i want to be a virgin til im married what do?
2006-09-21 20:13:44 · 31 answers · asked by gabi 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Tell him that you want to wait till your married. If he will respect that, then he is a good guy. And if he isn't, I want you to know that there are many guys that are will to respect that. You don't have to have sex just to like someone.
2006-09-21 20:15:46 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to be straight with this guy. Explain to him that you really like him but you have no intentions of sleeping with anyonme other then your husband on your wedding night. If he doesnt want to be with you because of that then the relationship wont work anyway. I had a guy that I dated when I was 16 and I told him that I wouldnt sleep with him until we had been together at least a year (I was a virgin) but after a few months he got mad about it and told me that he didnt think i was all that serious and that i would probably give in before then. Clearly- that ended. You will however have a hard time finding a guy that is willing to wait until you are married so I would try meeting guys at church or somewhere for singles with your religion. Good luck!
2006-09-22 03:19:31 · answer #2 · answered by sassysharli 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Love is to choose the good of the other. If you have to ask the question 'should i sleep with him' then you are already not sure that you should. If you are not sure he shouldn't be putting any pressure on you at all.
If you do it it will feel unnatural. You already suspect this. That's why you are unsure and asking us. Sex is such an intimate and powerful thing that it needs a lifelong committed relationship to contain it. You already suspect this, that's why you are unsure.
I know that feelings and desires are powerful, but don't give in and spraypaint on the masterpiece of the marriage bed. If you really love him, you will not ruin that for him. If he really loves you then he won't ruin that for you.
If you really love each other, and you really truly grow each other as people (and I would say also if you grow each other in your individual relationships with God, who is able to help you with your struggles and questions) then why aren't you getting married?
True love on either of your part wouldn't put either of you in the situation where you have to even consider this.
www.boundless.org might help you :)
2006-09-22 03:22:59 · answer #3 · answered by socrates4hemlock 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if u want to be a virgin until ur married, then b a virgin till ur married.
if all this guy wants from u is sex, stay away from him, especially if ur not ready.
if ur not ready, then u will feel used and cheap.
i think its great there r some grls out there who have some self respect.
spend a few minutes thinking about it. what do u really want from this guy?
i would suggest thinking about it, just think; 'am i really ready for this? do i reeeeally like this guy?
it could just be puppy love, but if u think its smoething more, then get to no him, and if u love him-a hell of a lot!-then u could start thinking about sex.
if he pressures u, then avoid him.
its the best thing
mwa!! gd luck!
2006-09-22 03:21:59 · answer #4 · answered by sexy_babe 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No way...Gaby! You shouldn't do anything that you don't want to do.....no matter what. Don't feel pressure in doing something that you don't want to do and your beliefs about being a virgin until marriage. IF this guy really likes you then he will respect your decision and feelings.
You may like this guy, but believe me you don't want to make a mistake in your life, like getting pregnant. You talk to him and let him know what you think and feel and if after that he continues to insist about sleeping with him.....then you know he is not for you at all. Take care Gaby.........make the smart choice.
Bye.
2006-09-22 03:20:27 · answer #5 · answered by cool_dude 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
r u girl or not ?
don't you know that girls r on Earth only to satisy men.
what r u gonna do by being a virgin ?
U r gonna have sex with ur husband if u r married right.
Ur gonna have sex with someone in ur life, why don't u have with the guy u like before getting married ?
See me, i like my lover. We are not married. We love each other for nearly 2 years.
We have sex (sleep with each other) at least once a weekend. I don't feel dumped. i like it. He likes it.
In the beginning, we never loved each other. We had regular fights.
Once during a fight, he took me to a dark room and raped me. I felt dumped.
But then he felt sorry and said he really loves me.
Only then we decided to have regular sex between us trying new sex positions everytime. I said my parents. they couldn't do anything and said we would be married on October 16 , 2006. And so it is.
So i suggest u to have sex with him as he is the guy u like vry much.
2006-09-22 07:46:27 · answer #6 · answered by Yashna 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Keep that nickel between ya knees like ya mamma told you if that's what your preference is . Don't let anyone take that from you until you are ready You really ain't miss in nothing lollipop.
Seriously make sure your ready and not just trying to be nice cause you want to fit in , this is a special part of women hood and should be with someone who really deserves to be with you in that manner .
So stay strong like Madea said CLINCK, CLINCKI
2006-09-22 03:23:21 · answer #7 · answered by nastassia h 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You rule, girl! Don't sleep with him and if he can't wait untill marriage then he isn't the one for you. Remember this old saying, "Why buy the milk if you can get it free?" Any guy that can't make the commitment and get married before sex isn't worth it. You are special for wanting to wait... find somebody that is special too.
Sex before marriage clouds the issues and weakens long term relationships. My first time was with my wife on our wedding night... nothing could be more worth waiting for...
2006-09-22 03:21:26 · answer #8 · answered by bolla 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stay a virgin! No guy worth having will continuously pressure a girl for sex. If all he wants is your stuff, dump him, and find someone who'll wait for the right time for both of you. Old geezer advice? Probably. Sound advice that you can live with? Absolutely!
2006-09-22 03:19:29 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him....what's the worst that can happen? He breaks up with you and you still have the virtue you want to keep and are no longer with a guy who doesn't respect your feelings. If you really want to remain a virgin, you should be with a guy who respects that and actually cares for you and not fulfilling a sexual desire. Stick to your guns and you will have no regrets...I wish I had.
2006-09-22 03:17:27 · answer #10 · answered by chrissy757 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋