I have been dating my girlfriend for 2 years and in those 2 years she has regularly flaked on plans we make, even the plans we make for the same day. When I call her at the appointed time, she doesn't answer her phone. I tell her it upsets me, but she keeps doing it. I LOVE her, but I don't trust her to do what she says she will do. I have suggested we go back to the dating level and work on the foundation again before it's to late. Any suggestions?
2006-09-21 20:31:56 · 12 answers · asked by Michael P 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I put up with it because she has 3 daughters and I know how hard it is to keep on schedule with even 1 child. I am not upset that she cancels, I am perturbed because she never calls to inform me something came up
2006-09-21 20:51:27 · update #1
I'm sorry dude, but it's already too late. Why are you wasting your time with someone who obviously doesn't respect you? I don't want to insinuate she's got guys on the side, but it doesn't look good on her part. I dont' think she takes having a reltionship with you seriously. Kick her to the curb, and find a woman who will treat you right.
2006-09-21 20:35:14 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Does she have a reason each time? Does she apologise? Sincerely, I mean? When you tell her it upsets you, does she seem to care?
You need to ask yourself whether this woman really cares about you, or whether she is just using you. It sounds to me like you've got into a rut where she can have you around whenever she wants, but she doesn't have to make an effort to be there for you. She's got it easy and she's happy for it to stay that way. She may even marry you, because as a husband you'd make a good doormat.
Stop being so darn reasonable. You need to lose your temper once in a while - either she'll respect you more for it, or she'll dump you because all she wants to do is use you. Either way, you'll be better off.
2006-09-22 04:00:27 · answer #2 · answered by Kylie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Im sorry man. Now in days it's hard to depend on people that are close to us. Maybe you guys should temporarily break up. If she wants to be with you...she'll come back to you. Im not saying anything bad about her and I know you love her...but, it sounds like she doesn't respect you or the relationship. I was in love once...things we'rent going right and I dealt with it for 3 years. Finally, I decided that I had enough of the joke that was my relationship...I called it off...and now we're good friends who were stuck in something unhealthy and have evolved as people and moved on.
2006-09-22 03:39:17 · answer #3 · answered by PuertoRico97 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
meet someone that actually wants to be with you. If you have been getting this treatment for 2 years she is not going to change now. When you give her the silent treatment and find someone that wants to do things with you and talk with you she will see that she lost someone that was good. And you will have met someone that will make you forget about her. She is definetely taking you for granted
I just have one question for you. Why did you let her treat you like this for 2 years?
2006-09-22 03:45:55 · answer #4 · answered by melthule 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You did the right thing by suggestioning something to be done. If she isn't open to it, or unwilling to change, then how can you go passed the level you are on with her right now? Or continue to deal with her actions?
2006-09-22 03:35:13 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
i've been in a similar situation, you should move on, it may hurt but she wont change until she is much much older, she is going out with her friends and having fun and wants to be with you when she is bored or has nothing else to do, she wants you to cater to her needs, screw that, move on and good luck, dont waste time on her it'll hurt more in the long run
2006-09-22 03:38:06 · answer #6 · answered by Butter 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you're the only one in the relationship ! I think you're "Girl friend" is trying to give you a hint ! Try looking elsewhere !
2006-09-22 03:36:08 · answer #7 · answered by g_man 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
face the Cold,Hard, Fact bro: she's never loved you. Maybe just used you.
Slap yourself back into reality buddy: people lie, steal, hate, kill, betray....human nature.
to see what I am talking about:
http://www.wayofthemaster.com/goodperson.shtml
2006-09-22 03:41:47 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Get her to visit her Doctor. She may be bi-polar. If so, she can't help it. She needs help. Hang in there and good luck.
2006-09-22 03:35:18 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
i know how it feels to love someone....and i'm a girl...i'm telling u dude, she doesnt love you... she's neglecting you....and i dont know how you can stand that.... and from ur story, i bet she have someone else....sorry...so, my advice is ditch her...she's not serious with you.... dont waste anymore of ur time on her...move on... life goes on...
2006-09-22 03:38:08 · answer #10 · answered by q.reous.c.t 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋