His mum died not long ago, and she always said that she wanted a granddaughter...
If it's a girl, we've decided to name her after his mum, BUT...
What if I have a boy? I'm really worried that I'll disappoint him, and I'm worried that he won't love our baby as much if it's a boy.
I just want a happy, healthy child, but he is really set on a girl.
I've tried talking to him about it, I'll say "Honey, it might be a boy" and he just replies "No, it's going to be a little girl"...
I don't know what o do to stop his disappointmet! Help!
2006-09-21 22:38:45 · 15 answers · asked by Krissyinthesun 5 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
i will be happy no matter what but i want a girl and my man wants a boy even though he already has one son but we will see in a few more weeks.....
2006-09-22 00:08:05 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
My boyfriend kept saying the exact thing. His heart was set on a girl and everytime I tried to tell him it might be a boy he kept saying 'No it's a little girl'. I did end up having a girl, but I know that after going through the labor with me, he wouldn't of cared whether it was a boy a girl or an inbetween. He was just happy to be a dad. Don't worry about it. He'll adore the baby no matter what sex it is.
2006-09-22 07:48:18 · answer #2 · answered by Alana B 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tsk... I really don’t know what to tell you. It depends on how heavily fixated he is on having a girl I guess, and how he will react if it’s a boy. If its your first child the event is very dramatic in any case, his idea of it wanting to be a girl may be miniscule in comparison to the needs of having to deal with an infant of either sex. Hmm... its very rarely discussed by parents but it is a fact that children are not always ‘equally’ loved by each parent. Many parents have a predisposition towards one child over another. That’s not to say one child is neglected or mistreated, just that one parent favours one child over another (usually the opposite sex child of the parent). If you find this is the case you will need to compensate a little, but I don’t think there is anything you can realy do in advance, I think you will have to see how things develop. As for YOU disappointing him, biology 101 will tell you it’s the MALE that determines the sex of a baby, not the female.
2006-09-22 05:53:33 · answer #3 · answered by John M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i understand what your saying.... i hope you know that if it isn't a girl....it's not your fault! did you know that it's actually the male sperm that decides the sex of the baby... maybe when you have your scan you could try and find out the sex of the baby...that way if it is in fact a boy he'll have time to get used to the idea.. remind him of all the things that fathers get to teach their sons..and how nice it would be if your going to have more than one child to have a boy first so that he could protect a younger sister if your ever to have a girl!! sounds like you have an emotional battle on your hands there girl!! hope everything works out ok for you! good luck with your pregnancy i know how special the experience is.
2006-09-22 08:31:58 · answer #4 · answered by billy_babe_22 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He most likely will be ok with a boy even if his heart is set on a girl. It's VERY hard not to love a baby, I dont understand how anyone couldn't. Espcecially when its your own. And besides why are you worried that YOU will disappoint him? You can't help it. And technically a man decides the sex of the baby.
2006-09-22 08:30:52 · answer #5 · answered by Lisa 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't have to do anything. He has to stop with this obsession. That's really unreasonable to only want a girl, or only a boy. You can't control these things. I understand he misses his mother but the baby has nothing to do with that. Like you said, what matters is to be a happy healthy child.
I wish you all the best.
2006-09-22 05:51:20 · answer #6 · answered by Deep Thought 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't do a thing to stop him from being disappointed, if he's a low enough wretch to be disappointed. He can be as determined as he likes, he has a 50% chance of being right.
His sperm, after all, is what determines the sex of the baby. So if it's a boy and he's unhappy about it, tough luck for him. Hope he tries harder next time.
2006-09-22 07:11:54 · answer #7 · answered by auld mom 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can start by explaining to him that it is his sperm that determines the sex of the baby,So if he wants to be disappointed with anyone he'll have to be disappointed with himself! You might also tell him that although his mum wanted a grand daughter, she would have loved a grandson. My daughter is having their first baby. I so wanted it to be a girl, but the ultra sound says it's a boy. and I know I will love him just as much as I woulda if he'd been a girl.
2006-09-22 05:49:12 · answer #8 · answered by Jo 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
i think he is wrong; tell him that when his mum was alive she wanted a baby girl, but as she is not alive anymore and if this is a boy, may be because she is not alive it is a boy, and the next baby might be a girl because u r husbands mum could be born as a baby girl for u.
2006-09-22 06:39:33 · answer #9 · answered by m.shahila m 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I hope for your sake he will be able to handle it. If not then you will love the child enough for the both of you and hopefully set him straight by telling him to get a life or lose the only chance he will have with his son.
2006-09-22 05:43:47 · answer #10 · answered by Anne M 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋