i'm gay if not bi, i there's a guy in my class that i have a crush on. i'm confused about the way i feel about him, i'm not sure if he wants me or he is just beimg friendly. sometimes he is nice and at times he is cold so this is just too much for me, so i desperately want to let got of him, but i tears me inside seeing him.
2006-09-21 20:54:51 · 7 answers · asked by the S'bu 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You have made the first step already. You realize the problem. Now its time for the solution...
Getting over a guy means clearing your personal space. It means as well clearing your emotional space. The traces of his psychic presence in your life must be dissolved or clarified.
20 years from now, you might still have memories. There is nothing wrong with invisible memories. What you don't want is that man having still undesired power over your life, emotions, thoughts and feelings.
This is a tough one, and I'm sure many people fail on that: to get over a guy, you have to get rid of the memories reminding you of his presence in your life. This includes pictures, letters, objects, seeing him etc. If you want your life to be focused on the future and not the past, you must give yourself the space to succeed with that.
Gaining emotional freedom is the key. No one can do that for you but you can't play a double game: do you want him there or not?
There is a softer approach where your nurture the beauty of some past experiences. This is when you enjoy these special memories, romantic moments, etc. You can use a past love experience as a boost of energy which projects you into a successful future full of inspiration. Remember the "Titanic" movie? What happens to Rose when Jack is gone? She has this incredible life because the memory of her lover still lives in her. He becomes her inner voice which gives her inspiration, love, power and the thrill of an exciting life.
Who was that man in your life: your demon or your guardian angel? Maybe a bit of both?
Enjoy!
2006-09-21 21:04:33 · answer #1 · answered by heatherlynnmorrow 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You shouldn't let a guy's reaction towards you affect your self esteem. So what if he likes you and so what if he doesn't? Either ways, you need to appreciate yourself and not under value your self worth.
2006-09-22 04:03:25 · answer #2 · answered by citrusy 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just move on. There is plenty of people out there that will love and respect you for you. Be strong and take it easy babe, it will come to you, don't rush it!
2006-09-22 04:02:17 · answer #3 · answered by Apryl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Blackberry the 'bad news' to him between math and P.E.
2006-09-22 04:00:39 · answer #4 · answered by oatie 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be in your own state of thinking and enjoying..
2006-09-22 04:01:17 · answer #5 · answered by mkm 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just leave him an move on
2006-09-22 04:06:24 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
not all guys are gays...
2006-09-22 04:01:10 · answer #7 · answered by Mila 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋