I know that sounds stupid, but I have felt as though my dad never loved me and was never there growing up. And to this day, he still thinks of me and my sister as the children from the "broken marriage". I feel as if my dad has never loved me from the beginning of my life. He is a very selfish man and his "new children" are all that matters now. Do I need therapy?
2006-09-22 00:40:12 · 7 answers · asked by Madonna1 2 in Health ➔ Mental Health
Hoo Boy. Sounds familiar and certainly not stupid. In my case, dad (I conclude now) was unable to love, nurture, and care for kids. So, yes. Therapy may help. My suggestion would be to grieve the loss of the dad you never had but desperately needed, You might write him a letter and tell him exactly what you think of the turd. Or do anything else (beating up on a stuffed animal or pillow that represents your dad might help) to express the anger you have inside you.
At some point, you will probably have to say, "He did what he knew how to do and could do." and let it go. His inability to be a father MAY be related to the difficulties between your mom and dad and he couldn't get past your mom to love you.
BTW, it is very likely that his "new children" have been shortchanged by him in some way also.
2006-09-22 01:07:21 · answer #1 · answered by DelK 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ouch, this one hits too deep for me. I am a Bastard son of a truly rude man. He at first wanted to be in my life, when confronted with the aspect of marriage the guy skated. A year after my birth my mom married a great man I grew up with and lovingly and respectfully called "Dad". Since I turned 18 I wanted to know the man who fathered me. Big Mistake. I learned first-hand that he wasn't anything like my dad and made me wonder how I became a good person with someone that hurtful as my father. Yes people like this are hurtful and disgusting, but you have to also realize not all people are like that, and also remember there are people that will love you unconditionally. Keep these in your life close. As for your dad, I think you should try to show him your love and remind him his current marriage wasn't the only one that matters and you were only the product of a broken marriage and not the cause.
2006-09-22 08:22:11 · answer #2 · answered by Tim T 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The simple answer yes... Some men can be incredibly insensitive. Maybe you need to confront your father and let him know how you feel. My father is just like yours and it is really bad. One night after a family reunion of sorts we were all drunk and years of frustration came out of me and he got the point. He hasn't changed all that much exactly (he has some compulsive disorder issues) but letting him know how you feel might have cause him to have an epiphany. As for the depression, focus on what's positive in yor life right now and think how you were able to achieve that in spite of what has happenned.
2006-09-22 07:53:56 · answer #3 · answered by Blankito 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes I have felt like that a lot, but in my case it is my mother. Also Dad lives far away so don't hear from him much. Counselling would probably help you a lot. Just to get it off your chest.
2006-09-22 07:48:06 · answer #4 · answered by Indianna 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, not in my case, it was something else. You might need therapy. I would start by getting this book and working on your self esteem. The book will help you in many other ways also.
http://www.seekwellness.com/bookstore/books/book65.htm
Or you can try the approach at this website:
http://moodgym.anu.edu.au/
2006-09-22 07:48:31 · answer #5 · answered by Mr. Peachy® 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I thought the same as you as my Fathers Job involved him traveling. I went to local GP recommended to see Consellor we Talked then talked to my father and we resolved problem.
2006-09-22 08:05:03 · answer #6 · answered by scottie322 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i've suffered depression because god is a sadist and likes watching people suffer
2006-09-22 07:48:47 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋