I'd post an add about my Gal dumping me recently and was still hurting some of you said i should leave her alone and get on with life which i did, and "Yes" it was a ******* hard work cos i was still in love with her.. now i am over her and started enjoying life like i use to, she is back begging that it was her mistake, I don't love her like i use to anymore but i still like her very much ( cos she once made me the most happiest man) i don't want her in pain not at all, i have told her i did keep her as a friend which she said she want more than friendship, i don't wanna get hurt like she did b4... what do i do?
2006-09-21 21:44:28 · 17 answers · asked by jeje 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Move on and tell her to do it to....
2006-09-21 22:03:24 · answer #1 · answered by ABBYsMom 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi there . Yes you need to be very careful here ! You are obviously a very kind hearted person by expressing you dont want to see her hurt, but............... You need to consider a few things. Why is she showing interest towards you again ? A few possibilities being :1. has she been playing the field and discovered that the grass is not greener on the other side ? 2. Is there a possibility that in getting on with your life you dated someone along the way and this has reignited her interest in you ? Some people as you have probably heard before dont want to be with you but cant stand the thought of anybody else having you either ! sad but true. However on the other hand sometimes people dont know what they had till they lose it ! And i hope this applies to you, i really do. My advice to you is to sit down with this person and have a very serious discussion whereby you put it to her that you need to hear from her as to why she has had the change of heart and politely ask her some questions in relation to some of the imformation i have given you . Also let her know that you really loved her and what she did really hurt you and that yes you have lost the love that you used to have for her and you dont feel you could go through that again so you really need her to be honest with you as this is'nt her choice this time ,it's yours . Goodluck
2006-09-21 22:31:40 · answer #2 · answered by Adrian 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The best answer i can give is follow ur heart. Feelings grow as u spend mre time 2geva yet resentment may remain do to the fact that she has hurt you before. Maybe u cud suggest to her that u spend some tym 2geva just as friends n c ow it develops frm there bt dnt say dat u dunt want er bk untill u r actually sure wot u want. Bt try not 2 string her along either. i sorry bt its a tricky question coz only u no ow u truely feel 4 this gal. and no1 else can really tell u wot 2 do! soz! gd luck n e way! i hope u r happy wot eva happens! luv ya x x x x
2006-09-21 21:55:13 · answer #3 · answered by Shazi 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
babe she wants what she cant have and when she has it she doesnt want it she is clinging on to the good times and so are you i think both of you have hurt enough and its time to just forget about it as hard as it may be.... and you did the right thing in leaving her alone but you lost your feelings in the process... iv been in the same situation only a year ago i dumped my long term bf and then wanted him bac k when he didnt want me now were friends and dont really see each other but call to say hi every now and then... at this time it seems like its the biggest ordeal ever but i promise you will find someone else but dont be too rash by jumping into anything xx
2006-09-21 21:52:00 · answer #4 · answered by kazza 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think i answered a question like this once...and now that you have gotten over her she wants you back...one thing can you ever trust her again....can you have the same feelings you did for her...some try and make a goal of it ...i actually have myself and it did not work out...usually when they do you wrong once they will do it again...but the decision is up to you...i would not want to get hurt anymore either...i have been hurt in my lifetime like you have....i have never found any future going back to the past...you have gotten over her and doing better i would just keep on going the way you are now....i was married so i tried several times and i wasted many years on this...it is your decision to make and you really need to think about your feelings and what is best for you then go by that....you may even try one more date with her but by all means keep on your guard...i do not know what she did to you to hurt you so bad...but i myself anymore do not want to give them the chance anymore...i really try to watch my heart
2006-09-21 21:52:30 · answer #5 · answered by sanangel 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be hard like a stone - don't be her friend and let her find what you find after the hard time. Let her started and have own enjoyment of life.
I made mistake in past and go back and got fak up in consequences for many many years.
Please don't go back of some once memory from the past - I beg you.
2006-09-21 21:54:03 · answer #6 · answered by Toto 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You say you are friends, but are you still attracted to her? If you are no longer wanting to kiss her for hours then you should keep her at the friendship level. Also, find out what has changed about her and you that merits revisiting dating. Good Luck
2006-09-21 21:48:44 · answer #7 · answered by Michael P 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It would be a mistake to take her back. You want to go through all that he*l of getting over her ...again??? Your nuts. She had her chance and blew it. Once a jerk, always a jerk...seriously.She wants you back because she see's how happy and successful you are...and that you can live without her. Shes probably a little jealous too. i was that girl once.....thats how I know...
2006-09-21 21:53:29 · answer #8 · answered by Penny P 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
im gonna tell u a deep secret of chicks just to help u out, dnt take her back, dnt try to be friends with her just a hi and bye friend, ur chick is like one of those that cant have but want chicks!!! u wanted her back and she knew that that is why she didnt take u back, and know that u moved on and dnt want her anymore she wants u back!! its all about controle baby, dnt fall for it!
2006-09-21 21:50:47 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
NOW HEAR THIS BIG BOY......ONCE BITTEN TWICE SHY ...trust me i was recently issued wit divorce papers ....as i started getting my....... together ....she realised " ooops he can be okay without me ....damn that's not what i wanted , let's go back and make him miserable again ".....freinds should good enough for her right now
2006-09-21 21:50:59 · answer #10 · answered by wotatollie 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
follow your heart and if you do get with her again make sure you prepare yourself for a long rocky road that hopefully will pan out in the end.
2006-09-21 21:47:20 · answer #11 · answered by Don L. 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋