You asked a woman out, after you two broken up for ten month. (reason? maybe you were cheating, she's too insecure or childish, or maybe you didn't want to or you were not ready to give her the family she want)
You told her that you have never cheated on her; you love her but no longer in love with her. Also you are no trying to date her even though she's the only person you have never worry about she may do things behind your back, most likely you won’t have that feeling ever again.
You don't kiss her or try to have sex with her, even though both of you enjoyed each others' body before, and most likely she couldn’t refuse you because she loves you. The most you did were touch her hand or long hair.
You always answer her calls after the meeting, no matter what she call you for, how many times she calls a day; help her when she needs help with or without her ask for.
You two seen have great time as long as she does not ask you how you feel about her now, or where the future goes.
2006-09-21 21:31:07 · 7 answers · asked by winni 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You two were nice to each other and feel very comfortable with each other before the break up came... If you are the man, what do you want? Friendship, waiting for her to grow up or just being selfish, to keep someone’s love without the plan to grow old with her?
2006-09-21 21:32:36 · update #1
Well, maybe he just isn't ready or willing to get involved with you yet. Or maybe ever again. He certainly isn't giving you any hope that you will become a couple again.
Perhaps there is a chance you will be a couple again. Women change when a man has sex with her, ESPECIALLY if there is a history. Women start rushing things. On the plus side, he isn't dogging you just for sex, and then forgetting about you.
In this situation, I would have to be absolutely sure that a physical relationship after a breakup would not have strings attached to it. Perhaps he wants to just be friendly with you while you are both available to date other people.
You didn't say how long you have been friends again after the breakup. Yes, there was a 10 month gap, and maybe he is coming back, but with trepidation.
I really don't know, but I do know that it would be unwise to press him for a commitment or a relationship until he is ready.
Good luck
2006-09-29 20:46:32 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 1⤋
Hi Winni
Went through this... I broke up with my ex cause of the impossible distance.
Anyways, you're right... It's impossible not to think back on all the really happy times we shared. To think about the what if... and all the where's the chance for us to get together.
Tell you the truth, it's hard to really say. Obviously we're still frens on good terms. But I guess it's cause we were so close, that it was so painful to see her cry when we broke up and all the hurt she went through. I really really dun wanna put her through all dat again. So we remain just frens.
Could we get together again? Maybe. If the setting is right, if I could feel we could hold on to each other together and not ever be apart... yup, maybe. But I dun wanna hurt her again, ever. You see?
Good luck
2006-09-22 04:56:06 · answer #2 · answered by Hang Tough 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
From a man's point of view as queried; as long as she does't ask you how you feel about her now, or where the future goes (of both?), the situation is completely under control requiring any further review genuinely in the noted scenario.
2006-09-22 04:45:42 · answer #3 · answered by mkm 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow i think that you two should be just friends. and if anything develops later on go with the flow. but for now just be friends you nevre know it may take the one time she gets burned to show her what she has lost and never get back
2006-09-22 04:40:51 · answer #4 · answered by Don L. 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you sure that the way the guy is acting sounds more like a chick's way of doing things.
2006-09-22 04:39:53 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
boy you all have a sick relationship, how does it feel to wast your time on something that is not going anywhere.
Mind games are sick games.
2006-09-22 04:52:23 · answer #6 · answered by popo dean 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
my head hurts...ya know love really shouldn't be that difficult!
2006-09-22 04:33:36 · answer #7 · answered by heatherlynnmorrow 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋