I've been friendly with my ex since we split up last year (it was a very amicable break up). We were talking online last night and I said I was going to be home alone all weekend and he offered to come and keep me company, which was nice, although odd, because we haven't really done much as friends, just the occasional text.
Anyway, I said yes, but have since found out from other people and things implied in his conversations with me that he wants to get back together. I want to be friends, but I really, really, really don't want to get back with him. Now he's going to come visit me when I'm alone in the house with him - it's not that I fear he'll push me for anything, but I'm scared he's going to come onto me and it's going to be really akward! How do I let him know from the start that I only want to be friends, without hurting his feelings and making it obvious that I know he wants to get back together?
Any help greatly appreciated.
2006-09-22 00:02:55 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Thanks for the suggestion liz, but I don't have any other friends in the area
2006-09-22 00:09:17 · update #1
Tricky Tricky..
Maybe tell him your needed else where so you will not be home.
Or let him come round and be honest. Tell him its great you can be good friends without any of that aukwardness that happens when people really want to be more than friends.
Or ask him out right, "ive heard a rumour" is it true??
Tell him you never go backwards in life, you move on.
Good luck x x
2006-09-22 00:10:33 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
A rumour is just that a rumour, so I would really suggest that you stop getting to worked up about it, besides it may never happen, someone quite possibly got the wrong end of the stick.
Enjoy the fact that you guys can remain friends, it is quite rare. If something should start to happen then tackle the issue, camly, kindly and firmly.
Have a good weekend, and why not get him to help you do a few bits and pieces that are easier to do with help?
2006-09-22 00:15:34 · answer #2 · answered by stepfordswiss 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe as soon as you open the door say something like "Its going to be nice spending an evening with a good friend." Hopefully he will take the hint fron there.
2006-09-22 00:07:59 · answer #3 · answered by JC 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Have some other friends come over and make it like a fun get-together among a group of friends, rather than this "you and him alone" type of scenario.
2006-09-22 00:05:41 · answer #4 · answered by Liz 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
just be straight with him.....he'll respect your honesty.....tell him you would rather b friends + it would feel awkward if he came over as you's used to date....make it obvious when you say to him USED to date that way he might get the picture without you sounding nasty.......if all else fails just tell him you are going out at the weekend or going to visit a relative....
good luck
x.niks.x
2006-09-22 00:36:26 · answer #5 · answered by lil niks 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tell him something came up and you won't be able to hang with him this weekend. It's best to just not put yourself in the situation if you fear it to be awkward.
2006-09-22 00:20:43 · answer #6 · answered by bluez 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋