What makes you regret it if you do? Have you rationalized the decision you made right or wrong? What would you have done differently if you could hypothetically chage anything?
I ask this because I've studied so many public polls relative to individual regret over sexual initiation...give me your thoughts please.
2006-09-21 21:14:37 · 23 answers · asked by stupidreplier1 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Yep.
2006-09-21 21:18:41 · answer #1 · answered by debbiethornberry007 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I regret that I was not a virgin for my husband. I think that would have made our bond more special, but I didn't date him until I was 25.
I believe that premarital sex is wrong, but I did with every guy that I fell in love with (3) and a couple others (3) that were just irresistable to a girl that wasn't used to much attention.
Once my husband proposed, we decided to sign a contract with each other to not have sex until we were married (although we already had). We just thought that way we were sure we were compatible (during dating), but we would have had a chaste engagement. Kind of backwards and kind of corny, but we still have that contract put away!
I regret that I was unable to meet my husband until later, after having loved a few others.
Sometimes I wonder what it would have been like to have married my first love. We were both 19, when we lost our virginity to each other. We really believed that we were going to get married one day. So for this reason, it would be neat if we had ended up together.
I believe that what I did is wrong, but I also sometimes feel like it was okay, because "everybody else did", not to mention "trying the shoes on before you buy them" adage.
To all those who remain virgins for your spouses, you should be very proud! But I cannot say that I truly regret the premarital sex.
2006-09-21 21:36:01 · answer #2 · answered by Barefoot Chick 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes.Its not because of the failed relationship(The guy was a really great guy and we were together for 3 years), but because I realise now how special it is and why people say you should wait till marriage.If I could go back I never would've done it and I would've given it to my soulmate, my boyfriend I am with now. It's a really special feeling and it is something you can never take back. You should think about it deeply, because the regret comes too late and then there's no way of going back.
2006-09-21 21:24:14 · answer #3 · answered by Jade22 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nope. I was 21 and it was with a guy I loved, respected and adored...at the time. We'd been going out for 4 years before we did the do. People swore we were gonna get married. Well we didn't but I never did regret my first time. But the 50 thousand times after that...no just kidding!
2006-09-21 21:19:07 · answer #4 · answered by heatherlynnmorrow 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No i don't. Even though she wasn't the one like I had thought. it was special. I wouldn't change a thing. i feel we made the right decision. We messed around for two years and I am not going to lie but I can handle the whole bedroom situation very well because of all that experience from then and now
2006-09-21 21:21:12 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes. That it is not worth it for various reasons (plus, the guy is a total jerk!). It is rationally wrong (to me). I would not have done IT in the first place.
Should have waited. Should have. Makes the experience worth even more.
2006-09-21 21:23:14 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes i regret it totally! I was too young! With the wrong guy, not ready - this guy knew that i wasn't ready but as he was older took advantage of the fact i would be naive! Wish i had waited!!
2006-09-21 22:04:38 · answer #7 · answered by ♥ Jodi ♥ Kaydi's Mummy ♥ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm a young lady and my boyfriend and I talk about sex all the time. However, we're both virgins. He told me when we started dating, "Making love is a serious matter and I want us to be sure that we both want it." So we both took a vow that we'd have sex with each other when we're married. We want to share that passion together, as husband and wife. So, I haven't lost my virginity yet, but I want to lose it to my boyfriend, who'll hopefully become my husband.
2006-09-22 12:35:32 · answer #8 · answered by Angelbub 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
din regret it but regret more on the time,love n efforts given to tat fellow
2006-09-21 21:19:46 · answer #9 · answered by Western 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Losing when not spontaneous, what for the regret?
2006-09-21 21:21:36 · answer #10 · answered by mkm 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No. I DO regret that it was with only one girl, though.
2006-09-21 21:40:03 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋