2006-09-21 21:46:41 · 19 answers · asked by ams_01976 2 in Politics & Government ➔ Military
Despite the first couple bonehead answers, there are some really good ones here. I've been an army wife for 6 1/2 years, and there is nothing else like it in the world.
My military man doesn't mind clutter (as long as it's his mess) but staying organized makes life so much easier.
There are so many programs available to you, make sure you know them. Your FRG can get you started, or your ACS (Army Community Service) or equivalent will have a lot of info for you. They offer tons of orientation type classes -at least in the Army- on the programs available, rank structure, you name it.
This sounds bad to some, but make sure you know how to read his LES. Your husband can set up a guest password for his MyPay account so you can view his pay statements while he's away. Know what you're looking at so if they short him on something, you know what needs fixed. (Or if they over pay you by mistake, you don't spend it before they ask for it back!)
Get used to OD green and camo. The rest of your life is going to be a magic act in the illusion of hiding it all away, because trust me, it gets old.
Take advantage of the military's willingness to move your stuff for you. Supervising someone to pack your stuff and load/unload it is a lot less stress than doing it ALL yourself. And you'll have enough stress to handle during a move. You can let the company have their boxes back, the next time they'll bring more, but keep the box from that new tv, and the computer, etc. Even glasses and collectibles. Some of them can be broken down, and you'll be glad when it comes time to move again that you kept them.
Get used to gear, training missions, and the ever looming deployment. The Army is currently running at year long deployments, while everyone else is at 6 months. It's hard, but you survive.
Learn to be diplomatic. There are people you'll have to deal with that you can't stand, but if you butt heads with them, they can (though aren't supposed to be able to) make your life hell. Technically, there is no rank among wives, and the soldiers, even your husband's command, cannot tell you what to do. Most service members I've dealt with are rather respectful of the spouses. There are things, however, and some of it depends on the specific command and some of it is a legality issue, that what YOU do, reflects on your husband. So put that smile on your face, bite your tounge, and behave yourself.
The biggest thing I have to stress, because I've seen it run the worst scenarios, just with the last deployment we had, you HAVE to be adaptable, and you HAVE to stay loyal to your husband. If you don't adapt well to change, you're going to have to learn for your own sanity. And nothing kills me more than to see some of the things these wives will do during a deployment or training mission.
Stay strong, be patient, be loyal, and good luck. Your sacrifices are just as much as those of your husband. Thank you for supporting our troops.
2006-09-22 11:48:15 · answer #1 · answered by desiderio 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You get out of the military life style what you put in it. You control weather your experience is good or bad. I have been a military spouse for 3 yrs now, and I absolutely love it. Military wives belong to their own little society, and things that go on here the civilian wives have no clue and usually don't understand. Meet some great friends, be a great friend, and if your family is Army join the FRG. Not all branches call it that but they do have some sort of Family support group. If you want to have fun, and have great adventures then you have to make it that way.
Good luck, have fun!
You will also here a lot of negative comments about military wives, even though some might be true to some spouses, Don't let it get to you.
2006-09-22 16:11:50 · answer #2 · answered by paige_98_69 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
An ex Para! Yes, there will be a lot of time when your alone and you'll no doubt need support from both sides of the family. However, one very small and extremely very important point to remember, when he does come home on leave put everything else aside! Too many service wives get into the habit of still wanting to divide their time with others, groups, this or that, or whatever else. Always coming up with the same routine answer, ''well when you're not here, they look after me''. Coming home then gets into a routine and your man ends up like being part of the furniture! I wish you every success and ''good-luck''
2006-09-22 20:32:56 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
1. Get organized, military men like a uncluttered living area.
2. Be independent and able to take care of most problems yourself (cause as soon as something goes wrong they will reassign him to some stupid program)
3.Be flexible (he cant control his commanders orders and so cant always jus leave when he would want to)
4. Never throw out the moving boxes.
5. Always be polite and repectful to the wife of your husbands commanding officer.
6. Train for a career that you can move with.(computer careers are good)
7 Try to get a job that pays well cause his doesnt.
8. Good Luck
2006-09-22 01:59:24 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 0⤋
You get out of the militia life form what you put in it. You administration climate your journey is sturdy or undesirable. I actual have been a militia important different for 3 yrs now, and that i actual like it. militia better halves belong to their own little society, and issues that pass at here the civilian better halves have not have been given any clue and regularly don't comprehend. Meet some large friends, be an mind-blowing buddy, and in the journey that your loved ones is military connect the FRG. no longer all branches call it that yet they do have some form of relatives help team. in case you want to have exciting, and have large adventures then you definately could make it that way. sturdy success, have exciting! you will additionally here diverse unfavorable comments approximately militia better halves, even nevertheless some would desire to be actual to three spouses, do no longer permit it get to you.
2016-10-01 05:57:20 · answer #5 · answered by laseter 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Enjoy it!!! This could possibly be the best time of your life. Get involved in clubs and other support groups. Depending on what branch of the military you are marrying into, you might not have to worry about being alone for long periods of time. Meet up with other spouses in your husbands unit and talk to them.
2006-09-21 23:59:31 · answer #6 · answered by BoomerFamily 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The army has many tprograms in place for you. also they are coming out with a combat spouce badge to show how much they need you. i am not married but when i was downrange last time the FRG family readiness group made birthday bags for all the single guys. they are many ways to keep busy. also the army is coming out with lifecycle units so you and your spouce would stay at one post for 4 years this slows down the optempo and keeps soldiers from being deployed back to back.
2006-09-21 22:53:22 · answer #7 · answered by Geology RockstaRR 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't just lay around the house waiting for his paycheck to go in. Be your own person and develop your own interests, you are atill going to be a member of society and will need to contribute.
Get good at managing your finances, if he is gone a lot you will need to, when he is not gone it will be nice for him to not have money worries to deal with. Go to school if you can. Make lots of friends but don't be surprised when they move away, that's life in the military.
2006-09-22 02:24:40 · answer #8 · answered by medic 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Email me smith3littlebit@yahoo.com
My husband is deployed to Afghanistan. Been an Army Wife since Dec. 2005 but I'm also prior Army. I know a few things.... Main one STAY STRONG TO YOUR LOVED ONE!
2006-09-22 04:24:22 · answer #9 · answered by Proud Army Wife 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
stay strong and dont cheat be prepared for 6 month to 1 yr deployments depending on branch of service get involved with family and spouse groups
2006-09-21 23:20:33 · answer #10 · answered by soldier_422 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋