My wife to be dresses pretty scruffy but it is all named stuff,infact it looks bit slutty but i love her she can wear want she wants.but last night she was just going out with her mates she was wearing the most stunning dress i had ever seen.i said she looked beautiful,then 5 mins after lost my temper shouting why dont you ever look that good when i take you out.she didnt come home till 4.am we havnt spoken a word whos in the wrong?
2006-09-21 23:57:27 · 45 answers · asked by matt31 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Maybe she is cheating. I don't think you were in the wrong. You should discuss it, calmly and with no yelling. It doesn't sound good.
If she doesn't care about you enough to look pretty for you, maybe she is not the right girl for you.
2006-09-22 00:02:17 · answer #1 · answered by lcmcpa 7 · 0⤊ 2⤋
I don't think you should have lost it but if my boyfriend did that I would feel the same way. I think to keep a relationship alive both people need to make an effort. I don't think you need to dress to impress every night but certainly sometimes.
my partner only puts on after shave and wears his designer clothes when he goes out with his "mates". He does not come home til 3.30am and sometimes even later. I suspect he is cheating but have no proof. Maybe I am paranoid!
I think people get used to each other and can possibly take each other for granted and just stop making an effort. Maybe you need to make an effort for her and she'll remeber what she's mising and want to return the favour.
2006-09-22 02:30:08 · answer #2 · answered by Leah 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would guess you two have some serious issues to resolve. Your anger was a reaction from being hurt. From what I can see, she could be having second thoughts about marriage. Who's to know for sure if she was really with her friends of if she was with some other man? In either case, she certainly doesn't concider your feelings or care how you feel. If you two are having these kind of issues now, it will only get 10x worse when you're married. Everyone deserves to have a mate that truely loves them and if they do, you will know for sure just by the way they treat you! We can have all the money in the world, but if we don't have any one to love or who loves us in return we are lost! You sound like a very dear person. Make sure you first really love who you are, inside and out. Believe me it'll make all the difference in your relationship.
2006-09-22 00:21:53 · answer #3 · answered by artinmyheart 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It wasn't very nice of you to yell at her like that, but I understand why you are feeling upset and insecure. People just get complacent with their partners and don't feel the need to impress them, but if she was going out with her friends she was bound to make an effort because part of a girls night out is flaunting your new cute outfits! And also, as people have already pointed out, there can be a bit of a competitive atmosphere.
I don't know what your relationship is like, so I cant really tell you if she has a problem or not... just explain to her that you felt like you weren't getting as much effort as other people and it made you feel a bit insecure because you dont want to be one of those couples that just doesn't make the effort anymore.
I think it's nice for a girlfriend to dress up for dates, but her man has to provide the occasion first!
2006-09-22 00:29:38 · answer #4 · answered by - 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that you were wrong to yell at her...she is not your wife yet...and she may have second thoughts now that you have displayed this deep insecurity.
Maybe she dresses for women.....not because of homosexuality...but because she does not want to be the ugly duckling in the group...and women judge each others dress and style more openly.
You are not speaking to each other ...because this was not an issue before and each of you may be thinking that you knew each other so well...what else is there that you don't know about each other. Maybe she feels that you don't appreciate it when she makes an effort to look great for you....or maybe she is just herself around you and knows that you love her no matter what she looks like...but her friends are more judgemental than you are...or so she thought.!!
2006-09-22 00:04:14 · answer #5 · answered by toe poe gee gee oh 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your in the wrong. You did the first bit right by giving her the comliment, but then took it away as soon as you gave it.
Perhaps if you gave your wife more compliments and made her feel a little better about herself when you are taking her out, she may put in a bit more effort. Apologise, tell her you were jelous and that it made you feel really bad about yourself, and that you hated feeling that way and that you will try to control your temper in the future. Give her a hug and a kiss and tell her she looks wonderful whatever she is wearing.
2006-09-22 00:06:14 · answer #6 · answered by jude 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
your in the wrong! have you thought maybe about taking her somewhere lovely so you get to see her dressed that way .. shower her with compliments. You should have let her go without yelling but instead making her feel confident and saying when she returns you will show her how you can make her feel like a woman... she might have been home alot early if she thought she was coming back to the loving husband and a bit of fun and not the grumpy old man she left.
2006-09-22 00:01:57 · answer #7 · answered by mum 2 Cameron and Ewan 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Both of you, you obviously don't communicate very well, she maybe doesn't feel the need to dress up for you, possibly because you dont make her feel special. Arrange to take her out somewhere special, make a real effort for her yourself, its too easy to become complacent in a long term relationship. If you'd have approacedh this a bit differently....telling her she looked beautiful, then said you'd like to take her out one evening soon, and would she wear that dress for you....may have a completely different effect
2006-09-22 00:01:44 · answer #8 · answered by SunnyDays 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
if a girl loves u i think she will like to look good whenever she goes out with u.the ammount of effort she puts in getting ready for u shows what it means 2 her.may be since that she knows u 2 r getting married she doesnt feel the need to impress u ! she is getting married to u coz she wants to.isnt it?? if she was out with a guy she finds better than u ,she would get married to him and not u... i dunno ! its confusing.have u given him an impression that u like her the natural way without much zing bang??i guess she is the sort who will always like to have her space and live her life the way she wants.she has every right to do so but will u be able to cope up with that.if she is stronger a person than u will ur ego take it??ask urself and be sure what u want.
2006-09-22 00:32:28 · answer #9 · answered by S S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are. It means a lot to a woman to look and feel beautiful. Especially on a special occasion even if it is with her friends and not you. It's nice you told her she looked beautiful but you should have left it at that, dealt with your own insecurities by yourself and let her go out without feeling badly about anything.
I have confidence that you are a sweet man and will make this up to her.
All the Best!
2006-09-22 00:06:32 · answer #10 · answered by newgirlnow 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
certain, and bypass domicile, and take her outfits off, if she says no, then ask her why she married you, if she says "for romance" then why would not she love you sufficient to be bare in the front of you? she may be afraid you received't like the way she seems bare. If thats the issue, then seek for suggestion from such as her and word in case you won't be able to attempt a house sex treatment. I advise by making use of that, attempt to get her to be bare round your position till you 2 have company or have youthful toddlers over or bypass outdoors to public. attempt being bare round one yet another and then get into it and word in case you 2 won't be able to discover kinky warm sex. yay it weird and wonderful, yet attempt being open minded, otherwise, i do not understand why she married you. Like I stated, attempt some thing new, you'd be shocked at what you and your spouse had in common.
2016-11-23 14:48:07 · answer #11 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋