having that lil baby.Babies are the most precious thing in life..no matter what your age..there's always oportunities for moms to study and all.But if she really wants to enjoy the wild life..then she can get an abortion and make sure she uses protection this time..this time was a baby..next time can be some STD..
2006-09-22 01:18:33 · answer #4 · answered by Yaya 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
During pregrancy habit of body differs from person to person.So PLEASEEEEEEEEEEE go to a doctor, and then let her make the decision.but dont let her give birth and give the baby for adaption.It is soo sooo easy to say but too hard to do.I guess the father is not around. So probably the best thing is to have an abortion( although I am a mother ) but it will be really tough for her to look after the baby because I know I have a 2 year old.before doıng anything just drag her to the doctor first. let him/her explain everything in detail and then let her do as she chooses.also she will need support from you because during pregrancy she will be very sensetive. Anyhow good luck
2006-09-22 02:04:24 · answer #5 · answered by MORTİCİA 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She won't reduce her chances of getting pregnant, If she has an abortion at a proper clinic, by a trained clinician. Having repeated abortions may cause a problem carrying a child to term, but there are plenty of women out there who've had 5 and 6 abortions and delivered healthy full term infants.
She probably got the information from one of those rabid prolife sites.
2006-09-22 01:56:09 · answer #6 · answered by auld mom 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
The very best advice you can give your friend is to talk to her
doctor about her options. If she wants to bring the baby into the world but not raise the child she can give it up for adoption.
I am pro-choice, however; I don't believe that women should get abortions because it upsets their social calender. If your friend
has had one abortion then she should have used precautions
from then on. She sounds immature. If she plans on having
and raising this child she needs to grow up now. How about the
father? Does he have any input in this matter or was he just a seed donor?
2006-09-22 00:55:21 · answer #7 · answered by Precious Gem 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Having an abortion is not an easy thing to go through and it does have it's risks. Future miscarriages are the risk. Your friend will decide what is best for her and her baby on her own. You need to support her whatever she decides. She doesn't need you and her best friend squabbling over this. Having an abortion affects you for the rest of your life. Help your friend decide what is best for the baby because it is the most important thing in all this.
2006-09-22 01:19:15 · answer #8 · answered by Actionchick 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ur friend is very lucky to have to there to try to help her do the right thing, but at the end of the day its her choice. as for having abortions I'm not really a fan of them but would rather some1 had one than mess up a child's life and their own. Ive never heard of abortions making women infertile or even less fertile, tell her if she has to have a c-section with this child it WILL make her less fertile and i know that from experience. good luck tryin to get her to do the right thing but one more thing u can try....take her to get the pill or sumin lol
2006-09-22 04:05:51 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi. I really do think that it is not true. When i was younger i has an abortion as i was so young and not mature or ready to have a child. A few years later, i fell pregnant again, the choice was taken away from me as i had a bad car crash and it killed my unborn child. This had to be removed. I used to believe the tales of 'not being able to have children after abortion', but i have got a beautiful daughter now who is 4, and me and my partner are planning our next child now.
I do think it has to be your friends decission to either have her baby or not, and you should just be there for her whatever happens. Good support from a good freind is hard to find.
2006-09-22 00:55:17 · answer #10 · answered by angel 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋