Is not noticing someone rude?

Question

I've always tried to be mannerly and respectful towards other people, and that includes not invading their personal space.

I've found in my life that sometimes when I look at women, they think I'm "checking them out" even if I'm not (I'm a guy), and they might get insulted. Also, if I look at other guys, they might think I'm trying to start something up, or that I'm being aggressive.

How I've solved that is for years now, when I'm in a public place, I just check out the scenery. Sometimes I daydream and kind of stare off into space. Either way, I make a point of not looking at other people - I could walk by my brother or a hot woman and not know it, as all I see are colorful blobs.

The only reason I do this is because I'm trying to be respectful; I know I don't like it when people notice me since it seems like they're being nosy. I'm really frustrated because I can't decide if this is rude or not.

Does it bother you if/when people look at you? What is rude and what is polite?

Answer 1

Wow. If your brother and/or a beautiful girl walks pass you, all you see is a blob?!! Which means, you just aren't making the effort to enjoy the public and the general strangers that makes up your everyday world.
Most people today are too into their cell phones and rushing from place to place to care to say hi to others they so quickly past. How about the strangers who aren't so strange? Like the ones you see everyday at the bus stop, or the local convenience store. Or how about the lady who walks her dog everyday and happens to cross the path of your home, yet you never holler a hello or how are you today?

There is nothing wrong with NOTICING the people that surround your environment. It's okay to look. If eye contact occurs, then SMILE. If a woman thinks you are checking her out, she won't mind. If she minds, she will confront you. It's okay to look at a male and he WILL NOT think you want to BOX HIM.

TAKE IT EASY. And you really need to be more observant not just of objects, but of people. EYE CONTACT is a GOOD THING. ;P

Answer 2

Your missing to much in life if you confine yourself to day dreams. You can look at people with out glaring or staring them down. A friendly smile or a wave sometimes is good. I think that your not being rude your just confused. Maybe you need more social skills or your not very confident in your self. Try going out one day and really notice people and try smiling you may be surprised and how much better you feel. Don't put yourself in a box and think your doing it so people don't get a negative opinion of you. Walk out side your box and realize people are friendly and everyone like a smile from time to time.

Answer 3

You obviously have a poor opinion of urself. Why should u bother what anyone things. To hell with their thoughts. If u ignore someone it could b because ur preoccupied with something else. So stop ignoring people n acknowledge them when u see them, Don't let it bother u whether ur being rude or polite, Be yourself and don't take the trouble to put on airs

Answer 4

It doesn't bother me when people look at me. It bothers me when they stare at me or "examine" me (check me out from top till bottom with a look on their face that makes it obvious they are judging me or thinking how something about me looks strange/ugly or clearly perving at me). I don't think there's anything wrong with looking at people briefly, as long as you're not watching them a lot or staring. If you know you are not watching them with a dirty mind or anything, I'm sure it's most of the time easy to tell that on the way you look at them.

I don't think it's rude to not notice anyone either. Ignoring people when you know they are there is rude, but if you simply don't notice them there's nothing rude about that.

Answer 5

You need not worry about anything what the people say about you. You have to worry about yourself being whether good to others of not. All people are good. Only circumstances make them different, when the circumstance changes they will also change.Think this way. Love all people. Take away pride. You will be the happiest person in the world. Think your are one and think no one can take away the happiness from you. Love God (Jesus)

Answer 6

When people look at me, it's always for the wrong reasons. They think that just because I have a disability they can look/stare at me, simply because I look soooo different to everybody else. I think it's really rude and disrespectful of people to stare at somebody such as myself, who just happens to stand out due to a deformaty/disability. Sorry if I haven't answered your question, just thought I'd share my opinion. The short answer is, no I don't like people looking at me.

Answer 7

The only way I can see you having a problem when you look at people is if you stare. Merely glancing at people should not be a problem.

You certainly should not confine yourself to a life in a daydream bubble. Just be yourself.... do what is natural..... unless staring is natural to you of course! :)

Answer 8

I don't mind when people "glance" at me but I hate it when they "stare". Plus my thing is, when someone keeps looking at me I don't know if it's because of the way I look or if they may be trying to watch me and see if they could steal my wallet or something. It's ok to glance at people but don't stare.

Answer 9

What kind of face are you making when you look at people? Maybe you just need to get your brows waxed. Maybe they grow in a shape that makes you look angry or like you're glaring.

Answer 10

as long as you look and catch your self(i do it all the time) give a lil smile like hi or hello people tend to just smile back and go alont there way