Well, I'm heart broken. My girlfriend broke up with me about a month ago. She got a job opp. in Houston and she said that if she passed it up that she would regret it for the rest of her life. I told her that if she went then i couldnt go with her because I couldnt leave my job (i make good money and I am very happy with my job). She ended up choosing the job and she left about a month ago. I cut the relationship off there.
Well, my question is, I've been with a few girls since and am currently dating a girl but don't really like her or want to like her. I just sorta want her around, or anybody around for that matter. I know it sounds pretty lame but I miss my girl. Do you guys think that it would be the right decision to try and make things work with her? Should I try to move to Houston? or do you think that I need to just move on? I'm really torn and I feel like I somehow let the one and only love of my life slip through my fingers. Email me with any advice (check prof.)
2006-09-21 20:34:04 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
There are some really cool people on this site. Thanks a lot so far. I'll be up for a little while longer if anyone wants to share a similar story and how they dealt w/ it... Email me at qbullseyeq@hotmail.com
2006-09-21 20:52:50 · update #1
You need to move on. Grieve the loss, but don't fill the void with "filler" girls. You need to give yourself time to get over a relationship you had strong feelings with. Your each on your own path, for better or worse. There are many fishes in the sea. And when your not hurting so bad, you'll be able to see that too.
p.s.
You can't give your heart to another if your still mourning your first love. Give yourself time to heal.
2006-09-21 20:38:38 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are not in any mental/emotional state to be making any decisions about the old girlfriend right now. Even if you didn't think she was the right one you'd be missing her this soon after she's left. Throw in that you liked her, and what you're in right now is a severe "missing her being around thing" that would not contribute to your making any wise decision. You may as well make a decision drunk as to make one while you're in the missing someone phase.
I don't necessarily blame her, but she chose the job over you. If you were the right one for her she would not have chosen the job over you.
There's nothing wrong with going out with new girls now, but maybe try to keep things kind of honest and simple. Don't mislead them or use them just because you want someone around.
No. Don't give up the job you like for someone who wouldn't give up the job she wanted. You'll start to think more clearly in the near future, but for now - no, no, no - do not make any decisions.
2006-09-22 03:44:10 · answer #2 · answered by WhiteLilac1 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't string this current girl along any longer.
And from your question and the vibes I'm getting, I say you should try to work things out with your ex. You prob can find a similarly satisfying job elsewhere and you mustn't let this love of your life slip away.. Having found someone like her was rare enough and since you are obviously still wanting only her... go for her.
I really believe a new job will pop up and you will be happy, both in love and in career.
2006-09-22 03:42:14 · answer #3 · answered by Beth 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My god, its only been a month, give urself some time and space.She made her decision, u made urs....its over, time heals all wounds. Don`t jump into any relationships at the moment, go slow, try hanging out with ur male friends until u get more time under ur belt. When the right gal comes along, u`ll know it without having doubts. I`ll bet that within another couple of months, u`ll have met the girl, u know u want to be involved with.Time...time....time. Forget Houston, move on with ur life.
2006-09-22 04:15:39 · answer #4 · answered by flamingo 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow, that sounds pretty special. I would call her & see if it's ok to come visit her for a couple of days. Tell her how much you miss her. If she feels the same. she will be excited & want you to come. If she doesn't feel the same anymore, you will be able to tell over the phone for sure. If you go, check out the jobs there. This just sounds like one of those relationships that if you let it go, you will be regretting it & always wondering "what if" the rest of your life. Good luck.
2006-09-22 03:54:55 · answer #5 · answered by lisakay_tx 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well try to talk to your ex and ask her if she still wants to continue your relationship even if she is far at least that would be fair enough for you two coz you still doing the job you want although you are having a long distant relationship
but if she said no, hey move on with your life, you have a good job for sure you'll find the right girl.
2006-09-22 03:41:27 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
hey boss,
for a job she left u and went,
if she would have loved u really and trully , she wouldnt have went,
divert ur mind in some other thing to forget her,
find new friends, and go at the back of a girl who loves u..,
dont go at the back of the girl who left u..,
the one who loves *u* only can keep u happy, not the one who left u..,
-- if u really love her and really want her.,make a try..,
take care ..,
2006-09-22 03:47:56 · answer #7 · answered by uma 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Love is something that has to be decided by the parties involved. DO NOT ask for advice from others. Both of you get to-gether discuss with a open mind and decide.
2006-09-22 03:39:57 · answer #8 · answered by Kallopeu 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's so sweet. Go and visit her, when your there check out what opportunities are available for you . I'm sure if you find something good enough it would make you move there and you'll live happily ever after.
2006-09-22 03:37:07 · answer #9 · answered by lovemykalli 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well its a risk u have to take......ur happiness depends in ur action if u think its worth it to move there and leave ur job, then do it...i hope she waits for u though, coz its pretty clear she cud give u up for her job.....what more?
2006-09-22 03:40:14 · answer #10 · answered by ♥♥♥H뮧hË¥™♥♥♥ 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋