im not sexually attracted to my girlfriend anymore, i do love her and love spending time with her, but im finding myself more and more attracted to other girls i fancy sexually, what should i do ?
2006-09-21 20:05:59 · 23 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
talk to ur girlfriend explain to her that the relationship has run its course.....deep down she will respect u more for telling her rather than going + cheating on her.....dont go on the pull the minute you's break up wait a while u dont want her getting all upset.....she will prob cry when you's break up, but tell her you's can still b good friens, but DO NOT go + visit her coz that way she will think she still has a chance....
good luck mate
x.niks.x
2006-09-21 22:53:33 · answer #1 · answered by lil niks 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you're not attracted to her anyone then you prob have to finish with her because its not fair on her or you. Even though you are attracted to other people do not do anything about this until you have finished with your girlfriend it will only break her heart even more and you said you still love her. Your relationship has obviously went more to a friendship rather than a sexual relationship.
2006-09-21 20:14:00 · answer #2 · answered by gemsaboyle 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-02-11 19:48:26 · answer #3 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to be straight forward with her and tell her how you feel. Think about it, if u truly love her...you shouldn't string her along. This way she will in time appreciate your honesty and know that you were not saying this to hurt her in anyway. The other thing that I have to say about this is that since you have been looking at other girls, becareful...cuz temptation is always around the corner and with alcohol where u can lose your inhibitions...there's a chance where you'll cheat on her and lose her forever.
2006-09-21 20:11:40 · answer #4 · answered by PuertoRico97 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that before you do anything you need to sit down and have a talk with your girlfriend. if it is a long relaionship then she will understand. Maybe she is feeling the same way and doesn't know how to approach the subject.
If you do want to do something with other girls at least have the decency to finish with your girlfriend first.
2006-09-21 22:25:35 · answer #5 · answered by Leah 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are pass the sexual attraction stage. Congratulations! this is a classic marrige problem... I wish I knew the answer. You have exhausted the sexual turn on in your relationship and what you can do is look out for new stimulation. When you have sex with someone new it gives you a boost of hormones, with the same person it will last weeks, then it's 'over.
2006-09-21 21:06:16 · answer #6 · answered by shortnotsilly 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're attracted to other girls because they're more attracted to you. This is because you're happy, confident, looking after yourself and not just out looking for a shag, all the things girls like and all the things your girl is making you. Leave her and the other girls leave. NOT saying cheat! That's a different question.
2006-09-21 21:02:13 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tough man, but get it from a woman - What you need to do is come clean with this woman - tell her the truth. She may not like it but shell respect you for it one day when she's gotten over you. You cant keep pretending for long dude its better she gets it from you now before you start cheating-it only becomes harder and messier.
Good luck!
2006-09-21 20:14:12 · answer #8 · answered by Bootilicious 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you find yourself becoming more and more attracted to other women you clearly don't love your girlfriend. Do the decent thing and end this charade now. Give her the opportunity to meet someone who will love and cherish her and who won't be fantasising about about bonking every woman he meets in the street. Shame on you
2006-09-21 21:26:19 · answer #9 · answered by trog 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋
be clear to yourself first why you get attracted to other girls when you say you love your girl friend... Ask your self truly whether you love her or you ever just friends now you wanna move ahead in life and more I think you need relationship only with sexy girls for sex only and on the other hand you wanna be loyal to your girl friend also...
2006-09-21 20:16:35 · answer #10 · answered by Fresh Dew 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋