I have made a dvd for my ex for her birthday. On it are loads of photos and memories of when we were together.
I am not sending it with the intention of getting back with her, but to give her something to remind her of how much fun we had and stuff like that. Something basically for her to keep for the future so one day when she wants to remember stuff she has something to look at and remind her.
We have been apart for two months now, and I am not sure if it too soon to send such a gift, or even if it is appropriate. So any answers from the ladies here would be of great help.
I have bought her a card which will definitely be sent, but I am not sure whether to send her this DvD of memories of when we were together, even though my intentions in making it is purely friendly and something I thought she might like rather then a book / dvd/ etc.
Thanks
2006-09-21 23:12:58 · 43 answers · asked by Dave 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
i would send it
2006-09-21 23:14:20 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Does she suffer from what the lass on 50 first dates suffered from? I doubt it, in which case she is perfectly able to have her own version of memories,which she can recall at her own whim.
If not ,then now is not a good time to send it. if she still has mixed feelings, you will sadden her on her birthday.
in future use this wonderful gift (because it is) for someone that you are currently seeing, perhaps on an anniversary .
the other thing which i personally would be able to deal with, is if you called and asked, how I felt about receiving the dvd. that shows consideration. otherwise i may think , you have such a huge ego , presuming that i will be looking back to think of you, when my life is meant to have moved on.
obviously by posting this question , you are unsure and don't want to make things worse for her, so I can see your kindness,and perhaps she will know it too.. at the end of the day, only you know how she would feel about this, by the way she responds to you.
2006-09-22 00:26:51 · answer #2 · answered by saywot? 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm not sure if it's such a good idea.
Are you still both friends? If not then obviously that might not be such a good idea.
Who broke up with who?
If you broke up with her then she still might be hurting, and might even see this as a way to get back with her, and if your not and she still has feelings for you then i don't think you should give it to her, she will be confused.
I think you still have feelings for her though, no man would do that for someone if they didn't care.
It is a really nice thought but just think about it.
If you decide to give it to her write her a little message basically telling her what you told us, at least that way she'll understand why you want to give it to her.
2006-09-21 23:26:37 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well send her the card, but before you send it, in it say something like, "P.S. the DVD is tons of pictures and memories of us when we were together, I'm not asking you to get back with me, It's just a friendly thing for you to watch, to remember the good times in your life, just in case you ever feel like things are really going wrong......". I'm sure you can figure out the rest of the message, but you get my point, so just clear it up in the card, or if you feel you can, tell her in person by handing it to her, "By the way this DVD it's not meant as making you feel bad and me trying to push you getting back with me........"
well good luck man, hopefully you know the exact words to say so she gets the point very quickly and you don't have to stand there figuring out the right words to make it seem right.
2006-09-21 23:27:05 · answer #4 · answered by Khalil S 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well it depends on if she's over you or not if she is then u should send it if she isn't then it might make her cry, but explain to her how u feel and y u r giving her such a gift. I think she'll love it. Personally i would. Good luck
2006-09-21 23:24:28 · answer #5 · answered by badgirl 419 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is a really sweet idea but putting myself in your g/f's shoes I would say don't send it. If I got something like that from one of my ex's I would feel sick and probably want to throw it away. I am sorry if that sounds harsh, but it would creep me out. I do not mean to offend and if you wish to send it then do so, personally I would not welcome such an intimate gift from an ex, because they are my ex for a good reason
2006-09-21 23:49:09 · answer #6 · answered by sparkleythings_4you 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it would depend on why and how you two split up - I mean, if you're still very good friends, then a gift to remember the good times you shared together might be appropriate, but if that's not the case, I think you'll just make yourself look needy.
2006-09-21 23:24:23 · answer #7 · answered by Liz 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you still friends with her?, Does she understand u dont want to get back with her(assuming u dont) ifso send the DVD and explain the reason behind it. However if ure not on friendly terms i suggest u dont give it to her, she may think ure stalking or some crap like that.
Its a lovley idea though
Good luck
2006-09-21 23:23:13 · answer #8 · answered by mum2bogey 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would say that you should send it. Send a little card attached to it saying, "Memories that will last forever..." or something similar to that. It will be sweet but not too sweet to give her the wrong impression. You got a kind heart my man, hope that the other guys can learn something from you. Best of luck.
2006-09-21 23:16:57 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just make sure to write a not in the card or a letter to go with it, making your intentions clear.
Then find a new g/f and get over her.
2006-09-21 23:18:09 · answer #10 · answered by le_coupe 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i dunno......if the decision to part was mutual and you are both still on good terms, then i don't see how that can hurt. However, if the idea to part was yours and you feel guilty don't send it as it will just confuse her.
if you decide to send only the card, then keep your message friendly but simple.
2006-09-22 07:07:27 · answer #11 · answered by lillyflower 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋