My daughter refuses to go to school?

Question

She is 15 and is cutting classes every day to hang out with her friends and no matter what I tell her she still does it. Just this morning we went to her school and talked with the truant offcr about her attendance and she cut again. She doesn't seem to care. I told her I was going to look up boarding schools if she continued this way. Any suggestions on what to do. Please serious answers only. Thank you.

Answer 1

Take her to school yourself every morning, sit in every class with her, hang around her at break times, bring her home at the end of the day. Tell her that this will continue until you can trust her to stay in school without you being there. Believe me, it will work, she will be so embarrassed that she will agree to anything just to get you off her back.

Answer 2

if she's cutting school to hang out, she doesn't understand that school is something that she should be happy about nor does she see the opportunities it offers. you might want to look into whether she feels challenged or not. Maybe she's not the kind to deal with pressure either. Bording school may not be the opption though, because kids don't get enough support when they're away (trust me - been there, done that myself). If she's cutting school and you're trying to talk to her, maybe you're not talking to her the right way. Do you know her friends? have you ever spoken to them? invite them over and have a relaxed evening. DONT go straight to their parents and try to plan something. But basically she's at that age, where she needs to decided and all you can do is show her what the right things to do are and why. Hope that helps.

Answer 3

At 15 she is legally required to go to school, as you know.

There is obviously a much larger problem here. Does your daughter have a learning disability like dyslexia that may be causing her to have a much harder time understanding the classwork then she is telling you?

The first stop for you, her and the girl's father is a counselor. Acting out and exploding your life like she is doing are signs of some deep and troubling personal issues that she can't work out for herself.

A counselor or therapist might be able to get her to talk about what the real problem is and why she is not interested or even afraid to go to school. With some of these kids, you find out that she doesn't like the way her body looks and she doesn't want to have to go to gym class, or she may not be able to see the board in the front f the class and she may have been asked a question she couldn't answer and kids laughed at her.
No one blows up their life for no reason at all.

If she won;t go to a counselor with you then YOU go and find ways that you can cope with this. You may find that it's something YOU are doing in your own life that makes her uncomfrotable at school.

Answer 4

You have to put your foot down and let her know who's boss. You are the parent, that is why some of these kids out her take over there parents because they let them. Forget about boarding school kick her behind and keep her on punishment. Ask the teachers for a progress paper to be sent home every day with her so you can know if she has been in class. If she still misses class kick her behind again, she is going to get tired of getting her behind kicked. Take away everything she likes no house or cell phone, no company, no T.V. take every thing away.

Answer 5

What privileges does she have at home that you can remove one by one each time she cuts?

What has been your relationship with her up until this point? Has she respected you? Have you respected her? Talk to her about why she needs to stay in school. Do you think she is doing drugs when she is hanging out with friends?

Can you talk to the parents of the other children who are also cutting class? Maybe the officer can help arrange a meeting if you don't know who they are. There is strength in numbers.

Good luck.

Answer 6

Put your foot down
Take away priviledges
The most important thing I learned is YOU HAVE TO BACK UP WHAT YOU SAY. When you threaten to send her to boarding school she knows you will not do it. When you tell a kid something you always must back it up so you mean business. This works with rewards and punishments. You are not her friend here, you are the parent. Don't let her walk all over you.

Answer 7

if i were you i'd let the truant officer handle her she is not going to learn until it hits her in the face and no is there to help her she is only hurting her self and when she has to go into the world and make the choices on her own and can't she will see that she should have stayed in school otherwise you will carry her for the rest of her life and i am speaking from experiece

Answer 8

I feel your pain, my daughter quit school in grade 10 for 4 months, then eventually returned to school and graduated this last June with her peers! There is not much you can do at this age, they are going to do what they want, you just have to love them, support them, and have faith that they will eventually move on from this phase and do the right thing! The only people who will understand and support you are the ones who have been there!!! Good luck Mom :)

Answer 9

If you can afford boarding school for her, do yourself and her a favor and go ahead and enroll her. Then tell her you're going shopping, and put her hard-head in the car and take her to school; drop her things off later. She is ruining her life and she thinks it "cool"...it's not. So be a stern parent and do what you said you would do. Godloveya.

Answer 10

I think you have thr right idea with the boarding school - or at least get her to a different school and far away from the influence of her friends